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Calm Your Mind and Open Your Soul

Calm Your Mind and Open Your Soul

People always look for approval. From birth on, we have learned to do things for others. Be quiet to get candy, do homework to be able to watch TV or play games. Finish your work to go on vacation. There is always a reason for doing something in order to get something out of it. There are always some conditions we have to deal with, in order to become accepted by others and step by step we learned what to do to please others, we became great with guessing what others think, do or feel, all just to make ourselves fit in.

It’s no surprise why it is easier to speak about others or to overthink if we did something right. Because of this, we have forgotten who we really are.

We’ve lost ourselves

We should have we been taught to listen to ourselves, to understand our feelings and reactions, and to change them because of ourselves, not because of others. In order to learn how to give unconditional love to others, first we have to give it to ourselves.

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Usually you know what others think about you, how they see you, and you do your best to stay the way they want you to be in order to not lose their approval. But without noticing you lose yourself as a whole.

We lose the true meaning of life: to learn love, faith, harmony, patience, kindness, and honesty. We have forgotten that success will come and life will be at its best, when we change our values and take a step out of our comfort zone. Stop asking for love and appreciation from others and start giving to yourself.

The outer world has become more important then the inner feelings.

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If the mind wins

You drown in your pain and sorrow when life turns out differently as you imagined. When you weren’t given what your mind and soul want and need. When life takes away everything that is important to you. And all that is left is yourself.

You become like everyone else, you try to build your life on others, becoming resentful and blaming the world, feeling like it has turned its back on you, laughing at your pain.

Your mind is happy, because it managed to trick you and take you away from true love, which can truly fulfill you, which can give all that you have always looked for.

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You feel like living in a circle, with no exit or hope. It becomes smaller and smaller with time, taking away your energy and faith, leaving you feeling all alone.

An opportunity to find love

But what you have to do now is to truly understand and realize that life itself shows you that you are missing love and gives you an opportunity to create it.

Whatever makes you sad or feel pain, it is life’s way of showing you, that you have got lost in all your needs and the only answer is to start looking for the way back to what you really want.

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You may ask, what is faith, what is love? You will feel anger and dissapointment and won’t accept yourself and your life. But everything is simple. Be where you are, embrace who you are and what is happening in each moment. It will give you strength, freedom and a way to change yourself. And while changing, you will notice, that life is finally what you have dreamed about.

Don’t question it, start believing. Don’t get lost in your darkness, but find the light.

Listen to your soul

There is always a fight between your mind and soul. The mind keeps you doubting and worrying, it leads you to the road of pain and confusion. But the soul is quietly whispering and embracing you with kindness and love. It will take you out of anger, confusion and pain into divine fullfilment.

It is a true value to spend each moment feeling it with you soul, and not to let your mind judge, compare or question. It is a way to live in harmony and prosperity. It is the only way out of misery and sorrow. It will lighten the darkest parts of your being. Accept, acknowledge and create yourself in honesty.

Featured photo credit: NatalieCruze2327 via flickr.com

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

How to Flow Your Way to a More Productive Life

How to Flow Your Way to a More Productive Life

Ebb and flow. Contraction and expansion. Highs and lows. It’s all about the cycles of life.

The entire course of our life follows this up and down pattern of more and then less. Our days flow this way, each following a pattern of more energy, then less energy, more creativity and periods of greater focus bookended by moments of low energy when we cringe at the thought of one more meeting, one more call, one more sentence.

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The key is in understanding how to use the cycles of ebb and flow to our advantage. The ability to harness these fluctuations, understand how they affect our productivity and mood and then apply that knowledge as a tool to improve our lives is a valuable strategy that few individuals or corporations have mastered.

Here are a few simple steps to start using this strategy today:

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Review Your Past Flow

Take just a few minutes to look back at how your days and weeks have been unfolding. What time of the day are you the most focused? Do you prefer to be more social at certain times of the day? Do you have difficulty concentrating after lunch or are you energized? Are there days when you can’t seem to sit still at your desk and others when you could work on the same project for hours?

Do you see a pattern starting to emerge? Eventually you will discover a sort of map or schedule that charts your individual productivity levels during a given day or week.  That’s the first step. You’ll use this information to plan your days going forward.

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Schedule According to Your Flow Pattern

Look at the types of things you do each day…each week. What can you move around so that it’s a better fit for you? Can you suggest to your team that you schedule meetings for late morning if you can’t stand to be social first thing? Can you schedule detailed project work or highly creative tasks, like writing or designing when you are best able to focus? How about making sales calls or client meetings on days when you are the most social and leaving billing or reports until another time when you are able to close your door and do repetitive tasks.

Keep in mind that everyone is different and some things are out of our control. Do what you can. You might be surprised at just how flexible clients and managers can be when they understand that improving your productivity will result in better outcomes for them.

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Account for Big Picture Fluctuations

Look at the bigger picture. Consider what happens during different months or times during the year. Think about what is going on in the other parts of your life. When is the best time for you to take on a new project, role or responsibility? Take into account other commitments that zap your energy. Do you have a sick parent, a spouse who travels all the time or young children who demand all of your available time and energy?

We all know people who ignore all of this advice and yet seem to prosper and achieve wonderful success anyway, but they are usually the exception, not the rule. For most of us, this habitual tendency to force our bodies and our brains into patterns of working that undermine our productivity result in achieving less than desired results and adding more stress to our already overburdened lives.

Why not follow the ebb and flow of your life instead of fighting against it?

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