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Calm Your Mind and Open Your Soul

Calm Your Mind and Open Your Soul

People always look for approval. From birth on, we have learned to do things for others. Be quiet to get candy, do homework to be able to watch TV or play games. Finish your work to go on vacation. There is always a reason for doing something in order to get something out of it. There are always some conditions we have to deal with, in order to become accepted by others and step by step we learned what to do to please others, we became great with guessing what others think, do or feel, all just to make ourselves fit in.

It’s no surprise why it is easier to speak about others or to overthink if we did something right. Because of this, we have forgotten who we really are.

We’ve lost ourselves

We should have we been taught to listen to ourselves, to understand our feelings and reactions, and to change them because of ourselves, not because of others. In order to learn how to give unconditional love to others, first we have to give it to ourselves.

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Usually you know what others think about you, how they see you, and you do your best to stay the way they want you to be in order to not lose their approval. But without noticing you lose yourself as a whole.

We lose the true meaning of life: to learn love, faith, harmony, patience, kindness, and honesty. We have forgotten that success will come and life will be at its best, when we change our values and take a step out of our comfort zone. Stop asking for love and appreciation from others and start giving to yourself.

The outer world has become more important then the inner feelings.

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If the mind wins

You drown in your pain and sorrow when life turns out differently as you imagined. When you weren’t given what your mind and soul want and need. When life takes away everything that is important to you. And all that is left is yourself.

You become like everyone else, you try to build your life on others, becoming resentful and blaming the world, feeling like it has turned its back on you, laughing at your pain.

Your mind is happy, because it managed to trick you and take you away from true love, which can truly fulfill you, which can give all that you have always looked for.

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You feel like living in a circle, with no exit or hope. It becomes smaller and smaller with time, taking away your energy and faith, leaving you feeling all alone.

An opportunity to find love

But what you have to do now is to truly understand and realize that life itself shows you that you are missing love and gives you an opportunity to create it.

Whatever makes you sad or feel pain, it is life’s way of showing you, that you have got lost in all your needs and the only answer is to start looking for the way back to what you really want.

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You may ask, what is faith, what is love? You will feel anger and dissapointment and won’t accept yourself and your life. But everything is simple. Be where you are, embrace who you are and what is happening in each moment. It will give you strength, freedom and a way to change yourself. And while changing, you will notice, that life is finally what you have dreamed about.

Don’t question it, start believing. Don’t get lost in your darkness, but find the light.

Listen to your soul

There is always a fight between your mind and soul. The mind keeps you doubting and worrying, it leads you to the road of pain and confusion. But the soul is quietly whispering and embracing you with kindness and love. It will take you out of anger, confusion and pain into divine fullfilment.

It is a true value to spend each moment feeling it with you soul, and not to let your mind judge, compare or question. It is a way to live in harmony and prosperity. It is the only way out of misery and sorrow. It will lighten the darkest parts of your being. Accept, acknowledge and create yourself in honesty.

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Last Updated on November 5, 2020

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. A rut can manifest as a productivity vacuum and be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. Is it possible to learn how to get out of a rut?

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, or a student, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on Small Tasks

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks that have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate positive momentum, which I bring forward to my work.

If you have a large long-term goal you can’t wait to get started on, break it down into smaller objectives first. This will help each piece feel manageable and help you feel like you’re moving closer to your goal.

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2. Take a Break From Your Work Desk

When you want to learn how to get out of a rut, get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the bathroom, walk around the office, or go out and get a snack. According to research, your productivity is best when you work for 50 minutes to an hour and then take a 15-20 minute break[1].

Your mind may be too bogged down and will need some airing. By walking away from your computer, you may create extra space for new ideas that were hiding behind high stress levels.

3. Upgrade Yourself

Take the down time to upgrade your knowledge and skills. Go to a seminar, read up on a subject of interest, or start learning a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college[2]. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a Friend

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while. Relying on a support system is a great way to work on self-care when you’re learning how to get out of a rut.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget About Trying to Be Perfect

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies. Perfectionism can lead you to fear failure, which can ultimate hinder you even more if you’re trying to find motivation to work on something new.

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If you allow your perfectionism to fade, soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come, and then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

Learn more about How Not to Let Perfectionism Secretly Screw You Up.

6. Paint a Vision to Work Towards

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the ultimate goal or vision you have for your life?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action. You can use the power of visualization or even create a vision board if you like to have something to physically remind you of your goals.

7. Read a Book (or Blog)

The things we read are like food for our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great material.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. You can also stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs and follow writers who inspire and motivate you. Find something that interests you and start reading.

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8. Have a Quick Nap

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep[3].

Try a nap if you want to get out of a rut

    One Harvard study found that “whether they took long naps or short naps, participants showed significant improvement on three of the four tests in the study’s cognitive-assessment battery”[4].

    9. Remember Why You Are Doing This

    Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

    What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall your inspiration, and perhaps even journal about it to make it feel more tangible.

    10. Find Some Competition

    When we are learning how to get out of a rut, there’s nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

    Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, and networking conventions can all inspire you to get a move on. However, don’t let this throw you back into your perfectionist tendencies or low self-esteem.

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    11. Go Exercise

    Since you are not making headway at work, you might as well spend the time getting into shape and increasing dopamine levels. Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, or whatever type of exercise helps you start to feel better.

    As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

    If you need ideas for a quick workout, check out the video below:

    12. Take a Few Vacation Days

    If you are stuck in a rut, it’s usually a sign that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

    Beyond the quick tips above, arrange one or two days to take off from work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax, do your favorite activities, and spend time with family members. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

    Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest.

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