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Calm Your Mind and Open Your Soul

Calm Your Mind and Open Your Soul

People always look for approval. From birth on, we have learned to do things for others. Be quiet to get candy, do homework to be able to watch TV or play games. Finish your work to go on vacation. There is always a reason for doing something in order to get something out of it. There are always some conditions we have to deal with, in order to become accepted by others and step by step we learned what to do to please others, we became great with guessing what others think, do or feel, all just to make ourselves fit in.

It’s no surprise why it is easier to speak about others or to overthink if we did something right. Because of this, we have forgotten who we really are.

We’ve lost ourselves

We should have we been taught to listen to ourselves, to understand our feelings and reactions, and to change them because of ourselves, not because of others. In order to learn how to give unconditional love to others, first we have to give it to ourselves.

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Usually you know what others think about you, how they see you, and you do your best to stay the way they want you to be in order to not lose their approval. But without noticing you lose yourself as a whole.

We lose the true meaning of life: to learn love, faith, harmony, patience, kindness, and honesty. We have forgotten that success will come and life will be at its best, when we change our values and take a step out of our comfort zone. Stop asking for love and appreciation from others and start giving to yourself.

The outer world has become more important then the inner feelings.

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If the mind wins

You drown in your pain and sorrow when life turns out differently as you imagined. When you weren’t given what your mind and soul want and need. When life takes away everything that is important to you. And all that is left is yourself.

You become like everyone else, you try to build your life on others, becoming resentful and blaming the world, feeling like it has turned its back on you, laughing at your pain.

Your mind is happy, because it managed to trick you and take you away from true love, which can truly fulfill you, which can give all that you have always looked for.

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You feel like living in a circle, with no exit or hope. It becomes smaller and smaller with time, taking away your energy and faith, leaving you feeling all alone.

An opportunity to find love

But what you have to do now is to truly understand and realize that life itself shows you that you are missing love and gives you an opportunity to create it.

Whatever makes you sad or feel pain, it is life’s way of showing you, that you have got lost in all your needs and the only answer is to start looking for the way back to what you really want.

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You may ask, what is faith, what is love? You will feel anger and dissapointment and won’t accept yourself and your life. But everything is simple. Be where you are, embrace who you are and what is happening in each moment. It will give you strength, freedom and a way to change yourself. And while changing, you will notice, that life is finally what you have dreamed about.

Don’t question it, start believing. Don’t get lost in your darkness, but find the light.

Listen to your soul

There is always a fight between your mind and soul. The mind keeps you doubting and worrying, it leads you to the road of pain and confusion. But the soul is quietly whispering and embracing you with kindness and love. It will take you out of anger, confusion and pain into divine fullfilment.

It is a true value to spend each moment feeling it with you soul, and not to let your mind judge, compare or question. It is a way to live in harmony and prosperity. It is the only way out of misery and sorrow. It will lighten the darkest parts of your being. Accept, acknowledge and create yourself in honesty.

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Last Updated on February 15, 2019

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

In Personal Development-speak, we are always talking about goals, outcomes, success, desires and dreams. In other words, all the stuff we want to do, achieve and create in our world.

And while it’s important for us to know what we want to achieve (our goal), it’s also important for us to understand why we want to achieve it; the reason behind the goal or some would say, our real goal.

Why is goal setting important?

1. Your needs and desire will be fulfilled.

Sometimes when we explore our “why”, (why we want to achieve a certain thing) we realize that our “what” (our goal) might not actually deliver us the thing (feeling, emotion, internal state) we’re really seeking.

For example, the person who has a goal to lose weight in the belief that weight loss will bring them happiness, security, fulfillment, attention, popularity and the partner of their dreams. In this instance, their “what” is weight-loss and their “why” is happiness (etc.) and a partner.

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Six months later, they have lost the weight (achieved their goal) but as is often the case, they’re not happier, not more secure, not more confident, not more fulfilled and in keeping with their miserable state, they have failed to attract their dream partner.

After all, who wants to be with someone who’s miserable? They achieved their practical goal but still failed to have their needs met.

So they set a goal to lose another ten pounds. And then another. And maybe just ten more. With the destructive and erroneous belief that if they can get thin enough, they’ll find their own personal nirvana. And we all know how that story ends.

2. You’ll find out what truly motivates you

The important thing in the process of constructing our best life is not necessarily what goals we set (what we think we want) but what motivates us towards those goals (what we really want).

The sooner we begin to explore, identify and understand what motivates us towards certain achievements, acquisitions or outcomes (that is, we begin moving towards greater consciousness and self awareness), the sooner we will make better decisions for our life, set more intelligent (and dare I say, enlightened) goals and experience more fulfilment and less frustration.

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We all know people who have achieved what they set out to, only to end up in the same place or worse (emotionally, psychologically, sociologically) because what they were chasing wasn’t really what they were needing.

What we think we want will rarely provide us with what we actually need.

3. Your state of mind will be a lot healthier

We all set specific goals to achieve/acquire certain things (a job, a car, a partner, a better body, a bank balance, a title, a victory) because at some level, most of us believe (consciously or not) that the achievement of those goals will bring us what we really seek; joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

Of course, setting practical, material and financial goals is an intelligent thing to do considering the world we live in and how that world works.

But setting goals with an expectation that the achievement of certain things in our external, physical world will automatically create an internal state of peace, contentment, joy and total happiness is an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset to inhabit.

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What you truly want and need

Sometimes we need to look beyond the obvious (superficial) goals to discover and secure what we really want.

Sadly, we live in a collective mindset which teaches that the prettiest and the wealthiest are the most successful.

Some self-help frauds even teach this message. If you’re rich or pretty, you’re happy. If you’re both, you’re very happy. Pretty isn’t what we really want; it’s what we believe pretty will bring us. Same goes with money.

When we cut through the hype, the jargon and the self-help mumbo jumbo, we all have the same basic goals, desires and needs:

Joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

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Nobody needs a mansion or a sport’s car but we all need love.

Nobody needs massive pecs, six percent body-fat, a face lift or bigger breasts but we all need connection, acceptance and understanding.

Nobody needs to be famous but we all need peace, calm, balance and happiness.

The problem is, we live in a culture which teaches that one equals the other. If only we lived in a culture which taught that real success is far more about what’s happening in our internal environment, than our external one.

It’s a commonly-held belief that we’re all very different and we all have different goals — whether short term or long term goals. But in many ways we’re not, and we don’t; we all want essentially the same things.

Now all you have to do is see past the fraud and deception and find the right path.

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