People always look for approval. From birth on, we have learned to do things for others. Be quiet to get candy, do homework to be able to watch TV or play games. Finish your work to go on vacation. There is always a reason for doing something in order to get something out of it. There are always some conditions we have to deal with, in order to become accepted by others and step by step we learned what to do to please others, we became great with guessing what others think, do or feel, all just to make ourselves fit in.
It’s no surprise why it is easier to speak about others or to overthink if we did something right. Because of this, we have forgotten who we really are.
We’ve lost ourselves
We should have we been taught to listen to ourselves, to understand our feelings and reactions, and to change them because of ourselves, not because of others. In order to learn how to give unconditional love to others, first we have to give it to ourselves.
Usually you know what others think about you, how they see you, and you do your best to stay the way they want you to be in order to not lose their approval. But without noticing you lose yourself as a whole.
We lose the true meaning of life: to learn love, faith, harmony, patience, kindness, and honesty. We have forgotten that success will come and life will be at its best, when we change our values and take a step out of our comfort zone. Stop asking for love and appreciation from others and start giving to yourself.
The outer world has become more important then the inner feelings.
If the mind wins
You drown in your pain and sorrow when life turns out differently as you imagined. When you weren’t given what your mind and soul want and need. When life takes away everything that is important to you. And all that is left is yourself.
You become like everyone else, you try to build your life on others, becoming resentful and blaming the world, feeling like it has turned its back on you, laughing at your pain.
Your mind is happy, because it managed to trick you and take you away from true love, which can truly fulfill you, which can give all that you have always looked for.
You feel like living in a circle, with no exit or hope. It becomes smaller and smaller with time, taking away your energy and faith, leaving you feeling all alone.
An opportunity to find love
But what you have to do now is to truly understand and realize that life itself shows you that you are missing love and gives you an opportunity to create it.
Whatever makes you sad or feel pain, it is life’s way of showing you, that you have got lost in all your needs and the only answer is to start looking for the way back to what you really want.
You may ask, what is faith, what is love? You will feel anger and dissapointment and won’t accept yourself and your life. But everything is simple. Be where you are, embrace who you are and what is happening in each moment. It will give you strength, freedom and a way to change yourself. And while changing, you will notice, that life is finally what you have dreamed about.
Don’t question it, start believing. Don’t get lost in your darkness, but find the light.
Listen to your soul
There is always a fight between your mind and soul. The mind keeps you doubting and worrying, it leads you to the road of pain and confusion. But the soul is quietly whispering and embracing you with kindness and love. It will take you out of anger, confusion and pain into divine fullfilment.
It is a true value to spend each moment feeling it with you soul, and not to let your mind judge, compare or question. It is a way to live in harmony and prosperity. It is the only way out of misery and sorrow. It will lighten the darkest parts of your being. Accept, acknowledge and create yourself in honesty.
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