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9 Great Last Minute Mother’s Day Gifts

9 Great Last Minute Mother’s Day Gifts

    There’s nothing like waking up the day before Mother’s Day 2012 not having any clue what you are going to get for the lady that put up with you for so many years. It’s a little too late to order anything online but that doesn’t mean you can’t find something awesome for your Mom on her special day.

    Here are 10 last minute Mother’s Day gifts that are both thoughtful and easy to procure at a moment’s notice.

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    Surprise breakfast (or lunch or dinner)

    You can really show your mom that you care by cooking her a meal and bringing it to her for a surprise breakfast, lunch, or dinner. Cooking her one of her favorite foods is the best way to get her Mother’s Day started on the right foot. Oh, and if you are a terrible cook, then may you just want to buy and bring her some food instead.

    Flowers (duh)

    While flowers aren’t  the most “creative” type of Mother’s Day gift, the are one of the most popular. You can go all out and get a huge pre-made arrangement with all of your Mom’s favorite flowers. Or you can hit a store that sells single flowers where you can create your own bouquet. This will put a little “uniqueness” in a somewhat non-unique gift. And don’t forget the chocolates.

    Gift certificate for traveling spa treatement

    It may be a tad late for this one, but if you have a local spa that is open on Saturday give them a call and see if they do home visits. If so, get a gift certificate for your mom for a home spa day so she can have herself pampered. A good “side-gift” with this one is some candles and bath gels or even some of her favorite perfume.

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    Bake

    All mothers like sweets and pastries. Ok. Everybody likes sweets and pastries. So, look up some recipes online, write down some ingredients, go to the store and procure them, and have a little baking day before Mother’s Day. Make her favorite cookies, cake, or pie. This is a good gift because you are putting some of your time and thought into it.

    Create a Mother’s Day mix

    I remember growing up and listening to a lot of the music that my mom liked. It was quite an eclectic mix. Show her you know what she likes by buying her some of her favorite music on the Amazon MP3 store or iTunes and make her a mixed CD. Or, if you want to get real crazy, go grab an iPod Nano and fill it up with all of her favorite music. This works really well for a “non-techy” kind of mom who may not know exactly how to load up all of her songs to an MP3 player.

    Clean her living space

    I personally can’t stand cleaning, so if I cleaned my Mom’s house for her it would be probably one of the most astounding things she has ever seen. Ever. Instead of just doing regular cleaning which gets done on a regular basis, why don’t you do some of the more “hardcore cleaning” like clearing out a basement or attic, cleaning out gutters, “summerizing” the outside of her house, or even rearranging parts of her house that she has wanted to have done for years.

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    Car maintenance

    If there is anything that needs done to your mom’s car like an oil change, brakes, tires, inspection, etc. then set her up an appointment with her local garage and foot the bill. As a side bonus you could fill her gas tank and get the car detailed inside and out or even do it yourself.

    Clean up her PC or teach her some tech

    If your mom is like mine she knows just enough about her computer to be dangerous. Take a couple of hours on Mother’s Day to “tune-up” her PC or Mac. Also, if your mom has a ton of questions about technology you could give her a made up “coupon” for your time to show her how to use a certain application or even a new device.

    Write for her

    If you are a writer then put your talents to good use on Mother’s Day by writing your mom something heartfelt, funny, and sincere. Instead of the normal “thank you and I love you” inside of her mandatory Mother’s Day card, get some decent stationary and truly write for her. Let her know how much you care about her and how important she is in your life. Write about some of your memories growing up with her. People love to be remiscent, and writing something to bring that out can be one of the best Mother’s Day gifts of all.

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    Any other ideas for last minute Mother’s Day gifts from all you sons and daugters out there? If so, please throw them in the comments to help each other out!

    (Photo credit: Pink daisy, old stylized. Still life on white via Shutterstock)

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    How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

    How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

    We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

    We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

    So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

    Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

    What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

    Boundaries are limits

    —they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

    Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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    Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

    Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

    Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

    How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

    Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

    1. Self-Awareness Comes First

    Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

    You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

    To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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    You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

    • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
    • When do you feel disrespected?
    • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
    • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
    • When do you want to be alone?
    • How much space do you need?

    You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

    2. Clear Communication Is Essential

    Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

    Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

    3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

    Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

    That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

    Sample language:

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    • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
    • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
    • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
    • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
    • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
    • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
    • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

    Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

    4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

    Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

    Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

    Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

    We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

    It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

    It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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    Final Thoughts

    Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

    Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

    Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

    The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

    Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

    Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

    They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

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