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7 Steps To Planning A Honeymoon To Remember

7 Steps To Planning A Honeymoon To Remember

Weddings are stressful. Between mingling with guests, the vast array of anything that can go wrong and usually does, the planning, the execution, and the expectations newlyweds are often sent collapsing into bed on their wedding night without so much as taking off their shoes! Your honeymoon should be a time to rest and relax with your new spouse, not “another thing” to check off a list. These 7 steps to planning a honeymoon to remember can make the time you spend really special, not stressful!

1. Work out your budget.

Even with financial wedding gifts, a honeymoon generally costs at least some money. Figure out what you can comfortably afford to spend and how far that money will take you. This may eliminate some “dream honeymoon” ideas, but if you’re really with the right person, it won’t matter if you’re hiding out at the local “no-tell motel” or hanging on a Jamaican beach.

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2. How much do you really want to do?

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    After the stress and excitement of the wedding, it’s probably time to slow down a little. Some people like to be constantly on the go, moving from thing to thing to thing. Others enjoy taking their time and enjoying what’s out there. Pick your honeymoon plans in such a way that you get to do things you’ll both enjoy, without needing a vacation from your vacation!

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    3. Maximize vacation time, not travel time.

    As a rule of thumb, your travel time to and from should not make up more than 10% of your total honeymoon. This includes travel time to and from the airport, checking and picking up luggage, security, and actual travel time. The exception to this is if you’re driving across the country on a tour. In this case, your lodging time probably shouldn’t make up more than around a third of your total vacation. Plan your travel time so that you have plenty of vacation without spending an undue amount of time traveling and checking in.

    4. Check on the weather frequently.

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      A honeymoon on a tropical island can be romantic…but that hurricane building off the coast could blow your honeymoon right out of the water! Make sure the weather and average climate for the time of year you’re considering your honeymoon are in step with what you want to do. Laying on a beach is impractical in a typhoon, but skiing is impossible when the ambient temperature is over 90!

      5. Factor in time off work.

      Chances are you and your spouse are both employed, so be sure to take into account the time off you’ll need for the wedding and the honeymoon, as well as some extra when you get back home. People disagree on what the “ideal” acclimation time is after a wedding, but one extra day for every three days of wedding prep and honeymoon time is usually a pretty solid rule. This gives you time to get used to life as husband and wife and calm down from the frenzy of activity and travel before you have to get back to the grind.

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      6. Choose your attire appropriately.

      Many places give extra shrift to honeymooners, bending or breaking dress codes to accommodate the newlyweds. Depending on your budget and where you are, this may or may not be possible. Be sure to take at least two changes of casual clothing, one nice outfit, and for guys, a tie or a banded-collar shirt for dining out. This is in addition to bathing suits, lingerie, and the other “usual suspects” one would expect to take on a honeymoon.

      7. Remember why you’re there.

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        A honeymoon is time for you and your spouse to celebrate your love and the solemnization of your union. Don’t pack your schedule so full that you don’t see each other the whole time. This will be a big enough problem during the wedding. (Trust me on this, if you’ve never had one before.) Be sure to budget your time and activities to get the most of each others’ love and company while you can, before real life intrudes again and you find yourselves back in the real world. Take time to stargaze, walk on the beach or in the mountains, and make love while you have the time to devote exclusively to each other.

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        Last Updated on January 3, 2020

        The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

        The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

        Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

        The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

        1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

        Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

         I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

        To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

        And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

         2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

        Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

        3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

        Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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        4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

        The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

        5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

        Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

        6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

        Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

        7. Positive people smile a lot!

        When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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        8. People who are positive are great communicators.

        They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

        9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

        One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

        10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

        Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

        How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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        I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

        Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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