“Winning is like shaving—you do it every day or you wind up looking like a bum.” – Jack Kemp
It’s hard for me to imagine a life-changing event more random than shaving. I shaved with an electric razor for 30-plus years and never much thought about it. Buzz, buzz, zip, zip, done in two minutes. Yeah, I had a five o’clock shadow at two, but I thought that was “normal.” Now, I spend a luxurious 10–15 minutes with warm, fragrant lather and shave with a single blade razor that works just as well (in some ways better) as a multi-blade cartridge razor. And my blades cost me under 25 cents, versus almost $4 for a modern cartridge refill. It’s almost meditative in nature. Let me explain.
Shaving A Life
In the mid ’90s I began a serious relationship with a special young lady. One thing she absolutely adored was the feeling of my face just after it was freshly shaven. Unfortunately, she could only enjoy caressing my face for a few hours before it would get a bit “sandpapery” again.Advertising
A couple of years after my wonderful young lady and I were married, we decided to go to Las Vegas for our wedding anniversary. One morning while we were there, she came to me with a gleam in her eye and said, “Don’t shave today, I have a special anniversary present for you.” That afternoon she took me to The Art of Shaving (in Mandalay Place) and had them give me a barber shave as an anniversary gift. It was a little freaky at first—I mean, here’s this stranger hovering over me with a straight-razor—but after a while it became strangely relaxing and I enjoyed it. The barber finished and pulled off the smock with a flourish. I felt my face…
My face was insanely soft and smooth. I’d never felt anything like it before. My wife had a sparkle in her eye and a huge smile on her face as she ran a finger along my jawline, “Ohhh, Mama likes!” I didn’t need to shave again for two days, and I was almost continuously touching my face in amazement: I was sold on this way of shaving.Advertising
Would you like to change shaving from an annoying (even painful) chore to a pleasant diversion? There’s a bit of a learning curve—after all, you’re learning a new skill, like riding a bicycle or playing a musical instrument—but it is not particularly difficult:
Prepare the area before you shave with lots of warm water and a gentle facial soap. No deodorant or body bars! Doctors tell me it can take up to three minutes to fully hydrate the skin for shaving: take the time and leave the skin wet.
No canned shaving cream! The propellants actually dry out the skin and then artificial lubricants have to be added to try to compensate. Use a cream or gel out of a squeeze tube. Or better yet, a lather soap or cream that you apply with a shaving brush: they come in many scents that can really enhance the shave experience!
Yes, use a shaving brush. They may seem old fashioned or foppish, but they are excellent for both gently exfoliating the skin—cleaning out the tiny bits of debris from around each stubble of hair—and spreading the shave lather evenly and thoroughly. It’s better than massaging the lather in with the fingers, believe me!
Use a razor with as few blades as necessary to get the job done. A single blade can actually work better than a multi-blade cartridge for a lot of people—any more and you are just inviting razor burn or irritation.
Initially shave in the direction that the hair grows. It’s worth a careful look before you start: the hair “grain” can change directions. Not close enough? Re-lather and shave across the grain (90 degrees from the grain). Still not close enough? Re-lather and shave across the grain from the opposite direction. Want to try for “smooth as a baby’s butt?” Re-lather and shave against the grain (caution: some people just can’t do this). The idea here is to reduce the stubble in stages or passes instead trying to get rid of it all at once. Believe it or not shaving this way is actually less prone to irritation. Be sure to use the least possible pressure on the razor—don’t press down!
After you’re finished shaving rinse thoroughly with warm water. This will remove any lather residue that could cause plugged up pores (little white pimple-looking things) and ingrown hairs. Then, rinse with cool water and apply an aftershave (one that does not have alcohol as a primary ingredient) to calm and protect the skin.
I challenge you to give these techniques a try and comment below. You may be surprised at the results!
Last Updated on November 12, 2020
Why You’re Feeling Tired All the Time (and What to Do About It)
If you find that you’re feeling tired all the time, it’s important to understand that it’s a common problem for many. With all of the demands of daily life, being tired seems to be the new baseline. In fact, two-fifths of Americans are tired most of the week.
If you’re tired of feeling exhausted, then I’ve got some great news for you. New research is helping us gain critical insights into the underlying causes of feeling tired all the time.
In this article, we’ll discuss the latest reasons why you’re so tired and practical steps you can take to finally get to the bottom of your fatigue and feel rested.
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What Happens When You’re Too Tired
If you sleep just two hours less than the normal eight hours, you could be as impaired as someone who has consumed up to three beers. And you’ve probably experienced the impact yourself.
Here are some common examples of what happens when you’re feeling tired:
- Trouble focusing because memory and learning functions may be impaired.
- Experience mood swings and an inability to differentiate between what’s important and what’s not.
- Dark circles under your eyes and/or your skin make look dull and lackluster in the short term and over time your skin may get wrinkles and show signs of aging because your body didn’t have time to remove toxins during sleep.
- Finding it more difficult to exercise.
- Immune system may weaken, causing you to pick up infections more easily.
- Overeating because not getting enough sleep activates the body’s endocannabinoids, even when you’re not hungry.
- Metabolism slows down, so what you eat is more likely to be stored as belly fat.
Why Are You Feeling Tired All the Time?
Leading experts are starting to recognize that there are three primary reasons people feel tired on a regular basis: sleep deprivation, fatigue, and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS).
Here’s a quick overview of each common cause of fatigue and feeling tired all of the time:
- Tiredness occurs from sleep deprivation when you don’t get high-quality sleep consistently. It typically can be solved by changing your routine and getting enough deep, restorative sleep.
- Fatigue occurs from prolonged sleeplessness, which could be triggered by numerous health problems, such as mental health issues, long-term illness, fibromyalgia, obesity, sleep apnea, or stress. It typically can be improved by changing your lifestyle and using sleep aids or treatments, if recommended by your physician.
- Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) is a medical condition also known as Myalgic Encephalomyelitis that occurs from persistent exhaustion that doesn’t go away with sleep.
The exact cause of CFS is not known, but it may be due to problems with the immune system, a bacterial infection, a hormone imbalance, or emotional trauma. It typically involves working with a doctor to rule out other illnesses before diagnosing and treating CFS.
Always consult a physician to get a personal diagnosis about why you are feeling tired, especially if it is a severe condition.
You can learn more about some causes of fatigue in this video:
Feeling Tired Vs Being Fatigued
If lack of quality sleep doesn’t seem to be the root cause for you, then it’s time to explore fatigue as the reason you are frequently feeling tired.
Until recently, tiredness and fatigue were thought to be interchangeable. Leading experts now realize that tiredness and fatigue are different.
Tiredness is primarily about lack of sleep. However, fatigue is a perceived feeling of being tired that is much more likely to occur in people who have depression, anxiety, or emotional stress and/or are overweight and physically inactive.
Symptoms of fatigue include:
- Difficulty concentrating
- Low stamina
- Difficulty sleeping
- Low motivation
These symptoms may sound similar to those of tiredness, but they usually last longer and are more intense.
Unfortunately, there is no definitive reason why fatigue occurs because it can be a symptom of an emotional or physical illness. However, there are still a number of steps you can take to reduce difficult symptoms by making a few simple lifestyle changes.
How Much Sleep Is Enough?
The number one reason you may feel tired is because of sleep deprivation, which means you are not getting enough high-quality sleep.
Research suggests that most adults need 7 to 9 hours of high-quality, uninterrupted sleep per night. If you’re sleep deprived, the amount of sleep you need increases.
The key to quality sleep is being able to get long, uninterrupted sleep cycles throughout the night. It typically takes 90 minutes for you to reach a state of deep REM sleep where your body’s healing crew goes to work.
Ideally, you want to get at least 3 to 4 deep REM sleep cycles in per night. That’s why it’s so important to stay asleep for 7 or more hours.
Research also shows that people who think they can get by on less sleep don’t perform as well as people who get at least seven hours of sleep a night
If you are not getting 7 hours of high-quality sleep regularly, then sleep deprivation is the most likely reason you feel tired all the time. That is actually good news because sleep deprivation is much simpler and easier to address than the other root causes.
It’s also a good idea to rule out sleep deprivation as the reason why you are tired before moving on to the other possibilities, such as fatigue or Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, which may require a doctor for diagnosis and treatment.
4 Simple Changes to Reduce Fatigue
Personally, I’m a big believer in upgrading your lifestyle to uplift your life. I overcame chronic stress and exhaustion by making these four changes to my lifestyle:
- Eating healthy, home-cooked meals versus microwaving processed foods or eating out
- Exercising regularly
- Using stressbusters
- Creating a bedtime routine to sleep better
After I made the 4 simple changes in my lifestyle, I no longer felt exhausted all of the time.
I was so excited that I wanted to help others replace stress and exhaustion with rest and well-being, too. That’s why I became a Certified Holistic Wellness Coach through the Dr. Sears Wellness Institute.
Interestingly enough, I discovered that Dr. Sears recommends a somewhat similar L.E.A.N. lifestyle:
- L is for Lifestyle and means living healthy, including getting enough sleep.
- E is for Exercise and means getting at least 20 minutes of physical activity a day, ideally for six days a week.
- A is for Attitude and means thinking positive and reducing stress whenever possible.
- N is for Nutrition and means emphasizing a right-fat diet, not a low-fat diet.
The L.E.A.N. lifestyle is a scientifically-proven way to reduce fatigue, get to the optimal weight, and to achieve overall wellness.
Getting enough high-quality sleep every day is the surefire way to help you feel less fatigued, more rested, and better overall.
In fact, if you aren’t getting enough sleep, your body isn’t getting the time it needs to repair itself; meaning that if you are suffering from an illness, it’s far more likely to linger. In fact, long-term sleep deprivation has been linked to an increase in Alzheimer’s later in life.
As unlikely as it sounds, though, fatigue can sometimes make it difficult to sleep. That’s why I’d recommend taking a look at your bedtime routine before you go to bed and optimize it based on sleep best practices.
Here are 3 quick and easy tips for creating a pro-sleep bedtime routine:
Many of us try to unwind by watching TV or doing something on an iPhone or tablet. However, tech can affect your melatonin production due to the blue light that they emit, fooling your body into thinking it’s still daytime. This won’t help you stop feeling tired all the time.
Try to turn off all tech one hour before bed and create a tech-free zone in your bedroom.
Use the time before bed to do something you find relaxing such as reading a book, listening to soothing music, meditating, or taking an Epsom salt bath.
3. Get Comfortable
Ensure your bed is comfortable and your room is set up for sleep.
Make sure you room is cool. 60-68 degrees is the ideal temperature for most people to sleep. Also, it’s ideal if your bedroom is dark and there is no noise.
Finally, make sure everything is handled (e.g., laying out tomorrow’s clothes) before you get into your nice, comfy bed. If your mind is still active, write a to-do list to help you fall asleep faster.
This article also offers practical tips to build a bedtime routine: How to Build a Good Bedtime Routine That Makes Your Morning Easier
Many people know that exercise is good for them, but they just can’t figure out how to fit it into their busy schedules.
That’s what happened in my case, but when my chronic stress and exhaustion turned into systemic inflammation (which can lead to major diseases like Alzheimer’s), I realized it was time to change my sedentary lifestyle.
I decided to start swimming because it was something I had always loved to do. Find an exercise you love and stick to it to stop feeling tired all the time. Ideally, get a combination of endurance training, strength training, and flexibility training during your daily 20-minute workout.
If you haven’t exercised in a while and have a lot of stress in your life, you may want to give yoga a try as it will increase your flexibility and lower your stress.
Stress may be a major reason why you aren’t feeling well all of the time. At least that was the case with me.
When I worked 70 hours per week as a High-Tech Executive, I felt chronically stressed and exhausted, but there was one thing that always worked to help me feel calmer and less fatigued: Breathing.
But not just any old breathing. It was a special form of deep Yogic breathing called the “Long-Exhale Breathing” or “4-7-8 breathing” (or “Pranayama” in Sanskrit).
Here’s how you do Long-Exhale Breathing:
- Sit in a comfortable position with your spine straight and your hand on your tummy.
- Breathe in deeply and slowly from your diaphragm with your mouth closed while you count to 4 (ideally until your stomach feels full of air).
- Hold your breath while you mentally count to 7 and enjoy the stillness.
- Breathe out through your mouth with a “ha” sound while you count to 8 (or until your stomach has no more air in it).
- Pause after you finish your exhale while you notice the sense of wholeness and relaxation from completing one conscious, deep breath.
- Repeat 3 times, ensuring your exhale is longer than your inhale so you relax your nervous system.
This type of “long-exhale breathing” is scientifically proven to reduce stress.
When your exhale is twice as long as your inhale, it soothes your parasympathetic nervous system, which regulates the relaxation response.
Diet is vital for beating fatigue if you’re feeling tired all the time – after all, food is your main source of energy.
If your diet is poor, then it implies you’re not getting the nutrients you need to sustain healthy energy levels, which may lead to daytime sleepiness.
Eating a diet for fatigue doesn’t need to be complicated or time-consuming though. For most people, it’s just a case of swapping a few unhealthy foods for a few healthier ones, like switching from low-fiber, processed foods to whole, high-fiber foods.
Here’re 9 simple diet swaps you can make today:
- Replace your morning coffee with Matcha green tea and drink only herbal tea within six hours of bedtime.
- Add a healthy fat or protein to any carb you eat, especially if you eat before bed.
- Fill up with fiber, especially green leafy vegetables.
- Replace refined, processed, low-fiber pastas and grains with zucchini noodles and whole grains such as buckwheat, quinoa, sorghum, oats, amaranth, millet, teff, brown rice, and corn.
- Swap natural sweeteners for refined sugars, and try to ensure you don’t get more than 25g of sugar a day if you are a woman and 30g of sugar a day if you are a man.
- Replace ice cream with low-sugar alternatives.
- Swap omega-6, partially-hydrogenated oils such as corn, palm, sunflower, safflower, cotton, canola and soybean oil for omega-3 oils such as flax, olive, and nut oils.
- Replace high-sugar yoghurts with low-sugar, dairy-free yoghurts.
- Swap your sugar-laden soda for sparkling water with a splash of low-sugar juice.
Also, ensure your diet is giving you enough of the daily essential vitamins and minerals. Most of us don’t get enough Vitamin D, Vitamin B-12, Calcium, Iron, and Magnesium. If you are low on any of the above vitamins and minerals, you may experience fatigue and low energy.
That’s why it’s always worth having your doctor check your levels. If you find any of them are low, then try to eat foods rich in them.
Alternatively, you might consider a high-quality multivitamin or specific supplement.
The Bottom Line
If you are tired of feeling tired all the time, then there is tremendous hope.
If you are tired because you are not getting enough high-quality sleep, then the best remedy is a bedtime routine based on sleep best practices. If you are tired because you have stress and fatigue, then the best remedy are four simple lifestyle changes discussed above.
Overall, adopting a healthier lifestyle is the ideal remedy for feeling more rested and energized.
More Tips to Stop Feeling Tired All the Time
- How to Practice Guided Meditation for Sleep to Calm the Mind
- Is It Possible to Repay Your Sleep Debt? Why Being Well Rested Matters
- The Ultimate Night Routine Guide: Sleep Better and Wake Up Productive
Featured photo credit: Cris Saur via unsplash.com
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