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5 Ways to Avoid Change in 2009

5 Ways to Avoid Change in 2009

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    The financial climate, the job market, family tensions, Obama moving into the Lincoln bedroom.  Even the climate’s getting in on it.  Yup, change is everywhere in 2009.

    Apparently some people are ’embracing change’, but aren’t aware of the dangers inherent in changing the ways things are.  If you’re not careful, all kinds of strange things might happen in your otherwise ordered life, so it’s best to work at avoiding change whenever it rears its head.

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    Here are 5 ways to do just that:

    1. Ignore any opportunities.

    How many times have you taken a chance, only for things to go wrong? How many times have you seized an opportunity only for it to slip between your fingers?

    There’s always another screw-up waiting for you, so it’s better to stay right where you are. Where you are right now is a known quantity – it’s safe, warm and comfortable. Doesn’t that sound better than going out there, screwing up and looking stupid?

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    2.  Set your expectations low.

    If you’re one of the people out there looking to make a change in 2009 rather than having change made for you, you’d better set your expectations low.

    Set your expectations high and you’re only setting yourself up for disappointment. When you have high expectations of yourself and what you can do you’re in line for the biggest of reality checks.

    Things rarely turn out as you want them to, so set your expectations low so that you don’t end up more disappointed than necessary.

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    3. Keep on running and don’t look back.

    Life’s busier than ever, right?  You’ve got loads going on at work, loads happening with friends and family and all kinds of demands on your time.

    The best thing to do is to set things out so that you can do everything.  It’s good to be busy and running around after everyone else will mean that everyone’s happy and there’s no room for change to happen.  It’s a win-win!

    4. Recognise that most changes are too big.

    Face it; there are some tasks you’re just not up to. Landing that exciting new job, getting a promotion, taking on the ‘big project’ or building a relationship that really works – these are all big challenges and you don’t want to bite off more than you can chew.

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    Some things are just bigger than you are, so if you insist on changing something it’s better to take on small, low-impact or no-impact stuff that you know you can do.

    5. Ignore that little voice inside

    You might sometimes hear a little voice in your head that tells you you’re not happy or that something has to change.  This little trouble maker can speak up at any time and throw the Spanner of Confusion in the works, and it has only one thing on it’s mind – to take you out of your comfort zone and make you change.

    Imagine if everyone went around listening to what they really wanted and acted on it – chaos.

    No, best to ignore it and carry on doing what you’re doing.

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    5 Fixes For Common Sleep Issues All Couples Deal With

    5 Fixes For Common Sleep Issues All Couples Deal With

    Sleeping next to your partner can be a satisfying experience and is typically seen as the mark of a stable, healthy home life. However, many more people struggle to share a bed with their partner than typically let on. Sleeping beside someone can decrease your sleep quality which negatively affects your life. Maybe you are light sleepers and you wake each other up throughout the night. Maybe one has a loud snoring habit that’s keeping the other awake. Maybe one is always crawling into bed in the early hours of the morning while the other likes to go to bed at 10 p.m.

    You don’t have to feel ashamed of finding it difficult to sleep with your partner and you also don’t have to give up entirely on it. Common problems can be addressed with simple solutions such as an additional pillow. Here are five fixes for common sleep issues that couples deal with.

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    1. Use a bigger mattress to sleep through movement

    It can be difficult to sleep through your partner’s tossing and turning all night, particularly if they have to get in and out of bed. Waking up multiple times in one night can leave you frustrated and exhausted. The solution may be a switch to a bigger mattress or a mattress that minimizes movement.

    Look for a mattress that allows enough space so that your partner can move around without impacting you or consider a mattress made for two sleepers like the Sleep Number bed.[1] This bed allows each person to choose their own firmness level. It also minimizes any disturbances their partner might feel. A foam mattress like the kind featured in advertisements where someone jumps on a bed with an unspilled glass of wine will help minimize the impact of your partner’s movements.[2]

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    2. Communicate about scheduling conflicts

    If one of you is a night owl and the other an early riser, bedtime can become a source of conflict. It’s hard for a light sleeper to be jostled by their partner coming to bed four hours after them. Talk to your partner about negotiating some compromises. If you’re finding it difficult to agree on a bedtime, negotiate with your partner. Don’t come to bed before or after a certain time, giving the early bird a chance to fully fall asleep before the other comes in. Consider giving the night owl an eye mask to allow them to stay in bed while their partner gets up to start the day.

    3. Don’t bring your technology to bed

    If one partner likes bringing devices to bed and the other partner doesn’t, there’s very little compromise to be found. Science is pretty unanimous on the fact that screens can cause harm to a healthy sleeper. Both partners should agree on a time to keep technology out of the bedroom or turn screens off. This will prevent both partners from having their sleep interrupted and can help you power down after a long day.

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    4. White noise and changing positions can silence snoring

    A snoring partner can be one of the most difficult things to sleep through. Snoring tends to be position-specific so many doctors recommend switching positions to stop the snoring. Rather than sleeping on your back doctors recommend turning onto your side. Changing positions can cut down on noise and breathing difficulties for any snorer. Using a white noise fan, or sound machine can also help soften the impact of loud snoring and keep both partners undisturbed.

    5. Use two blankets if one’s a blanket hog

    If you’ve got a blanket hog in your bed don’t fight it, get another blanket. This solution fixes any issues between two partners and their comforter. There’s no rule that you have to sleep under the same blanket. Separate covers can also cut down on tossing and turning making it a multi-useful adaptation.

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    Rather than giving up entirely on sharing a bed with your partner, try one of these techniques to improve your sleeping habits. Sleeping in separate beds can be a normal part of a healthy home life, but compromise can go a long way toward creating harmony in a shared bed.

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