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5 Ways To Feel Better Right Now

5 Ways To Feel Better Right Now

Life has a tendency to knock us down a few notches every now and then. If you are having one of those days when nothing is going right, let me share five ways to change your mood’s direction:

1. Create Stuff That Interests You

I write stories; I’m currently working on a novel, in fact. It’s my first try at a large piece of fiction work, and it’s fun. Every day I write a minimum of 2,000 words and every day I wake up scared witless that I’m going to fail. Sometimes it takes me a couple of hours to knock a couple of thousand words off. Sometimes, well, I miss lunch. But accomplishing 2,000 words gives me power — that I did it, and will step to the table tomorrow and do it again.

If I’m not working on my book and my feelings towards the day start heading south, I try and create some new ideas for articles or projects. It keeps my mind stimulated, ignoring the internal feelings begging me to suffer.

If you love writing, like I do, and you’re feeling ‘not-so-hot’, then grab a pencil, write a story, write about a favorite date, a dream date, an old experience that warms your heart. The point is, just write something. It distracts you from your current need for sadness and will make you feel good after accomplishing it.

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If you’re not into writing, create something else. My wife recently picked up crocheting, it keeps her mind distracted if she is feeling stressed, and now my dog is going to be really warm this winter!

You can create anything you like, the only rule is: It should be interesting to you.

2. Read Some Good Fiction

I understand every article like this always tells you to go read some positive, inspirational books, but I want to tweak that message. Yes, it’s great to read something that is going to get your hope-mojo pumping and gives new life to the day, but sometimes it all seems like hogwash, doesn’t it?

When you feel really awful, reading the highly emotional, ‘go get your success’ type of information can be deflating. What if you don’t want to right now? I mean, it’s your right how you want to act.

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I’ve found recently that reading good fiction can help, at minimum, to ease my mind. It takes me to a far away place — it gives my brain a break. While some non-fiction reminds us how awful our life is and why we need it to make our life better, a good fiction book just wants to tell you a story, that’s it. My favorite fiction novel is Ask The Dust, by John Fante. A couple more I would recommend are Ham On Rye, by Charles Bukowski and East of Eden, by John Steinbeck.

Give your mind a break: dive into some good fiction!

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    3. Dance A Little

    There’s nothing in the world that changes your mood — naturally, I should add — like dancing. My puppy, Lily, and I will break out into mini-dance parties when I’m searching for a little energy. She jumps up, I grab her front paws, we sway slowly in a small circle while she walks on her back legs. The entire time she tries to gnaw my hand off, but it’s great fun nonetheless.

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    Put on some music that gets your foot tapping. Before you know it, you will have a full-on dance party trying to impress your dog with your moves.

    4. Do 100 Push Ups As Fast As You Can

    It’s not easy to instantly drop and pound out 100 push ups when you’re not feeling too hot about life. It’s not easy to just drop and do 100 push ups period, but it does change your energy.

    For most people, the ones not dangerously obsessed with fitness, 100 push ups is damn hard to do in under six minutes. Once you hit the wall, your body feels like it’s gained 50 pounds, your arms turn to jelly, your lungs fight for breath. The feeling is horrible, but you’re not in a bad mood anymore because pushing to 100 is your only purpose at that moment. You’re welcome!

    Side Note: Don’t do 100 if you can’t. Just a number that creates some struggle and causes you to challenge yourself a bit. You know, get those endorphins everybody talks about flowing. It could be 50, it could be 20. The number isn’t important, the feeling is.

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    5. Write Some Poetry

    This is similar to point ‘1’ if you love writing, but even if you don’t, I’d urge you to try your hand at writing poetry. Writing poetry can be magical. It forces you to see the world in different ways. Even if you write something sad or negative, just getting it out on paper can help shift your feelings.

    I’ve written some of my best poems while being in the dumps, but it felt good to get my frustrations out. Don’t worry about structure, just write!

    Poetry is an art. Art can help bring peace to your life. As Kurt Vonnegut said, “Practicing an art isn’t a way to earn money…it’s a way to make one’s soul grow.”

    The main thing to remember is, no matter how bad or sad you’re feeling, it’s okay, it’s normal. It’s a part of being human, so embrace it and work through it. You only have one life, so you might as well do the best you can to enjoy as many moments as you are given.

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    Last Updated on December 18, 2018

    Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

    Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

    Are you one of those people who are always suffering setbacks? Does little ever seem to go right for you? Do you sometimes feel that the universe is out to get you? Do you wonder:

    Why do I have bad luck? Is bad luck real?

    A couple of months ago, I met up with an old friend of mine who I hadn’t seen since last year. Over lunch, we talked about all kinds of things, including our careers, relationships and hobbies.

    My friend told me his job had become dull and uninteresting to him, and despite applying for promotion – he’d been turned down. His personal life wasn’t great either, as he told me that he’d recently separated from his long-term girlfriend.

    When I asked him why things had seemingly gone wrong at home and work, he paused for a moment, and then replied:

    “I’m having a run of bad luck.”

    I was surprised by his response as I’d never thought of him as someone who thought that luck controlled his life. He always appeared to be someone who knew what he wanted – and went after it with gusto.

    He told me he did believe in bad luck because of everything happened to me.

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    It was at this point, that I shared my opinion on luck and destiny:

    While chance events certainly occur, they are purely random in nature. In other words, good luck and bad luck don’t exist in the way that people believe. And more importantly, even if random negative events do come along, our perspective and reaction can turn them into positive things.

    Your luck is no worse—and no better—than anyone else’s. It just feels that way. Better still, there are two simple things you can do which will reverse your feelings of being unlucky and change your luck.

    1. Stop believing that what happens in life is out of your control.

    Stop believing that what happens in your life is down to the vagaries of luck, destiny, supernatural forces, malevolent other people, or anything else outside yourself.

    Psychologists call this “external locus of control.” It’s a kind of fatalism, where people believe that they can do little or nothing personally to change their lives.

    Because of this, they either merely hope for the best, focus on trying to change their luck by various kinds of superstition, or submit passively to whatever comes—while complaining that it doesn’t match their hopes.

    Most successful people take the opposite view. They have “internal locus of control.” They believe that what happens in their life is nearly all down to them; and that even when chance events occur, what is important is not the event itself, but how you respond to it.

    This makes them pro-active, engaged, ready to try new things, and keen to find the means to change whatever in their lives they don’t like.

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    They aren’t fatalistic and they don’t blame bad luck for what isn’t right in their world. They look for a way to make things better.

    Are they luckier than the others? Of course not.

    Luck is random—that’s what chance means—so they are just as likely to suffer setbacks as anyone else.

    What’s different is their response. When things go wrong, they quickly look for ways to put them right. They don’t whine, pity themselves, or complain about “bad luck.” They try to learn from what happened to avoid or correct it next time and get on with living their life as best they can. They have this Motivation Engine, which most people lack, to keep them going.

    No one is habitually luckier or unluckier than anyone else. It may seem so, over the short term (Random events often come in groups, just as random numbers often lie close together for several instances—which is why gamblers tend to see patterns where none exist).

    When you take a longer perspective, random chance is just . . . random. Yet those who feel that they are less lucky, typically pay far more attention to short-term instances of bad luck, convincing themselves of the correctness of their belief.

    Your locus of control isn’t genetic. You learned it somehow. If it isn’t working for you, change it.

    2. Remember that whatever you pay attention to grows in your mind.

    If you focus on what’s going wrong in your life—especially if you see it as “bad luck” you can do nothing about—it will seem blacker and more malevolent.

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    In a short time, you’ll become so convinced that everything is against you that you’ll notice more and more instances where this appears to be true. As a result, you will drown yourself in negative energy and almost certainly stop trying, convinced that nothing you can do will improve your prospects.

    Not long ago, a reader (I’ll call her Kelly) has shared with me about how frustrated she felt and how unlucky she was. Kelly’s an aspiring entrepreneur. She had been trying to find investors to invest in her project. It hadn’t been going well as she was always rejected by the potential investors. And at her most stressful time, her boyfriend broke up with her. And the day after her breakup, she missed an important opportunity to meet an interested investor. She was about to give up because she felt that she’d not be lucky enough to build her business successfully.

    It definitely wasn’t an easy time for her. She was stressful and tired. But it wasn’t bad luck that was playing the role.

    Fatalism feeds on itself until people become passive “victims” of life’s blows. The “losers” in life are those who are convinced they will fail before they start anything; sure that their “bad luck” will ruin any prospects of success.

    They rarely notice that the true reasons for their failure are ignorance, laziness, lack of skill, lack of forethought, or just plain foolishness—all of which they could do something to correct, if only they would stop blaming other people or “bad luck” for their personal deficiencies.

    Your attention is under your control. Send it where you want it to go. Starve the negative thoughts until they die.

    I explained to Kelly that to improve her fortune and have “good luck”, first decide that what happens is nearly always down to her; then try to focus on what works and what turns out well, not the bad stuff.

    Then Kelly tried to review her current situation objectively. She realized that she only needed a short break for herself — from work and her just broken-up relationship. She really needed some time to clear up her mind before moving on with her work and life. When she got her emotions settled down from her heartbreak, she started to work on improving her business’ selling points and looked for new investors that are more suitable.

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    A few months later, she told me that she finally found two investors who were really interested in her project and would like to work with her to grow the business. I was really glad that she could take back control of her destiny and achieved what she wanted.

    Your “fate” really does depend on the choices that you make. When random events happen, as they always will, do you choose to try to turn them to your advantage or just complain about them?

    What’s Next?

    Now that you’ve learned the 2 simple things you can do to take control of your fate and create your own luck. But this isn’t it! These simple techniques you’ve learned here are just part of the essential 7 Cornerstone Skills — a skillset that will give you the power to create permanent solutions to big problems in life — any problem in any area of your life!

    If you think you’re “suffering from bad luck”, you can really change things up and start life over with these 7 Cornerstone Skills. It may even be a lot easier than you thought:

    How to Start Over and Reboot Your Life When It Seems Too Late

    Thomas Jefferson is said to have used these words:

    “I’m a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.”

    Your luck, in the end, is pretty much what you choose it to be.

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