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5 Steps to Fixing It When Life Throws You a Curveball

5 Steps to Fixing It When Life Throws You a Curveball


    You’re cruising along at work, or home hanging out. You’re having a perfectly fine day, when — whammo — something comes out of nowhere and seriously messes it up.

    I’m not talking devastating, earth-shattering events, I mean those zingers that ruin your mood and your groove.

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    The hot water heater breaks, or your puppy makes the new rug its personal commode. Your blog goes down just as your latest post goes viral on Twitter. Your boss tells you she needs that report before you go home, as you were packing up for the weekend.

    Any of this sound familiar?

    You work hard and live right, but sometimes life throws you an annoying or time-consuming curveball, despite your best efforts. It happens to everyone.

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    But it makes you mad, or anxious, and it doesn’t feel fair.

    And you’re right – it’s not. But it’s life. So before you throw up your hands and call the day a loss, here’s how to take care of it and move on with grace:

    1. Acknowledge that whatever happened is no fun. Say it out loud, with feeling: “This SUCKS.” Better yet: “This sucks.”  Feel free to flail your arms or jump up and down for emphasis. (If you’re at work, make sure you do this in private!) Here are other ways you can let out your frustration.
    2. Take a few deep breaths. Feel your blood pressure dropping. Take a few more. (Or try these de-stressors.)
    3. Ask yourself: Will this thing kill you or anyone you love? Will it bankrupt you? No? Then you’re fine. Annoyed maybe, but fine.
    4. Think about the big picture. Will this glitch matter in the long run? Probably not. It might slow you down a bit, but it’s probably not causing irreparable damage.
    5. What can you do right now to fix the problem? Do it now. (Call the plumber, run to the store for rug cleaner, contact your blog host, make a cup of coffee and finish the report.)

    Now you’ve taken care of the immediate problem, but you’re still stewing. Here are a few more tips to set yourself straight:

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    • Sit down with a notebook and write out the good things that happened in the last week or so. You’ll see that this curveball is just a blip.
    • Take care of something else that needs doing. It can be small, but something so you feel like the day wasn’t a total waste.
    • Get your mind off it. Work out, call a friend, read a magazine. Obsessing doesn’t do any good, and every time you catch yourself, redirect your mind. Think how you’ll laugh about it later. It’s a cliché, but it’s true.
    • When it comes down to it, you just have to let it go. Take a walk or a bath, have a cup of tea or a glass of wine, get a good night’s sleep, and start fresh tomorrow. That’s the beauty of life: you get a do-over, every single day.

    The truth is, the more you deal with these kinds of issues the better off you are. Not that I want anything less than unicorns and rainbows for you, but there’s power in experience.

    After you handle a few of these with efficiency and aplomb, they won’t upset you so much when they come up next time. You’ll zip right through and move on to the rest of your day. Congratulations! You’ve become a person who gets stuff done, no matter what.

    How do you deal when life throws you a curveball? Let us know in the comments!

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      How Setting Small Daily Goals Makes You Achieve Big Success

      How Setting Small Daily Goals Makes You Achieve Big Success

      Successful people “think” success all the time. That is why their goals are firmly lodged in their subconscious.

      While most believe that having a long-term goal is crucial to success, successful people understand that without small, daily goals, you will get demotivated easily; success will in turn become hard.

      In this article, we will look into the importance of setting daily goals and how to having daily goals that help you achieve success.

      How to “think” success with your subconscious

      The subconscious is brilliant at prioritizing. It listens to you and gauges from your thoughts what you think is the most important task. This means that what you think about most of the time is what the subconscious will think is the most important thing for you, and will try to find creative solutions.

      If you think about problems, the subconscious will try to find you more problems. If you think about solutions, goals and dreams, it will try to make them come true.

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      But the subconscious goes even further when trying to understand what you think is important; it “listens” to your feelings.

      Luckily, it has been proven that a positive thought is over 100 times as positive as a negative thought. This makes it a lot easier to drive positive emotions into your subconscious.

      How daily goals keep you positive

      It is enough to be positive and keep your thoughts on what you want — and you don’t have to go monitoring your thoughts all the time.

      It is enough to imbue your thoughts a few times a day with a powerful positive emotion when thinking about your goals. The more you can do it, the more powerful this exercise will be.

      For many, reading their goals or making plans become a chore, something that fills them with negative emotions. This ruins the full potential of these activities; filling yourself with positive emotions while thinking about your goals will make them a lot more powerful.

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      Over the last several years, I have been taught several exercises that can help you focus more on your goals and spend more time thinking about and feeling about them. What I want you to remember when doing these exercises is to have fun. Never see them as a chore, you are living your goals, it is something to enjoy.

      If you don’t feel uplifted at the thought of focusing on your goals, you might as well not do the exercise today. Do it tomorrow instead because it will do more harm than good if you are in the wrong mood when thinking about your goals.

      Why positive thoughts inspire you ideas

      In my business, I constantly need to come up with new ways to improve efficiency, new ideas to test and new subjects to teach. It takes a lot of creative work — and creative work has always been one of my weaker areas.

      Luckily, thanks to all my work with goal setting (and because of my focus on my goals), my subconscious knows these are the things I need the most help with and that they are very important to me.

      Every day I get new ideas of things I can try out, products I can create, seminar subjects I can offer, and so on.  All of them aren’t good but when you throw enough “mud against the wall”, something will stick. And that is what my subconscious does — it feeds me idea after idea.

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      How to set daily goals for yourself

      This method is used by countless thousands around the world and for everyone who has tried it, the effects have been incredible:

      1. Each morning, take a pen and a piece of paper and write down your 10 top goals. Don’t look at the day before, just think about what you want to most and write them down.
      2. Remember to write them in the positive present tense and remember to set a deadline for each goal. Just like we did when setting your long term and short term goals. (For example you could set the goal “I make 10,000 dollars per month by the December 31 next year.”)
      3. Do this for all 10 goals.

      In the beginning, writing down 10 goals might be difficult. Each day, they might look a bit different and some of the goals you write never come back again.

      If you forget a goal, it is because it wasn’t all that important and something more important has taken its place.

      What difference does it make?

      By starting your day setting your 10 top goals, you jump-start your creativity — which will motivate you for the rest of the day. You will have programmed yourself to focus on your goals and to move towards them and their completion.

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      What will happen to you?

      If you do this, you will start to realize what is important to you. You’ll see what goals keep surfacing and what goals vanish.

      You will know what you want and you will find yourself presented with opportunities that you haven’t noticed before.

      You will be more creative in finding ideas and chances to make your dreams reality.

      The bottom line

      Having goals on a daily basis can change your life for the better. It will help you keep moving faster and faster towards your goals and dreams.

      So now set your goals and make having daily goals your good habit:

      1. Buy a notebook and a pen at your local bookstore.
      2. Start writing down 10 goals every morning, without looking at the day before.
      3. Take advantage of the opportunities that come your way and capitalize on them.
      What’s next after setting your goals? While your routine is the key to achieving your goals, you can take these 6 simple steps to make progress towards achieving goals.

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