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5 Reasons Why Quitting Makes You a Winner

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5 Reasons Why Quitting Makes You a Winner


    You’re not supposed to quit. Ever.

    At least, that’s what we’ve been told. But there are times that not quitting results in your life being stymied, stressful, and unfulfilling.

    So let’s get right into it. Quitting can make you a winner by:

    1. Allowing you to move forward in your life.

    Are you hanging on to old goals that aren’t relevant to you anymore? Or, digging a little deeper, are they someone else’s goals for you?

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    If you find yourself dragging your feet and staying stuck in the same place, maybe you need to quit holding on to those old ambitions that don’t fit you anymore – or never fit you.

    Clinging tightly to the familiar only holds you back.

    2. Reducing stress and creating more time for you.

    Did you know that the Latin origin of the word quit meant “calm, resting”? The negative connotation of being a quitter only came into our vernacular seven centuries later in the 1800’s. Are there things you want to quit but can’t bring yourself to say no? How about being on that board for your friend’s non-profit? She said it would only take a little time, but now you’re on three different committees. What about volunteering three days a week at your child’s school rather than one because none of the other parents would pick up the slack?

    It’s time to quit.

    Yes, you may have to face your fear and learn to say no, but the rewards in your physical and emotional health will far outweigh your initial discomfort.

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    3. Creating more emotional and energetic space for you.

    Have you ever seen the show Hoarders? People with this disorder pile junk and garbage up in their houses until there is barely room to walk, let alone eat or sleep. Are you an emotional hoarder? Do you collect your negative emotions and the emotional baggage of other people and won’t let go of them? Perhaps all of those thoughts and feelings have created a pile of toxic energy inside you.

    Maybe it’s time to quit.

    You’re human so you’re always going to have negative emotions. But quit hanging on to them. Learn to create positive emotions through positive action and let go of the negative energy. And let other people have their own emotional journeys. You don’t need to take on the mood, feelings, or problems of your spouse, family member, or close friend.

    Clean out your cluttered emotional house and notice how much more energetic space you have left for yourself.

    4. Creating new opportunities for you.

    In 1934, a seventeen-year-old girl was about to take the stage at the famed Apollo Theater in Harlem for their amateur talent show. She was going to do a dance routine but became intimidated by a dance team that went before her. Suddenly, right before she went on, she made a decision. She decided to quit her long-held plan to dance. She went up to the stage manager, tugged at his sleeve and said:

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    “Mister, I’m going to sing instead of dance.”

    The young woman’s name was Ella Fitzgerald. She won that show (and $25) and went on to a legendary career as a jazz singer.

    What opportunities might open up for you if you quit something dear to you? Something that you loved but has run its course?

    Nilofer Merchant was an entrepreneur who had built a successful consulting business but, after eleven years, realized her passion for her job had dwindled to nothing. She quit her business. And opportunity after opportunity arose for her, many of which re-ignited her entrepreneurial fire.

    Is there something you need to quit in order for your passion to be fanned into flame?

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    5. Empowering yourself to be self-compassionate.

    Like most people, you probably have an inner critic that chirps away at you, telling you how bad you are and how much better you could be doing.

    Kristin Neff, author of Self-Compassion and a pioneering researcher in the field of self-compassion, suggests that this inner critic is something that has evolved over time in order to keep us safe and on track. And that we often see it as a way to keep us in line and motivated. The problem is, it is harsh and judgmental and leads you to believe that, although other people are worthy of kindness and compassion, you aren’t.

    Neff’s work has found that people who are self-compassionate are much less likely to be depressed, anxious, and stressed, and are much more likely to be happy, resilient, and optimistic about their future. In short, they have better mental health.

    It’s time to quit fighting with your inner critic and show yourself some compassion.

    Talk to yourself as you would talk with a good friend who was suffering with a problem. Put your hands over your heart and acknowledge that you’re having a rough time. And remember that all of us have flaws and make mistakes. It’s just part of being human.

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    What do you need to quit to be a winner in your life?

    (Photo credit: Hand Pushing a Resignation Letter via Shutterstock)

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    Last Updated on November 22, 2021

    Thanksgiving: It’s About The Simple Things

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    Thanksgiving: It’s About The Simple Things

    Thanksgiving, a day of pure gluttony, football, and possible uncomfortable situations with family members that you may or may not like. Oh, yeah, and the whole “know and reflect on what it is to be thankful and grateful.”

    During the holiday season many people forget what this time of year is bout and are too worried about getting the “early-bird” deals on Black Friday and making sure that they have the perfect gifts for their loved ones. I am sort of a “Grinch” when it comes to the holiday season, mostly because of that mentality by many of the poeple around me.

    But instead of being grinch-like this holiday season, I decided to simplify things and get back to what this time of year is actually is about; being thankful for what I have and what I can give.

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    Simplify

    I’m not a “minimalist” in any real sense, but in the last few months the talks of Patrick Rhone and others have got me to rethink my stance. Can you really have too much stuff?

    Absolutely.

    And with all that stuff comes the burden and the weight of it on your back.

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    If you feel that the things around you are out of control, maybe it’s time to simplify and be thankful and grateful for what you have and use. Here are a few things that you can do to simplify:

    • You know those gadgets in the drawer that you said you were going to sell? Well, time to get the listing on eBay and sell them. Or, send them to a place like Gazelle. Even if they are old and won’t get money, you can at least recycle them.
    • Get rid of things you don’t need. Like old books, clothes, tools, etc. Have something that’s been laying around forever with no use? Donate it to a charity or church. If you aren’t using it, someone else could be.
    • Find your productivity tools and stick with them. Use tools and gadgets that serve multiple purposes so you can simplify your tool set.

    Be Mindful

    You don’t have to be a master Buddhist or meditator to be mindful (although, it can definitely help). Being mindful comes down to being cognizant of the present and not keeping yourself in the past or future. It’s about living in the moment and being aware of yourself and everything around you. It’s just being.

    Without getting too “California” on you, it is super important to be mindful during the holiday rush. Rather than worrying about the things that you forgot at your house on the way to relatives or thinking about the next stop in your endless holiday travels, just breath and think about what you are currently doing.

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    Spend the time with your family and friends and don’t crush the moment. Try not to concentrate so hard on getting the perfect photo of the “awesome moment” of the day and actually miss the awesome moment.

    Being mindful over the holidays will help you be with your families, friends, and yourself allowing you to enjoy your time.

    Reflect

    As the year is coming to a close (yes, it really is that close!) it’s a great time to start reflecting on what you have accomplished and what you haven’t. Within the next few weeks we will have a more throrough reflection article here at Lifehack.org, but reflecting every now and then over your holiday break is a great way to see where you have been doing well in your life and where you need to improve.

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    Reflection shouldn’t be used to “get down” on yourself. Reflection should be used to take an honset inventory of what you have accomplished, how you handeled situations, and what you can do better. If you journal everyday (a daily form of reflection) it may be a good time to start going over some of the things that you have written and start to put together a year’s end journal entry. I mean, how else will you write your autobiography?

    But, seriously, reflecting on yourself makes you aware of your successes and faults and helps you plan and make goals for the coming year. It makes you a better person.

    So, while you are stuffing your face with bird, stuffing, and mashed taters’, remember that the holidays are much more than the superficial things. Use this holiday to become a better person.

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    Featured photo credit: Libby Penner via unsplash.com

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