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4 Ways To Develop Your Passions And Live Life Spontaneously

4 Ways To Develop Your Passions And Live Life Spontaneously

When we feel as though our lives are becoming monotonous we seek change. We seek adventure, not necessarily an extreme adventure that involves travelling, but within ourselves and within our lives. Jose Llorens of Elite Daily suggests four ways you can begin to live life spontaneously and develop your passions:

It is needless to say that every expert was once a beginner. Being an expert entails more than the dedication of long hours and countless sleepless nights in order to master a craft. Sure, anyone can become an expert at something, but the passionate ones always seem to excel amongst everyone else.

Not everyone has to live like an expert to be one. Ever had that feeling that everything seems to be going your way, and you never want it to end? Well it doesn’t have to.

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The vast majority of us spend our time trying to come up with ideas for our futures that assure security, yet it appears that this doesn’t always seem to be a reliable plan. Why? Because thinking about something will never be the same as trying it. You don’t have to find what you want to do. It’ll find you.

There’s not an esoteric strategy to finding what your passion is. If you have the opportunity to do something you want to do, go ahead and do it. Keep trying new things, and never settle for anything less than what you’re passionate for. It’ll keep that fire inside of you burning.

If you want to be an expert at life, then start living like a virgin. There is nothing more exhilarating than trying something for the first time as many of you can recall. You have no idea what you’re getting into, and you’ll never know the outcome.

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New experiences lead to new opportunities. Live like you’ll die tomorrow, there’s no reason not to. That sense of adventure that you get from doing something spontaneous will truly make you happier. Get lost once and a while; here’s how.

Network

Meet new people. Have a conversation with a stranger, introduce yourself, and you’ll begin to notice that people want to be spoken to. People like to share and be listened to. Plus, you never know whom you are going to meet. People appreciate you more when you reach out to them and take an interest in their lives.

Travel

Traveling allows you to explore other environments and put your life into perspective. Being around different types of people, food, languages and cultures with ultimately change the way you view the world. Getting away from home will allow you to appreciate what you have, and it will also give you a better understanding of the world. We all need to travel for one reason or another.

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Love

Love everybody. We’re all just people looking for our place in the world, and everybody has their own unique story. Treat everyone with respect, regardless of his or her age, sex, occupation or gender. Smile a lot. It brings good vibes and attracts people.

Stay Curious

Never lose that sense of curiosity we are each born with. As a child you remember the curious behavior that slowly diminished as you grew older. What happened to that urge to ask questions? Oh yeah, a conditioned society happened. Who cares what everyone is doing! Live your own life.

Keep learning new things and soak up the life around you. Try to have the curiosity of a five-year-old for the rest of your life. Don’t hold back on your desires. We all have responsibilities, but make it a habit to do something new everyday. Once you begin to get comfortable, that’s when you fail to embrace the spice of life. Keep moving forward.

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If not now, then when?

Jose Llorens: A thrill-seeking individual who loves a new challenge, and is looking to inspire anyone who comes along his path. Jose is an advocate for the millennial reform, and wants to share his insights regarding the movement. He emphasizes the opportunity to chase dreams, innovate, and live a valuable life. Jose is an early stage startup founder, former personal trainer, and sometimes a philosophy student at Florida International University that has a burning fire inside to change the world by influencing people to join the movement, and hear the voice of Generation Y.

How To Develop Your Passions And To Live Life Spontaneously | Elite Daily

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

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