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4 Big Reasons to Jump Into Your Life with Both Feet

4 Big Reasons to Jump Into Your Life with Both Feet

    They say that life is for living, but we all know that when the going gets tough it’s hard to keep that enthusiasm and passion going.  It takes real guts, determination and confidence to live a full and rich life, but it becomes a whole lot easier if you jump into your life in the right ways.

    The very best way to live a rich life that I know of is through what I call ‘Inspired Participation’.  A couple of quick definitions for you –

    in-spired

    1. To stimulate to action; motivate

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    2. To breathe life into.

    3. To be the cause or source of; bring about.

    par-tic-i-pa-tion

    1. The act of taking part or sharing in something.

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    2. To share in something.

    Participation is an active process of engaging with your own life. Inspiration is doing what you do knowing that’s it’s a positive choice and means something to you. So Inspired Participation is about plugging into everything in your life, finding value in it all and letting yourself do what comes naturally.

    Here are 4 big reasons to make inspired participation happen in your own life.

    1. Inspired Participation in Your Game

    Make a choice about which game you want to play and play it.  You can’t play a decent game of tennis unless you get a pair of tennis shoes, a racket and get yourself onto the court.  To play a great game of tennis you’ll need to practice, you’ll need to work on your serve or backhand and you’ll need to capitalise on your strengths.  Even if the game gets hard and you’re not sure when you’ll win your next game, you keep on playing because you value the experience and it means something to you.

    Inspired Participation in your game is choosing to engage in something that matters to you, playing it fully and enjoying it .  It could be a relationship, an entrepreneurial idea, a creative project, contributing to your community, a friendship, changing your career or a million other things.

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    It’s only by making a choice to become a great player in a game that matters that you become a great player and get success that means something.

    2. Inspired Participation in Your Feelings

    Emotions go up and down and yes, sometimes they’re confusing, unpredictable and downright painful. That’s part of the deal with being human I’m afraid.

    But your feelings are where you experience your life and everything in it – they’re your connection with what’s happening in your life and the impact that everything has on you.  Cut yourself off from your feelings and you’re cutting yourself off from your own life and you’ll feel disconnected from everything.

    Inspired Participation in your own feelings is knowing that your feelings are there to serve a purpose and they’re all equally valid.  This is about allowing yourself to feel what you’re feeling, not necessarily doing anything with those feelings.

    3. Inspired Participation in the World

    No man’s an island, and you can’t live in a vacuum.  Everything you do has an impact on the world around you – – friends, family, colleagues, finances, home, relationships, community, health, career, etc. – and nothing can happen in your life without having an impact somewhere.

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    Inspired Participation in the world is about plugging into what’s around you and being aware of what’s working and what isn’t working.  This is about looking at how you can create a congruent environment that contributes to what’s important to you and helps you honour those things.

    It’s about being more than just one person.

    4. Inspired Participation in Action

    I’ll bet that you sometimes get an idea that seems odd, crazy or just plain brilliant, and I’ll also bet that you often filter these thoughts out and take a more established or safer route.  Inspired Participation in action is making it okay for you to do out of the ordinary things that somehow feel incredibly right.

    This doesn’t necessarily have to involve full-on, life changing, epic events.  Not at all.  Inspired participation in action can be a lot more subtle or gentle than that, like getting in touch with an old friend, signing up for that fun evening class or finding a quiet sense of comfort with who you are, where you are and what you’re doing.

    Inspired participation in action is knowing that you can take the road less traveled.

    With these 4 strategies in mind – and the massive benefits that spring from them – life switches from something that you struggle or fight through into something that gives you incomparable richness.

    And that’s something we all deserve.

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    Why Assuming Positive Intent Is an Amazing Productivity Driver

    Why Assuming Positive Intent Is an Amazing Productivity Driver

    Assuming positive intent is an important contributor to quality of life.

    Most people appreciate the dividends such a mindset produces in the realm of relationships. How can relationships flourish when you don’t assume intentions that may or may not be there? And how their partner can become an easier person to be around as a result of such a shift? Less appreciated in the GTD world, however, is the productivity aspect of this “assume positive intent” perspective.

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    Most of us are guilty of letting our minds get distracted, our energy sapped, or our harmony compromised by thinking about what others woulda, coulda, shoulda.  How we got wronged by someone else.  How a friend could have been more respectful.  How a family member could have been less selfish.

    However, once we evolve to understanding the folly of this mindset, we feel freer and we become more productive professionally due to the minimization of unhelpful, distracting thoughts.

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    The leap happens when we realize two things:

    1. The self serving benefit from giving others the benefit of the doubt.
    2. The logic inherent in the assumption that others either have many things going on in their lives paving the way for misunderstandings.

    Needless to say, this mindset does not mean that we ought to not confront people that are creating havoc in our world.  There are times when we need to call someone out for inflicting harm in our personal lives or the lives of others.

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    Indra Nooyi, Chairman and CEO of Pepsi, says it best in an interview with Fortune magazine:

    My father was an absolutely wonderful human being. From ecent emailhim I learned to always assume positive intent. Whatever anybody says or does, assume positive intent. You will be amazed at how your whole approach to a person or problem becomes very different. When you assume negative intent, you’re angry. If you take away that anger and assume positive intent, you will be amazed. Your emotional quotient goes up because you are no longer almost random in your response. You don’t get defensive. You don’t scream. You are trying to understand and listen because at your basic core you are saying, ‘Maybe they are saying something to me that I’m not hearing.’ So ‘assume positive intent’ has been a huge piece of advice for me.

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    In business, sometimes in the heat of the moment, people say things. You can either misconstrue what they’re saying and assume they are trying to put you down, or you can say, ‘Wait a minute. Let me really get behind what they are saying to understand whether they’re reacting because they’re hurt, upset, confused, or they don’t understand what it is I’ve asked them to do.’ If you react from a negative perspective – because you didn’t like the way they reacted – then it just becomes two negatives fighting each other. But when you assume positive intent, I think often what happens is the other person says, ‘Hey, wait a minute, maybe I’m wrong in reacting the way I do because this person is really making an effort.

    “Assume positive intent” is definitely a top quality of life’s best practice among the people I have met so far. The reasons are obvious. It will make you feel better, your relationships will thrive and it’s an approach more greatly aligned with reality.  But less understood is how such a shift in mindset brings your professional game to a different level.

    Not only does such a shift make you more likable to your colleagues, but it also unleashes your talents further through a more focused, less distracted mind.

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