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See How An Ordinary Guy Got Into A Hot Restaurant And Easily Become A VIP

See How An Ordinary Guy Got Into A Hot Restaurant And Easily Become A VIP

So you want to be a hot shot at the latest hot spot?

While in school, I worked in some of the hottest restaurants and hotels in L.A.  One of my first jobs was an assistant position at a top-talent agency in Hollywood where we booked reservations for big agents and celebrities.  Now, I dine at some of the finest restaurants in town with clients and friends, so I know a thing or two about the scene.

Restaurants aren’t just a place to eat–they represent a lifestyle and are one of the best places to see and be seen. They are where business deals are done, connections are made and great moments are created. Choose your spots wisely.  From trendy popups to hotel dining rooms to the legendary establishments, all restaurants are not created equal.

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A word to the wise: pick places that match up with your lifestyle and start putting in effort.  Here’s how to stand out from the crowd and get in anywhere you want.

1.  Build familiarity fast.

Be strategic in your approach.  Here is how to create familiarity with the decision makers (or the people who influence the decision makers):

Nurture the relationship:

Pick one or two people and build the relationship like you would with a friend.  Treat them well because they will soon be one of your best allies.  Remember, you aren’t working with a job title.  You are working with a person with goals, hopes and dreams.  Treat them that way.  Make eye contact when you thank and tip them.  Call people by name and ask about their lives when appropriate.

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Baby steps:

People can smell desperation, and it will work against you when you try too hard to get the best table if they don’t know who you are.  Build familiarity first by sitting at the bar and connecting with the bartender and the staff. The key is to connect while you get to know the place.

Repeat business:

Keep going back.  They will notice.  A repeat customer is a VIP most of the time in the restaurant business.  Pick a few restaurants and go there often.

2.  Getting others to book for you.

The fastest way to get in on the action is to go through someone who is already in.  Use your resources.  There are people around you that have access.  Here is how to access them:

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People already on the list:

Ask a work associate, socialite friend or popular neighbor to book your reservation for you.  Even better, go with them.  The best way to get in is to be attached to the people who are already in.

Luxury hotel concierge:

Getting to know the luxury hotels around you and the staff there is necessary.  I live in NYC and don’t work out of an office, so I often use high-end hotels to hold meetings with people and have drinks.  In the process, I get to know the important waiters and concierge who know everyone.  Take care of them and they will take care of you.

The special event planner:

If you are thinking of planning a large party, call up the manager or event planner of the restaurant and tell them you thinking of organizing a very special party in the future and would love to experience the restaurant to see if it is right for the occasion.  If it is not right for you, tell them you are going in another direction because of the theme but you loved the place so much you want to bring your other friends there.  Win-win.

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3.  Give them a reason.

You need to find that hook that pulls someone on your side.  Most of the time, it’s something that can benefit them. You must give them a reason to treat you like a VIP because it doesn’t just happen on its own.  Here is how to make it happen:

Be associated with someone influential: 

Similar to what I mentioned above, be strategic in your first few encounters with the staff at a restaurant.  It can be another VIP or a member of the actual staff.  The key is to be associated with someone who is in-demand or someone on the inside.

Money talks:  

This one is kind of obvious but you need to know how (and who) to take care of.  Always take care of the person who takes care of you, even if they don’t make the decisions. If they are on the inside, they have some influence.  Go through them to get in next time.  Whomever you make your connection with is your ticket.  Don’t get too cocky—I can’t tell you how many times a bus boy has delivered what another couldn’t.

Make a special trip:

Most people don’t make the effort to personally introduce themselves.  If you want to be treated like a VIP, you must get noticed in some way.  It has proved to be highly effective when people go into restaurants and meet with the manager or gatekeeper to explain the situation ahead of time.  They will respect you for it because you respect them enough to take time out of your day to meet with them.

Final thought: these tips don’t just apply to restaurants. The more strategically you think and the more you nurture your relationships, the easier it will be for you to become a VIP in every area of life.

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

7 Simple Rules to Live by to Get in Shape in Two Weeks

7 Simple Rules to Live by to Get in Shape in Two Weeks

Learning how to get in shape and set goals is important if you’re looking to live a healthier lifestyle and get closer to your goal weight. While this does require changes to your daily routine, you’ll find that you are able to look and feel better in only two weeks.

Over the years, I’ve learned a lot about what it takes to get in shape. Although anyone can cover the basics (eat right and exercise), there are some things that I could only learn through trial and error. Let’s cover some of the most important points for how to get in shape in two weeks.

1. Exercise Daily

It is far easier to make exercise a habit if it is a daily one. If you aren’t exercising at all, I recommend starting by exercising a half hour every day. When you only exercise a couple times per week, it is much easier to turn one day off into three days off, a week off, or a month off.

If you are already used to exercising, switching to three or four times a week to fit your schedule may be preferable, but it is a lot harder to maintain a workout program you don’t do every day.

Be careful to not repeat the same exercise routine each day. If you do an intense ab workout one day, try switching it up to general cardio the next. You can also squeeze in a day of light walking to break up the intensity.

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2. Duration Doesn’t Substitute for Intensity

Once you get into the habit of regular exercise, where do you go if you still aren’t reaching your goals? Most people will solve the problem by exercising for longer periods of time, turning forty-minute workouts into two hour stretches. Not only does this drain your time, but it doesn’t work particularly well.

One study shows that “exercising for a whole hour instead of a half does not provide any additional loss in either body weight or fat”[1].

This is great news for both your schedule and your levels of motivation. You’ll likely find it much easier to exercise for 30 minutes a day instead of an hour. In those 30 minutes, do your best to up the intensity to your appropriate edge to get the most out of the time.

3. Acknowledge Your Limits

Many people get frustrated when they plateau in their weight loss or muscle gaining goals as they’re learning how to get in shape. Everyone has an equilibrium and genetic set point where their body wants to remain. This doesn’t mean that you can’t achieve your fitness goals, but don’t be too hard on yourself if you are struggling to lose weight or put on muscle.

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Acknowledging a set point doesn’t mean giving up, but it does mean realizing the obstacles you face.

Expect to hit a plateau in your own fitness results[2]. When you expect a plateau, you can manage around it so you can continue your progress at a more realistic rate. When expectations meet reality, you can avoid dietary crashes.

4. Eat Healthy, Not Just Food That Looks Healthy

Know what you eat. Don’t fuss over minutia like whether you’re getting enough Omega 3’s or tryptophan, but be aware of the big things. Look at the foods you eat regularly and figure out whether they are healthy or not. Don’t get fooled by the deceptively healthy snacks just pretending to be good for you.

The basic nutritional advice includes:

  • Eat unprocessed foods
  • Eat more veggies
  • Use meat as a side dish, not a main course
  • Eat whole grains, not refined grains[3]

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Eat whole grains when you want to learn how to get in shape.

    5. Watch Out for Travel

    Don’t let a four-day holiday interfere with your attempts when you’re learning how to get in shape. I don’t mean that you need to follow your diet and exercise plan without any excursion, but when you are in the first few weeks, still forming habits, be careful that a week long break doesn’t terminate your progress.

    This is also true of schedule changes that leave you suddenly busy or make it difficult to exercise. Have a backup plan so you can be consistent, at least for the first month when you are forming habits.

    If travel is on your schedule and can’t be avoided, make an exercise plan before you go[4], and make sure to pack exercise clothes and an exercise mat as motivation to keep you on track.

    6. Start Slow

    Ever start an exercise plan by running ten miles and then puking your guts out? Maybe you aren’t that extreme, but burnout is common early on when learning how to get in shape. You have a lifetime to be healthy, so don’t try to go from couch potato to athletic superstar in a week.

    If you are starting a running regime, for example, run less than you can to start. Starting strength training? Work with less weight than you could theoretically lift. Increasing intensity and pushing yourself can come later when your body becomes comfortable with regular exercise.

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    7. Be Careful When Choosing a Workout Partner

    Should you have a workout partner? That depends. Workout partners can help you stay motivated and make exercising more fun. But they can also stop you from reaching your goals.

    My suggestion would be to have a workout partner, but when you start to plateau (either in physical ability, weight loss/gain, or overall health) and you haven’t reached your goals, consider mixing things up a bit.

    If you plateau, you may need to make changes to continue improving. In this case it’s important to talk to your workout partner about the changes you want to make, and if they don’t seem motivated to continue, offer a thirty day break where you both try different activities.

    I notice that guys working out together tend to match strength after a brief adjustment phase. Even if both are trying to improve, something seems to stall improvement once they reach a certain point. I found that I was able to lift as much as 30-50% more after taking a short break from my regular workout partner.

    Final Thoughts

    Learning how to get in shape in as little as two weeks sounds daunting, but if you’re motivated and have the time and energy to devote to it, it’s certainly possible.

    Find an exercise routine that works for you, eat healthy, drink lots of water, and watch as the transformation begins.

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