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29 Worn Out Perspectives in Need of the “Oh Really?” Factor

29 Worn Out Perspectives in Need of the “Oh Really?” Factor

    We all have places in our lives where we get stuck, augured in by a particular belief like, “work is hard,” or “children are too expensive,” or “politicians are evil.” To make matters worse, we often can’t distinguish between the truth and a disempowering belief because we attach little refrains like, “that’s just the way it is.” It’s as if our minds have become the honeymoon destination for Archie Bunker and Nurse Ratched.

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    If we really listen, we will hear a quality of flatness, resignation or a dissonant righteousness in our speaking. To bring choice, openness, and inquiry back into your reality try adding the challenge “oh really?” to these 29 worn out perspectives (or your own) and turn up the heat on those victim-making, life-killing, soul-sucking, war-making phrases that have been sapping your fulfillment.

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    1. I don’t have the time.
    2. Everything on my to-do list is important and essential.
    3. I can’t quit. If I do, everything will fall apart.
    4. If I take time off, I’ll lose my game.
    5. Nobody will hire me, I’m too old.
    6. You’re supposed to get married and then have the baby.
    7. Get your diploma, go to college, get a master’s, get married, get a career, have a family, grow old, die.
    8. I need an MFA to get published.
    9. Art is good, but if you want to make a living, you have to get a real job.
    10. I am a complete loser without my [to-do list] [blackberry] [iphone] [rolodex].
    11. You’re a loser if you use a rolodex.
    12. I can’t delete all those emails.
    13. You have to get a telephone. Everyone has a telephone.
    14. Nobody will respect me if I don’t have a Ph.D.
    15. I have to know how it ends before I begin.
    16. You have to start at the bottom if you want to get to the top.
    17. A black man can never be president.
    18. My vote doesn’t count.
    19. Women over 50 should not have long hair.
    20. I’m not creative.
    21. Investing is pointless as my age; I should have started years ago.
    22. It’s all my mother’s fault.
    23. It’s all your mother’s fault.
    24. I don’t have any choice.
    25. If I don’t make it by 30, I never will.
    26. If you’re an artist, you need a career to fall back on.
    27. Finding love is just not in the cards for me.
    28. I’d rather travel, but I have to get a degree first.
    29. There’s nothing I can do about it (the all-time favorite).

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    Now that you’ve disrupted the homeostasis, what other perspectives are now clamoring to be heard?

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    Last Updated on December 2, 2018

    How to Flow Your Way to a More Productive Life

    How to Flow Your Way to a More Productive Life

    Ebb and flow. Contraction and expansion. Highs and lows. It’s all about the cycles of life.

    The entire course of our life follows this up and down pattern of more and then less. Our days flow this way, each following a pattern of more energy, then less energy, more creativity and periods of greater focus bookended by moments of low energy when we cringe at the thought of one more meeting, one more call, one more sentence.

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    The key is in understanding how to use the cycles of ebb and flow to our advantage. The ability to harness these fluctuations, understand how they affect our productivity and mood and then apply that knowledge as a tool to improve our lives is a valuable strategy that few individuals or corporations have mastered.

    Here are a few simple steps to start using this strategy today:

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    Review Your Past Flow

    Take just a few minutes to look back at how your days and weeks have been unfolding. What time of the day are you the most focused? Do you prefer to be more social at certain times of the day? Do you have difficulty concentrating after lunch or are you energized? Are there days when you can’t seem to sit still at your desk and others when you could work on the same project for hours?

    Do you see a pattern starting to emerge? Eventually you will discover a sort of map or schedule that charts your individual productivity levels during a given day or week.  That’s the first step. You’ll use this information to plan your days going forward.

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    Schedule According to Your Flow Pattern

    Look at the types of things you do each day…each week. What can you move around so that it’s a better fit for you? Can you suggest to your team that you schedule meetings for late morning if you can’t stand to be social first thing? Can you schedule detailed project work or highly creative tasks, like writing or designing when you are best able to focus? How about making sales calls or client meetings on days when you are the most social and leaving billing or reports until another time when you are able to close your door and do repetitive tasks.

    Keep in mind that everyone is different and some things are out of our control. Do what you can. You might be surprised at just how flexible clients and managers can be when they understand that improving your productivity will result in better outcomes for them.

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    Account for Big Picture Fluctuations

    Look at the bigger picture. Consider what happens during different months or times during the year. Think about what is going on in the other parts of your life. When is the best time for you to take on a new project, role or responsibility? Take into account other commitments that zap your energy. Do you have a sick parent, a spouse who travels all the time or young children who demand all of your available time and energy?

    We all know people who ignore all of this advice and yet seem to prosper and achieve wonderful success anyway, but they are usually the exception, not the rule. For most of us, this habitual tendency to force our bodies and our brains into patterns of working that undermine our productivity result in achieving less than desired results and adding more stress to our already overburdened lives.

    Why not follow the ebb and flow of your life instead of fighting against it?

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