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28 Songs to Dance to in the Kitchen on Valentine’s Day

28 Songs to Dance to in the Kitchen on Valentine’s Day

It’s Valentine’s Day and you want to do something nice for your sweetie. Want to make it special and sexy? What better way than to press up against each other in the kitchen after a romantic candlelit dinner, just the two of you? Here’s a playlist of 28 songs to dance to in the kitchen on Valentine’s Day.

1. A Dedication by Washed Out

“Don’t be scared it’s over now, I swear.”
Everything’s okay when you’re in each other’s arms.

2. It’s Different by Dear Rouge

“It’s so different when we touch.”
A Valentine song for the sweet and passionate butterflies that last.

3. Beth/Rest by Bon Iver

“Our love is a star, sure some hazardry, for the light before and after most indefinitely.”
Poetic and lovely.

4. Hot Dreams by Timber Timbre

“I wanna wake, I wanna wake, I wanna wake from hot dreams of you.”
If you want something sexy, this is the one.

5. Journal of Ardency by Class Actress

“This game of cruelty is easily the most boring part of the week.”
Love can be so cruel.

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6. Summer Wine by Nancy Sinatra and Lee Hazlewood

“Strawberries, cherries and an angel’s kiss in spring. My summer wine is really made from all these things.”
Maybe you’re tipsy on each other’s company, or maybe it’s the wine.

7. Voilà by Françoise Hardy

“Voilà je regarde les autres pourtant je ne leur trouve rien.”
Just say, “Je t’aime.”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cqegv4qoEdo

8. Stay by Rihanna ft. Mikky Ekko

“All along it was a fever. A cold sweat hot-headed believer.”
Is it hot in here?

9. Pull Me Down by Mikky Ekko

“But your name is a wave washing over me. No games just a slave to you totally.”
You know you’re in it for good when you’ll let your lover pull you down.

10. Tiff by Poliça ft. Justin Vernon

“Go ahead and play for keeps.”
Embrace and sway a little with this tune.

11. You Got Me by The Roots ft. Erykah Badu

“If you were worried ’bout where I been or who I saw or what club I went to with my homies, baby don’t worry you know that you got me.”
Some hot hip hop for lovers.

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12. Under Your Spell by Desire

“I don’t eat, I don’t sleep, I do nothing but think of you.”
You can both drink the love potion tonight.

13. Fifteen by Goldroom ft. Chela

“It’s been a long time, wondering why the summer smells like sin and wonder.”
It’s like being back in high school with this Valentine song.

14. Big Jet Plane by Angus and Julia Stone

“She said, ‘Hello mister, pleased to meet ya.’ I wanna hold her, I wanna kiss her. She smelled of daisies.”
A Valentine song full of longing and wanderlust.

15. Harvest Moon by Neil Young

“When we were strangers, I watched you from afar. When we were lovers, I loved you with all my heart.”
For dancing in the moonlight, or the candlelight.

16. Can’t Help Falling in Love by Elvis

“Like a river flows surely to the sea, Darling, so it goes, some things are meant to be.”
Maybe it’s foolish, maybe it’s fate. It’s surely a sweet Valentine song.

17. Cigarettes and Coffee by Otis Redding

“Darling, I’ve been so satisfied. Honey, since I met you.”
The fatal attraction of coffee and cigarettes can’t keep you from dancing to this Valentine song.

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18. Sea of Love by Phil Phillips

“Do you remember when we met? That’s the day I knew you were my pet.”
An oldie but goodie.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EroRtEUmZcU

19. Coffee by Sylvan Esso

“Wrap me in your arms. I can’t feel it, but rock me in your arms.”
Just do as Sylvan says there.

20. Let Her Go by Passenger

“You see her when you close your eyes. Maybe one day you’ll understand why.”
All you need to understand is the feeling of each other close and swaying.

21. Anna Mashup by Taken by Trees and CFCF

“You will never see what you mean to me.”
It’s cute and it’s sweet.

22. For Your Love by Stevie Wonder

“And for your love I would do anything. Just to see you smile upon your face.”
If you would do anything, start by dancing to a Valentine song in the kitchen.

23. Je Suis Perdue by Gigi Gaston

“Je perde le sommeil et je perde le pétille.”
If you’re losing sleep, let it be to dancing to this Valentine song.

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24. Your Sweet Touch by Bahamas

“Time means so much if all I have is your sweet touch.”
A Valentine song for the sweet touch of dancing close.

25. Don’t Worry Baby by The Beach Boys

“Well it’s been building up inside of me for, oh, I don’t know how long. I don’t know why, but I keep thinking something’s bound to go wrong.”
Not much can go wrong when you’re dancing in the kitchen to a Valentine song.

26. Silver Springs by Fleetwood Mac

“You could be my silver springs, blue green colors flashing. I would be your only dream, your shining autumn, ocean crashing.”
A sort of sad one, but lovely nonetheless.

27. Make You Feel My Love by Bob Dylan

“When the rain is blowin’ in your face, and the whole world is on your case, I could offer you a warm embrace, to make you feel my love.”
A Valentine song for a sweet embrace.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ql2qlO8HH20

28. You’re the Best by Wet

“I can’t forget. Hold these arms around me. Think of how you found me, found me in those arms.”
A Valentine song for the best one yet.

If you’re still looking for some sizzling Valentine’s Day date ideas, read this: How to Plan a Romantic Valentine’s Day Date for Your Loved One.

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Last Updated on February 18, 2019

13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with It and Enjoy the Ride

13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with It and Enjoy the Ride

Fear. I spend my life talking about fear — fighting fears, fixing fears and understanding fears. And yet I doubt I get 10 calls a year from people saying “Mandie can you help me fix my fear?”

Why is this so critically important to you?

The realization for me is that fear is not the fundamental driving force in your life it’s what regardless of whether I’m talking to a doctor, a teacher, a CEO’s, a senior citizens or teenager – every single one of those conversations has a direct correlation with your world.

Fear can range from the overwhelming desire to look away or stop in your tracks to literally fleeing your country and the life you knew. In this article, I will share you with 13 tips to face your fears and enjoy the ride.

1. Know That Fear Is Real, but Can Be Overcome

Right now around the world people are facing fear — real fear. Fear that I pray my children and I will never experience. Does that lessen my fears or your fears in your relativity safe 21st century life?

When I look at the world we all live in, I find that fear like so many other emotions can mean so many different things to so many different people:

  • The child who has to be physically dragged to their first day of school.
  • The man facing the judge.
  • The woman with her hand poised over the buttons over her phone because she has to walk down a dark corridor late at night alone.
  • The man as the surgeon says “count backwards from 10 Mr Smith.”
  • The woman that’s told “We are sorry, we can’t help you.”
  • The man that faces the empty circle of a gun and prays for his very existence.

These and a million more (Portrayed in every kind of movie, book or song you could imagine) are what make us human. We face fear and somehow move forward or are stopped in our tracks.

Like the rabbit in the headlights of the car that veers off through the field away from the tyres of the car or stays still praying for salvation. Like someone will save them. Sound familiar?

Fear is huge. Fear is everywhere and yet fear can be overcome, controlled and can even be a power for good.

2. Accept Your Fear

Firstly if you aren’t facing the barrel of the gun, atrocities that make the news or impeding death, that’s a good start. However it doesn’t mean your fear is any less real.

We are quick to say “I can’t moan, my life is not as bad as X.” While in theory, that’s honorable your appreciation of Mr. or Mrs. X’s horrific life won’t change anything directly. So accept your fear is relative to you.

And here’s what can be done.

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3. Get Some Perspective

I found myself asking anyone that would answer “what is your worst fear”. The answer that intrigued me the most came from my daughter (15 years old and she usually has a copy of Fight the Fear – my book – in her school bag so she can help someone else be as positive and confident as her. No matter what life throws up.)

And her fear, surprised me — heights. I pointed out that we live in a sprawling bungalow (one storey) and the highest she goes is two storeys’ at school! She laughed but added, fear isn’t like that Mum. I know it’s not a real fear, but it’s like when you stand on a chair and feel unsafe.

That girl will go far. Because she truly gets fear.

We know something is scary and yet we still do it. Why? Because we have a perspective to the fear. When you lose perspective, it can feel too big, and too scary.

So look around you to get some perspective on your fear:

  • Are you really at risk?
  • Will this kill you?
  • Which leads us on to..
  • If the worse was to happen what would it be?

4. Hold a Hand

As a coach, it is my job to holds someone’s metaphorical hand and help them face a fear.

Like the child petrified of the thunder storm or the teen that can’t get back in a car again after failing their test, your job as a parent is to reassure, encourage, enable and motivate someone to face something that ideally they never would choose to again.

We know many of our fears aren’t real. However, it is only when someone guides us with love, respect, lack of judgement and safety are we able to get through fear. And trust me, you can get through your fears. I’ve seen it so many times.

Ask yourself:

  • If the worse were to happen, what would that be?
  • Could that really happen?
  • If the worse did happen, how would you recover?
  • If the worse were to happen, what would you need to do next?

By seeing fear as not the end destination but part of being human, you can see through it’s wily evil ways and move forward.

5. Know Whose Hand You Hold Either Physically or Emotionally

This helps with fears for the rest of your life.

Think of someone you can always rely on (and ideally you won’t just answer yourself because that adds a lot of pressure to your existence!) And you will find that you’ve already found a way to get through fear.

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The beauty of this is that it means that fear becomes part of life not something to be feared and shied away from.

It means you know you can turn to your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling and say “Right I need to deal with this, and I’m going to need you to help me.”

For one moment, think about it from the other person’s view point. When we get to help other people we feel valued, loved, respected and lots of other positive emotions and we get a good dose of positive chemicals setting off in our bodies too.

Your fear, and your determination to fight it, helped someone else too. Now that’s cool right?

6. Understand That There Are Some Things Fear Will Never Touch

I like to find role models in life — people who have faced heroism, history changing moments, war, atrocities, miracles, life saving inventions.

Not everyone was looking for greatness, however they all found it. And one of my favourite books to date is written about Alistair Urquhart, the forgotten highlander. If this doesn’t get turned into a film in the future, then no man’s story is likely to.

Alistair went through the most horrific experiences in the 2nd world war. If you think of one of the awful things that happened back then in our world, Alistair went through at least 3 of them! Asked afterwards how did you cope? He talked about how whatever they did to his body, no matter how they starved, tortured, threatened or mocked him, they couldn’t have his mind. In his mind he was free.

Of all the people’s voices I’ve heard in my head over the years, this is one of those statements that reminds me anything is possible if you have faith and hope.

Look for the things in life that fear can’t touch. They will create confidence and faith for the future, whatever you face. And they will give you a sense of why being you is awesome.

Of all the billions of people on this planet, no one will have an answer identical to yours!

7. Process Your Fears to Carry on with Life

Being brave is not about sticking your chest out and smiling regardless of what hell you endure. It is about finding a way to emotionally process your fears to be able to keep going.

I have a tool kit of things I can rely on – tools, strategies, techniques. They include people to hug or talk to, music. hobbies, walks on the beach and even my favourite food. It sounds mad but at the times where I have questioned “how will I get through this?” I’ve found immense joy in doing the most unlikely of thing that makes me smile.

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It may be a short lived moment of happiness. However, it reminded that nothing stays the same and I can find away.

One client told me that it was crazy when it felt like their world was falling around their ears to run a bath to the brim (you don’t waste water) get the best bath oils, light too many candles, lock the door and drink a glass of bubbly (champagne is only for special occasions.)

Did that moment fix the disaster that my clients life felt? No, however it gave them a moment of calm and the brain is far quicker to find solutions, resolve and motivation to keep going when you do that.

It may feel like madness to do something you love, however it can be a powerful way to help you find solutions to the fears you face in life.

8. Assume the Worse

If you read the statement from the client above. Notice how they assumed it was wrong to fill the bath up to the top? How bubbly is only for special occasions?

Think how naughty they felt to be doing something that was not allowed?

  • Think about what age it may have made them feel?
  • Think about how they feel about champagne?
  • What special moments it’s been a part of in their lives?

And you can see how the assumptions they made about their “right” to have these things was not healthy.

When I drag the assumptions out of people’s words for them to see, they are often struck by how negative the words make them feel.

Don’t assume your words aren’t impacting on you. You can go through fear and actually enjoy the ride when you take the time to understand how you are letting words get to you.

9. Take a Fear That Feels Insurmountable Right Now.

If you were to repeat it to me out loud, what would you say?

Would you have blame on yourself in there? Would you assume others can do it and it’s just you? Would you feel small, unsuccessful, useless, unworthy?

Usually, when you do this exercise, you are able to spot the untruths that run wild in your head convincing you that you are doomed. And rarely when we are faced with our assumptions is there is a lot of evidence to them.

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10. You Are Not Defined by Your Fear

One fear does not define your life – be mindful of that. It is likely to lead you to thinking of all the times you’ve succeeded and bring a moment of calm, confidence and faith back to you.

11. Go with Fear

When you learn to go with fear, you could find yourself actually having fun, no seriously – having fun.

I have a few amazing clients I’m working with right now who would describe themselves as life long worriers, or pessimists. In the past that has served them well, enabling them to keep safe, steer clear of risks and even develop strategies in the event of disasters. However, now they find it’s becoming hard to break the cycle and they really want to because it’s holding them back.

Notice how they’ve found their hidden fears and want to face them?

One client said “I knew this was going to be tough, and I knew I couldn’t fight it alone and I knew you would be the one to help me.” Before I sat an incredibly successful, confident, capable business owner with a family and a social life to die for.

However, I’ve learned that the most successful looking lives can hide things that impact on life, success, love, happiness and business.

We didn’t start with the fear that they felt was holding them back, we broke the fear down, and found lots of little obstacles that had been deemed as “life” and “unchangeable” and “that’s just the way it is” by developing awareness to the little steps on the road to their obstacles to happiness and success they were able to tackle them in a different way.

12. Discover Great Skills in Your Scary Moments

And in that clients words “I came here to work with you to grow my company, and my own personal skills. I didn’t expect to get the children to be cleaning up after themselves and my partner being more attentive! It all feels a little magic.”

The moral is that out of the scariest of moments, we can find great skills we didn’t know we had. Find better, healthier, happier ways to live and find ways to enjoy life more. (And have a bit of magic!)

What a great place to be in ready for the next fear that thinks it’s going to get in the way of you, right?

13. Own Your Fear

Think back over these tips and come up with at least one example for each one. Write them down. Put them on your phone. Turn them into a piece of art. Turn them into a poem. Frame them. Go for a fast walk across the fields, beach, down town and repeat these things in your head to the sound of your feet on the ground.

We rarely take the time to appreciate how far we have come, how much we can achieve or what we are capable of – by really owning the tips in this article you will have given your brain a big fat dose of “Damn right I can do this!” and the motivation and accountability to say “Let’s find a way” through any fear.

You can’t help but feel good when you see that can you? And fear doesn’t stand a chance, does it?

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