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27 Life Lessons in 27 Fabulous Years

27 Life Lessons in 27 Fabulous Years


    Age is a state of mind. It is said that “if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter”.

    Yet when I recently turned 27, a desire to stop for a moment crept in. “In almost three decades,” I thought to myself, “What is it that I have done and what is it that I wished to do instead?”

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    Though I’m not sure as to what my impact has been in this world, I decided to see how the world has impacted me instead. We spend our lives trying to learn, grasping as much knowledge as we can to get ahead of the game. We learn from the brave and from the cowardly, the rich and the not-so-rich, the greedy and the selfless.

    So it made me wonder:

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    “What is it that I’ve learned in these short but fabulous years and which thoughts would I like to keep close to my heart forever?”

    Here are 27 of my most valuable learnings that have given meaning to my life:

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    1. Make friends slowly…and then never let them go.
    2. Meditate every day; sometimes even your mind needs a break from you.
    3. Play hard even if it means scraping your knees, how else will the world know that you’ve had a hell of a time?
    4. Be open to making mistakes and learn to take criticism constructively. The more you let the ego win, the slower your path to success will be.
    5. Let yourself dream and the magic of sleepless nights will unveil itself.
    6. If you have nothing good to say, say nothing at all; most of the worries of the world are simply the consequences of ill-spoken words.
    7. Accept yourself the way you are – the perfect you and the not-so-perfect you can co-exist in perfect harmony.
    8. Don’t overlook the flawless today in the hopes for a perfect tomorrow.
    9. Magic exists within each of us, all it needs, is to be acknowledged and believed in to come to life.
    10. Accept your mistakes and say “I’m sorry” – for all you know, some might wait a lifetime just to have you back.
    11. The only way to fight evil is to wrap it with love, just like only water can tame a blazing fire.
    12. Learn to live in the moment, it’s all you’ve got and all you’ll ever have.
    13. The process of finding and living your passion can be frustrating, tempting you to give up – but remember, sometimes it is about having the satisfaction that you tried your best rather than the regret of not giving it just one more chance.
    14. Dare yourself. The comfort zone may be comfortable but it is also very restrictive.
    15. Let go of your ego, it only poisons your heart.
    16. Count your blessings; gratitude helps keep your feet on the ground as the mind dreams of conquering the sky.
    17. Believe in yourself and take the leap of faith; it’s never too late to start being who you’ve always wanted to be.
    18. Love needs to be set free like the passing wind. The more you try to hold on to it, the faster it will escape you. Stop seeking it and you’ll be pleasantly surprised to see that it’s always been around and always will be.
    19. Take care of yourself; it’s the most valuable present you can give your loved ones.
    20. Don’t avoid the garden sprinklers, they won’t blemish your dress but add a sparkle to it instead.
    21. I love you – when was the last time you said it?
    22. Listen, respect and be considerate of the elderly – their unconditional love and intricate life experiences are where the treasures of the world are hidden.
    23. Laugh more often; let your vibrant smile tell your fabulous story.
    24. Write everyday – it’s the most effective way to get clarity on your thoughts and overcome your inner critique.
    25. Curiosity is the youthfulness of the mind, never get complacent and you will be young forever.
    26. Life is not a race and its the journey that matters – irrespective of how far you’ve gone on the wrong path, quit, and start over.
    27. Don’t let society bully you away from your hearts calling. Believe in yourself, follow your instincts and create the path you wish to travel.

    So, what life lessons are close to your heart? Let me know in the comments.

    (Photo credit: Apple over Books via Shutterstock)

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    Last Updated on February 15, 2019

    Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

    Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

    In Personal Development-speak, we are always talking about goals, outcomes, success, desires and dreams. In other words, all the stuff we want to do, achieve and create in our world.

    And while it’s important for us to know what we want to achieve (our goal), it’s also important for us to understand why we want to achieve it; the reason behind the goal or some would say, our real goal.

    Why is goal setting important?

    1. Your needs and desire will be fulfilled.

    Sometimes when we explore our “why”, (why we want to achieve a certain thing) we realize that our “what” (our goal) might not actually deliver us the thing (feeling, emotion, internal state) we’re really seeking.

    For example, the person who has a goal to lose weight in the belief that weight loss will bring them happiness, security, fulfillment, attention, popularity and the partner of their dreams. In this instance, their “what” is weight-loss and their “why” is happiness (etc.) and a partner.

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    Six months later, they have lost the weight (achieved their goal) but as is often the case, they’re not happier, not more secure, not more confident, not more fulfilled and in keeping with their miserable state, they have failed to attract their dream partner.

    After all, who wants to be with someone who’s miserable? They achieved their practical goal but still failed to have their needs met.

    So they set a goal to lose another ten pounds. And then another. And maybe just ten more. With the destructive and erroneous belief that if they can get thin enough, they’ll find their own personal nirvana. And we all know how that story ends.

    2. You’ll find out what truly motivates you

    The important thing in the process of constructing our best life is not necessarily what goals we set (what we think we want) but what motivates us towards those goals (what we really want).

    The sooner we begin to explore, identify and understand what motivates us towards certain achievements, acquisitions or outcomes (that is, we begin moving towards greater consciousness and self awareness), the sooner we will make better decisions for our life, set more intelligent (and dare I say, enlightened) goals and experience more fulfilment and less frustration.

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    We all know people who have achieved what they set out to, only to end up in the same place or worse (emotionally, psychologically, sociologically) because what they were chasing wasn’t really what they were needing.

    What we think we want will rarely provide us with what we actually need.

    3. Your state of mind will be a lot healthier

    We all set specific goals to achieve/acquire certain things (a job, a car, a partner, a better body, a bank balance, a title, a victory) because at some level, most of us believe (consciously or not) that the achievement of those goals will bring us what we really seek; joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

    Of course, setting practical, material and financial goals is an intelligent thing to do considering the world we live in and how that world works.

    But setting goals with an expectation that the achievement of certain things in our external, physical world will automatically create an internal state of peace, contentment, joy and total happiness is an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset to inhabit.

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    What you truly want and need

    Sometimes we need to look beyond the obvious (superficial) goals to discover and secure what we really want.

    Sadly, we live in a collective mindset which teaches that the prettiest and the wealthiest are the most successful.

    Some self-help frauds even teach this message. If you’re rich or pretty, you’re happy. If you’re both, you’re very happy. Pretty isn’t what we really want; it’s what we believe pretty will bring us. Same goes with money.

    When we cut through the hype, the jargon and the self-help mumbo jumbo, we all have the same basic goals, desires and needs:

    Joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

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    Nobody needs a mansion or a sport’s car but we all need love.

    Nobody needs massive pecs, six percent body-fat, a face lift or bigger breasts but we all need connection, acceptance and understanding.

    Nobody needs to be famous but we all need peace, calm, balance and happiness.

    The problem is, we live in a culture which teaches that one equals the other. If only we lived in a culture which taught that real success is far more about what’s happening in our internal environment, than our external one.

    It’s a commonly-held belief that we’re all very different and we all have different goals — whether short term or long term goals. But in many ways we’re not, and we don’t; we all want essentially the same things.

    Now all you have to do is see past the fraud and deception and find the right path.

    Featured photo credit: Unsplash via unsplash.com

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