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27 Life Lessons in 27 Fabulous Years

27 Life Lessons in 27 Fabulous Years


    Age is a state of mind. It is said that “if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter”.

    Yet when I recently turned 27, a desire to stop for a moment crept in. “In almost three decades,” I thought to myself, “What is it that I have done and what is it that I wished to do instead?”

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    Though I’m not sure as to what my impact has been in this world, I decided to see how the world has impacted me instead. We spend our lives trying to learn, grasping as much knowledge as we can to get ahead of the game. We learn from the brave and from the cowardly, the rich and the not-so-rich, the greedy and the selfless.

    So it made me wonder:

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    “What is it that I’ve learned in these short but fabulous years and which thoughts would I like to keep close to my heart forever?”

    Here are 27 of my most valuable learnings that have given meaning to my life:

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    1. Make friends slowly…and then never let them go.
    2. Meditate every day; sometimes even your mind needs a break from you.
    3. Play hard even if it means scraping your knees, how else will the world know that you’ve had a hell of a time?
    4. Be open to making mistakes and learn to take criticism constructively. The more you let the ego win, the slower your path to success will be.
    5. Let yourself dream and the magic of sleepless nights will unveil itself.
    6. If you have nothing good to say, say nothing at all; most of the worries of the world are simply the consequences of ill-spoken words.
    7. Accept yourself the way you are – the perfect you and the not-so-perfect you can co-exist in perfect harmony.
    8. Don’t overlook the flawless today in the hopes for a perfect tomorrow.
    9. Magic exists within each of us, all it needs, is to be acknowledged and believed in to come to life.
    10. Accept your mistakes and say “I’m sorry” – for all you know, some might wait a lifetime just to have you back.
    11. The only way to fight evil is to wrap it with love, just like only water can tame a blazing fire.
    12. Learn to live in the moment, it’s all you’ve got and all you’ll ever have.
    13. The process of finding and living your passion can be frustrating, tempting you to give up – but remember, sometimes it is about having the satisfaction that you tried your best rather than the regret of not giving it just one more chance.
    14. Dare yourself. The comfort zone may be comfortable but it is also very restrictive.
    15. Let go of your ego, it only poisons your heart.
    16. Count your blessings; gratitude helps keep your feet on the ground as the mind dreams of conquering the sky.
    17. Believe in yourself and take the leap of faith; it’s never too late to start being who you’ve always wanted to be.
    18. Love needs to be set free like the passing wind. The more you try to hold on to it, the faster it will escape you. Stop seeking it and you’ll be pleasantly surprised to see that it’s always been around and always will be.
    19. Take care of yourself; it’s the most valuable present you can give your loved ones.
    20. Don’t avoid the garden sprinklers, they won’t blemish your dress but add a sparkle to it instead.
    21. I love you – when was the last time you said it?
    22. Listen, respect and be considerate of the elderly – their unconditional love and intricate life experiences are where the treasures of the world are hidden.
    23. Laugh more often; let your vibrant smile tell your fabulous story.
    24. Write everyday – it’s the most effective way to get clarity on your thoughts and overcome your inner critique.
    25. Curiosity is the youthfulness of the mind, never get complacent and you will be young forever.
    26. Life is not a race and its the journey that matters – irrespective of how far you’ve gone on the wrong path, quit, and start over.
    27. Don’t let society bully you away from your hearts calling. Believe in yourself, follow your instincts and create the path you wish to travel.

    So, what life lessons are close to your heart? Let me know in the comments.

    (Photo credit: Apple over Books via Shutterstock)

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    The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

    The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

    Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

    The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

    1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

    Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

     I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

    To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

    And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

     2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

    Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

    3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

    Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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    4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

    The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

    5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

    Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

    6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

    Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

    7. Positive people smile a lot!

    When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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    8. People who are positive are great communicators.

    They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

    9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

    One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

    10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

    Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

    How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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    I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

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