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24 Enriching Activities 50-Somethings Should Do In Their Free Time

24 Enriching Activities 50-Somethings Should Do In Their Free Time

Life starts at 40, as the famous saying goes. But what many people are unaware of is that the fun stuff starts at 50. In your earlier years, you were preoccupied with things like trying to figure out your career, buying a house, and finding “the one”. But now that you’re married, have bought a home, secured your career (and hopefully your retirement), and gained wisdom from years of experience, everything’s looking a lot brighter for you right now.

The time has come to reap the fruits of years of hardships and struggles. By this time, you would ideally have lots of free time to be spent with friends, family, and yourself. Here are 24 enriching activities every 50-something should do in the free time.

Educate yourself

1. Take a language course

Aside from the fun of it, learning a new language is always great since you never know when you might encounter the need for such. This is especially great for avid travelers since it is definitely an advantage be able to converse with the locals.

It is quite common for tourists to get lost while on the road, and asking directions from locals is always a great solution.  The problem is, some of them might not be proficient in English (much less your native tongue). Knowing the local language can definitely help you with getting directions towards your destination. To learn another language at your own pace, you can look for podcasts that can be synced to your mobile device so you can listen to audio tutorials wherever you go.

 2. Learn arts and crafts

Arts and crafts aren’t just for children; it’s basically for everyone.  Aside from adding another talent on your skill set, working on a craft like building models, sketching, origami, pottery, or painting creates a state of mind that greatly improves focus. This then arouses feelings of great accomplishment with each masterpiece created. If you don’t know where to start, there are tons of free tutorials on the Internet that you can learn from.

 3. Learn restoration

You probably have an old bike, an old car, or an old juke box that hold so much memories, which unfortunately couldn’t stand the test of time. You can save a lot in carpentry/mechanic fees if you learn how to fix things yourself.  You can start with fixing simple items like chairs, tables, and shelves to hone your skills.

4. Study photography

If the idea of creating images on canvases with your hands isn’t too appealing, perhaps using a camera can do the trick. It may be an expensive hobby, and it may take time to get really good at it, but it’s always worth trying. If you’re new to this, make sure to read product reviews online and ask advice from other photography enthusiasts before buying your own camera. This is to make sure that you won’t waste your money on a camera that doesn’t fit you.

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5. Learn to play a musical instrument

Learning to play a musical instrument brings a wide array of perks. It teaches you discipline, eases stress, builds confidence, and lets you discover history and culture. All of us have a certain piece of instrument that we’ve always wanted to play. Besides taking classes, you can learn on your own by reading books and watching instructional videos online.

6. Learn to cook

Learning how to cook for yourself makes you healthier at little cost since you’ll be buying and cooking the ingredients yourself. You can even cook yourself your favorite dish whenever you want. Just learn how to cook by on YouTube, from DVDs or traditional cookbooks.

7. Study the humanities

Studying the humanities will generally help you expand your horizons. Fields like philosophy, history, and religion tackle life from many different angles. If you love intellectual discussions, this one’s for you. The Internet and your local library are bound to have an enormous repository of resources on these subjects.

8. Watch documentaries

If you like to learn but don’t really have the patience to read, watch documentaries videos. Videos make things more alive and more enjoyable to pay attention to,and so are  are easier to absorb compared to reading. You can download these materials online, or catch them on certain television channels like History, Animal Planet, Discovery Channel, and National Geographic Channel.

Go outdoors

9. Fishing

There’s something truly relaxing when drinking beer on a boat in the middle of a calm lake while waiting for the fish to take the bait. You don’t really have to worry about boat rentals since they aren’t that expensive. Fishing is best done with your pals or kids; it is an exciting activity even if you don’t get to have the big ones bite. Look up your directory or find the best fishing places near your home.

10. Make your own garden

Only a few activities can do what gardening does. It gives you this intense feeling of joy once the seeds that you sow become sprouts. This gets better when they start flowering or making fruits or vegetables. You also get some much needed time with nature because you’d be spending time landscaping, watering, and putting fences around your garden.

To start with, decide what you should plant on your garden based on the weather in your area and your capabilities to look after one. Then, you need seeds, fertilizer, a shovel, a hand trowel, and a bucket, then you’re good to go. Make sure you do this on an area spacious enough for the plants to grow. Read up on how to start, attend conferences, or simply ask other people who have done this before for tips and instructions.

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11. Take care of chickens

Having chickens around is nice since these guys are simply harmless and are fairly good companions. Unlike other farm animals like cows, pigs, goats, and horses, chickens are a lot easier to take care of. Their small size means you won’t need to invest in large space and food compared to four-legged livestock. Best of all, their fecal matter doesn’t stink as much as cows’ and pigs’.

Allot a small area in your background for their cages. If you want them running around, make sure your yard has fences to keep them away from cats and dogs and wandering off to your neighbors.

12. Watch local sports games

Sports are always exciting. Take a break from watching the professional league on TV to see the local action regardless if you have a kid playing or not. Aside from witnessing young talents grow, attending local games is a great place for you to meet like-mined folks of the same age.

Start by picking a sport that you’re most interested in, then looking up for a local team or simply support your alma mater’s team. Crowds cheering for college and high school teams are always passionate groups, join the wild crowds to experience the excitment.

Exercise

13. Jog

Jogging has always been one of the most popular ways to stay fit. It typically results in weight loss, better sleeping habits, and improved appetite. Do this around the park or your neighborhood at your convenience.

14. Ride a bike

Riding a bike is the same as jogging to some extent, in terms of health benefits. The big difference here is that you can reach farther places, and in some cases, it can be more fun since you’re running on wheels. Taking out your bike for a ride on a sunny afternoon around the neighborhood gives you a good opportunity to break a sweat and sometimes catch up with your buddies next door.

15. Take a swimming class

Moving in the water would require a certain level of physical strength and technique, thereby improving cardiovascular and muscular health. It also tones the muscles, particularly the ones at the back, arms, and legs, which ultimately makes people look lean. Moreover, taking a dip in cold blue waters on a hot summer afternoon is truly refreshing, You can start out at the public pool or the beach. If you have money to spare, opt for a premium membership at some resort.

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16. Go hiking

One of the best ways to get fit and get close to the nature is by hiking out to the great outdoors. This would give you that much-needed break from the urban setting. You would see and experience new things, like the adrenaline once you’re standing on a mountain peak, overlooking a majestic landscape.  Consider exploring a cave, a hill, an uncharted island, or a native forest for some adventure.

Have fun at home

17. Host card games

Playing cards is one of the best pastimes around. With just a single deck of 52 cards, you can come up with hundreds of games. Aside from being fun, these games will help keep everyone’s minds alert. Invite friends or family to the house and have a few rounds on the patio. The feeling is just thrilling since you’re never really sure if you would win or lose.

18. Play bingo online

If everyone in the house is away, or your buddies aren’t available, or you’re simply feeling lazy about going out, you can consider playing bingo online. This saves you the hassle of dressing up and traveling to the bingo hall.

While it is still best played with friends and family, playing it online doesn’t make it less of a social game. There are numerous sites that allow you to talk and play with other people.

19. Track your family tree

There’s that part of us which longs for knowing about our roots. Tracking your family’s ancestry will definitely take a lot of time and research. Regardless of how far back you can trace, it is always a good gift to pass it on to your young. Knowing about the roots and family’s history will definitely give them pride in their family name.

You may need to travel a bit to get your research done, but you can start by looking through your old photo albums.  Just find out if there’re any notes or labels that can give you the information you need. You can even ask your older relatives or family friends about your family’s history.

20. Play board games

Board games, like Monopoly, are typically good for the whole family because of the friendly competition. If you’re up for quality time with one of your buddies, opt for Chess or Chinese Checkers. One-on-one strategy games like these breed healthy competition and improve mental dexterity.

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21. Yoga

Not only does yoga improve your physical health, but also benefits your mental and spiritual health. It improves a person’s quality of life by bringing mental clarity and building harmony with the surroundings through meditation. The numerous breathing techniques and flexibility exercises are good for body detox. Yoga can be tough to learn. Consider taking a beginners class, since instructions from a trainer would most likely be better than online resources.

Go beyond the usual

22. Learn how to do magic

Learning a magic trick or two is great for entertaining people, especially kids. You can make people laugh during a party or a gathering; it also gives you the excuse to have the children sit around you and watch. You can buy items for magic tricks in the mall.

23. Learn a martial art

It’s never too late to be a karate master. Aside from being good for self-defense, learning martial arts also benefits the body, mind, and soul. The high flying moves and the rigorous training all stem from different philosophical teachings and are merely the metaphor for them. Look for a good instructor around town and enroll for a class.

24. Do voluntary work

If you feel like embarking on a mission to give back and make a positive change in society, then doing voluntary work is the way to go. Choose a local NGO that takes part or initiate activities that include making a positive change towards something you care about. This could involve saving the environment, advocating animal welfare, or feeding and educating the less fortunate. Choose one that you can devote your time to. Participating in altruistic activities is a win-win situation: it benefits you as it always feels good to contribute to a cause bigger than yourself, while the needs of those at the receiving end of your help will be met.

As you free yourself from the anxieties of forging a career, finding a spouse, buying a home and several of the what-ifs of your life, you can now focus on pursuing other talents you’re capable of, as well as nurturing your relationship with yourself and others. You’ll be a lot happier as you get closer to your full potential as a human being.

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Last Updated on February 20, 2019

13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with Them and Enjoy the Ride

13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with Them and Enjoy the Ride

Fear. I spend my life talking about fear — fighting fears, fixing fears and understanding fears. And yet I doubt I get 10 calls a year from people saying “Mandie can you help me fix my fear?”

Why is this so critically important to you?

The realization for me is that fear is not the fundamental driving force in your life it’s what regardless of whether I’m talking to a doctor, a teacher, a CEO’s, a senior citizens or teenager – every single one of those conversations has a direct correlation with your world.

Fear can range from the overwhelming desire to look away or stop in your tracks to literally fleeing your country and the life you knew. In this article, I will share you with 13 tips to face your fears and enjoy the ride.

1. Know That Fear Is Real, but Can Be Overcome

Right now around the world people are facing fear — real fear. Fear that I pray my children and I will never experience. Does that lessen my fears or your fears in your relativity safe 21st century life?

When I look at the world we all live in, I find that fear like so many other emotions can mean so many different things to so many different people:

  • The child who has to be physically dragged to their first day of school.
  • The man facing the judge.
  • The woman with her hand poised over the buttons over her phone because she has to walk down a dark corridor late at night alone.
  • The man as the surgeon says “count backwards from 10 Mr Smith.”
  • The woman that’s told “We are sorry, we can’t help you.”
  • The man that faces the empty circle of a gun and prays for his very existence.

These and a million more (Portrayed in every kind of movie, book or song you could imagine) are what make us human. We face fear and somehow move forward or are stopped in our tracks.

Like the rabbit in the headlights of the car that veers off through the field away from the tyres of the car or stays still praying for salvation. Like someone will save them. Sound familiar?

Fear is huge. Fear is everywhere and yet fear can be overcome, controlled and can even be a power for good.

2. Accept Your Fear

Firstly if you aren’t facing the barrel of the gun, atrocities that make the news or impeding death, that’s a good start. However it doesn’t mean your fear is any less real.

We are quick to say “I can’t moan, my life is not as bad as X.” While in theory, that’s honorable your appreciation of Mr. or Mrs. X’s horrific life won’t change anything directly. So accept your fear is relative to you.

And here’s what can be done.

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3. Get Some Perspective

I found myself asking anyone that would answer “what is your worst fear”. The answer that intrigued me the most came from my daughter (15 years old and she usually has a copy of Fight the Fear – my book – in her school bag so she can help someone else be as positive and confident as her. No matter what life throws up.)

And her fear, surprised me — heights. I pointed out that we live in a sprawling bungalow (one storey) and the highest she goes is two storeys’ at school! She laughed but added, fear isn’t like that Mum. I know it’s not a real fear, but it’s like when you stand on a chair and feel unsafe.

That girl will go far. Because she truly gets fear.

We know something is scary and yet we still do it. Why? Because we have a perspective to the fear. When you lose perspective, it can feel too big, and too scary.

So look around you to get some perspective on your fear:

  • Are you really at risk?
  • Will this kill you?
  • Which leads us on to..
  • If the worse was to happen what would it be?

4. Hold a Hand

As a coach, it is my job to holds someone’s metaphorical hand and help them face a fear.

Like the child petrified of the thunder storm or the teen that can’t get back in a car again after failing their test, your job as a parent is to reassure, encourage, enable and motivate someone to face something that ideally they never would choose to again.

We know many of our fears aren’t real. However, it is only when someone guides us with love, respect, lack of judgement and safety are we able to get through fear. And trust me, you can get through your fears. I’ve seen it so many times.

Ask yourself:

  • If the worse were to happen, what would that be?
  • Could that really happen?
  • If the worse did happen, how would you recover?
  • If the worse were to happen, what would you need to do next?

By seeing fear as not the end destination but part of being human, you can see through it’s wily evil ways and move forward.

5. Know Whose Hand You Hold Either Physically or Emotionally

This helps with fears for the rest of your life.

Think of someone you can always rely on (and ideally you won’t just answer yourself because that adds a lot of pressure to your existence!) And you will find that you’ve already found a way to get through fear.

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The beauty of this is that it means that fear becomes part of life not something to be feared and shied away from.

It means you know you can turn to your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling and say “Right I need to deal with this, and I’m going to need you to help me.”

For one moment, think about it from the other person’s view point. When we get to help other people we feel valued, loved, respected and lots of other positive emotions and we get a good dose of positive chemicals setting off in our bodies too.

Your fear, and your determination to fight it, helped someone else too. Now that’s cool right?

6. Understand That There Are Some Things Fear Will Never Touch

I like to find role models in life — people who have faced heroism, history changing moments, war, atrocities, miracles, life saving inventions.

Not everyone was looking for greatness, however they all found it. And one of my favourite books to date is written about Alistair Urquhart, the forgotten highlander. If this doesn’t get turned into a film in the future, then no man’s story is likely to.

Alistair went through the most horrific experiences in the 2nd world war. If you think of one of the awful things that happened back then in our world, Alistair went through at least 3 of them! Asked afterwards how did you cope? He talked about how whatever they did to his body, no matter how they starved, tortured, threatened or mocked him, they couldn’t have his mind. In his mind he was free.

Of all the people’s voices I’ve heard in my head over the years, this is one of those statements that reminds me anything is possible if you have faith and hope.

Look for the things in life that fear can’t touch. They will create confidence and faith for the future, whatever you face. And they will give you a sense of why being you is awesome.

Of all the billions of people on this planet, no one will have an answer identical to yours!

7. Process Your Fears to Carry on with Life

Being brave is not about sticking your chest out and smiling regardless of what hell you endure. It is about finding a way to emotionally process your fears to be able to keep going.

I have a tool kit of things I can rely on – tools, strategies, techniques. They include people to hug or talk to, music. hobbies, walks on the beach and even my favourite food. It sounds mad but at the times where I have questioned “how will I get through this?” I’ve found immense joy in doing the most unlikely of thing that makes me smile.

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It may be a short lived moment of happiness. However, it reminded that nothing stays the same and I can find away.

One client told me that it was crazy when it felt like their world was falling around their ears to run a bath to the brim (you don’t waste water) get the best bath oils, light too many candles, lock the door and drink a glass of bubbly (champagne is only for special occasions.)

Did that moment fix the disaster that my clients life felt? No, however it gave them a moment of calm and the brain is far quicker to find solutions, resolve and motivation to keep going when you do that.

It may feel like madness to do something you love, however it can be a powerful way to help you find solutions to the fears you face in life.

8. Assume the Worse

If you read the statement from the client above. Notice how they assumed it was wrong to fill the bath up to the top? How bubbly is only for special occasions?

Think how naughty they felt to be doing something that was not allowed?

  • Think about what age it may have made them feel?
  • Think about how they feel about champagne?
  • What special moments it’s been a part of in their lives?

And you can see how the assumptions they made about their “right” to have these things was not healthy.

When I drag the assumptions out of people’s words for them to see, they are often struck by how negative the words make them feel.

Don’t assume your words aren’t impacting on you. You can go through fear and actually enjoy the ride when you take the time to understand how you are letting words get to you.

9. Take a Fear That Feels Insurmountable Right Now.

If you were to repeat it to me out loud, what would you say?

Would you have blame on yourself in there? Would you assume others can do it and it’s just you? Would you feel small, unsuccessful, useless, unworthy?

Usually, when you do this exercise, you are able to spot the untruths that run wild in your head convincing you that you are doomed. And rarely when we are faced with our assumptions is there is a lot of evidence to them.

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10. You Are Not Defined by Your Fear

One fear does not define your life – be mindful of that. It is likely to lead you to thinking of all the times you’ve succeeded and bring a moment of calm, confidence and faith back to you.

11. Go with Fear

When you learn to go with fear, you could find yourself actually having fun, no seriously – having fun.

I have a few amazing clients I’m working with right now who would describe themselves as life long worriers, or pessimists. In the past that has served them well, enabling them to keep safe, steer clear of risks and even develop strategies in the event of disasters. However, now they find it’s becoming hard to break the cycle and they really want to because it’s holding them back.

Notice how they’ve found their hidden fears and want to face them?

One client said “I knew this was going to be tough, and I knew I couldn’t fight it alone and I knew you would be the one to help me.” Before I sat an incredibly successful, confident, capable business owner with a family and a social life to die for.

However, I’ve learned that the most successful looking lives can hide things that impact on life, success, love, happiness and business.

We didn’t start with the fear that they felt was holding them back, we broke the fear down, and found lots of little obstacles that had been deemed as “life” and “unchangeable” and “that’s just the way it is” by developing awareness to the little steps on the road to their obstacles to happiness and success they were able to tackle them in a different way.

12. Discover Great Skills in Your Scary Moments

And in that clients words “I came here to work with you to grow my company, and my own personal skills. I didn’t expect to get the children to be cleaning up after themselves and my partner being more attentive! It all feels a little magic.”

The moral is that out of the scariest of moments, we can find great skills we didn’t know we had. Find better, healthier, happier ways to live and find ways to enjoy life more. (And have a bit of magic!)

What a great place to be in ready for the next fear that thinks it’s going to get in the way of you, right?

13. Own Your Fear

Think back over these tips and come up with at least one example for each one. Write them down. Put them on your phone. Turn them into a piece of art. Turn them into a poem. Frame them. Go for a fast walk across the fields, beach, down town and repeat these things in your head to the sound of your feet on the ground.

We rarely take the time to appreciate how far we have come, how much we can achieve or what we are capable of – by really owning the tips in this article you will have given your brain a big fat dose of “Damn right I can do this!” and the motivation and accountability to say “Let’s find a way” through any fear.

You can’t help but feel good when you see that can you? And fear doesn’t stand a chance, does it?

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