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15 Ways to Manage Your FOMO and Avoid Social Media Addiction

15 Ways to Manage Your FOMO and Avoid Social Media Addiction

Perhaps you are parent of a college-going teenager who has multiple social media accounts with lots of real and imaginary friends added. Perhaps you are using Facebook on your office PC, or perhaps you are glued to your smartphone screen to see where your friends are hanging out next and how sexy your friend is looking on an exotic beach while wearing a bikini and posting her pictures publicly on Instagram. It is the urge to look good in our social circles, either when we are actually meeting our friends or using social media, that contributes significantly towards the development of this social media addiction. Out of this sheer addiction we often over-commit ourselves and not only spend excessive money on things, but find they may not enrich our lives.

We all experience such life situations every day as we are living in the world of Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. For us, maintaining a favorable image online is frequently more important than finding time for our own selves and loved ones. We remain hooked up on our laptops and smartphones just to make sure we don’t miss out anything. And if your kids are engaged in any such behavior, you can be sure that they are suffering from what is called Fear of Missing Out, or FOMO…

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FOMO is the fear of missing out on something great and losing social standing, combined with an overwhelming urge to know what is happening around oneself. It is a psychological disorder based upon feelings of insecurity and making poor or incorrect choices.

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Parents play a role

The most important reasons children and adults (especially males in the age bracket of 16-35 years) are caught in the trap of FOMO are neglect and low self-esteem. Recent research studies clearly demonstrated that an unmet need for recognition, low self-esteem, and social exclusion are the key reasons for FOMO. As a parent, you play a part in shaping and controlling this fear and addiction, as it pushes you or your teenage children to excessively use social media for instant gratification and drives the will to get accepted and acknowledged.

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Ways to deal with this

As a parent or as an individual (if you are suffering from FOMO yourself) you can find a way out of this fear. Just try to do few of the following:

  1. Always keep a limited amount of money and no cards in your wallet. You can then have an excuse for not going out with your friends on recurring social events.
  2. Find mobile phone packages with limited or no data plans.
  3. Remove Wi-Fi instruments from your home and use network cable instead for connecting to the internet.
  4. If your employer grants internet access during work, specifically ask them to block or filter your internet connection on your work PC.
  5. Learn to budget properly and do not budget for events where you have to spend money frequently.
  6. Close down social media notifications on your cell phone and other mobile devices.
  7. Learn to develop real contact with your friends rather than only hanging out online.
  8. Learn to enjoy what you are doing now, and in your free time visit your parents rather than hang out with friends.
  9. Look for the positive in every moment and stop making comparisons. Your friend may be having a nice extravagant vacation, but that doesn’t mean she is happy.
  10. Rate your FOMO at http://www.ratemyfomo.com/
  11. Use the power shout technique when you feel the urge to use social media. Just close your eyes, mentally imagine that you are using your Facebook, and while mentally doing that shout, “ STOP!” Your urge to use social media will decrease…try it!
  12. Stop living a false identity. It will sap your time, make you less productive and can cost you your job.
  13. Learn to accept yourself as you are. True friends always remain true friends regardless of whether you meet them or not.
  14. Reduce the number of friends on your social media accounts.
  15. Don’t drive for miles just to check-in on foursquare or to avail ourselves of a deal on Groupon.

I believe it is very important that we learn to manage different priorities in our lives and realistically assess whether we want to just look good, or really become good with no need to live with false identities.

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Last Updated on May 15, 2019

How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity

As it appears, the human mind is not capable of not thinking, at least on the subconscious level. Our mind is always occupied by thoughts, whether we want to or not, and they influence our every action.

“Happiness cannot come from without, it comes from within.” – Helen Keller

When we are still children, our thoughts seem to be purely positive. Have you ever been around a 4-year old who doesn’t like a painting he or she drew? I haven’t. Instead, I see glee, exciting and pride in children’s eyes. But as the years go by, we clutter our mind with doubts, fears and self-deprecating thoughts.

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Just imagine then how much we limit ourselves in every aspect of our lives if we give negative thoughts too much power! We’ll never go after that job we’ve always wanted because our nay-saying thoughts make us doubt our abilities. We’ll never ask that person we like out on a date because we always think we’re not good enough.

We’ll never risk quitting our job in order to pursue the life and the work of our dreams because we can’t get over our mental barrier that insists we’re too weak, too unimportant and too dumb. We’ll never lose those pounds that risk our health because we believe we’re not capable of pushing our limits. We’ll never be able to fully see our inner potential because we simply don’t dare to question the voices in our head.

But enough is enough! It’s time to stop these limiting beliefs and come to a place of sanity, love and excitement about life, work and ourselves.

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So…how exactly are we to achieve that?

It’s not as hard as it may seem; you just have to practice, practice, practice. Here are a few ideas on how you can get started.

1. Learn to substitute every negative thought with a positive one.

Every time a negative thought crawls into your mind, replace it with a positive thought. It’s just like someone writes a phrase you don’t like on a blackboard and then you get up, erase it and write something much more to your liking.

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2. See the positive side of every situation, even when you are surrounded by pure negativity.

This one is a bit harder to put into practice, which does not mean it’s impossible.

You can find positivity in everything by mentally holding on to something positive, whether this be family, friends, your faith, nature, someone’s sparkling eyes or whatever other glimmer of beauty. If you seek it, you will find it.

3. At least once a day, take a moment and think of 5 things you are grateful for.

This will lighten your mood and give you some perspective of what is really important in life and how many blessings surround you already.

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4. Change the mental images you allow to enter your mind.

How you see yourself and your surroundings make a huge difference to your thinking. It is like watching a DVD that saddens and frustrates you, completely pulling you down. Eject that old DVD, throw it away and insert a new, better, more hopeful one instead.

So, instead of dwelling on dark, negative thoughts, consciously build and focus on positive, light and colorful images, thoughts and situations in your mind a few times a day.

If you are persistent and keep on working on yourself, your mind will automatically reject its negative thoughts and welcome the positive ones.

And remember: You are (or will become) what you think you are. This is reason enough to be proactive about whatever is going on in your head.

Featured photo credit: Kyaw Tun via unsplash.com

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