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15 Things Only People Who Have Brothers Would Understand

15 Things Only People Who Have Brothers Would Understand

Brotherhood is truly an amazing bond. Brothers are our friends, bodyguards, rivals, and role models. Older or younger, it doesn’t really matter; brothers are there to help us be the best people we can. Having brothers is a truly unique experience, an experience that is hard to put into words. But I’ll try. Here are 15 things only people who have brothers would understand.

1). Brothers are your oldest, most reliable friends.

No matter what happens in life, we can always rely on our brothers to be there for us. They have been there from the minute you entered their life, and they’ll be there until the minute you die. Having brothers means we will always have that special bond that can never be broken.

2). Brothers won’t let you fight alone.

Having a brother or brothers means always having someone on our side when we need it. Bad foul in a pick-up game? Nasty rumor going around? Brothers are there to set things straight. Or at least help.

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3). Brother let you fight alone (if you need to).

Sometimes brothers let us fight it out alone. Every once in a while we need to duke it out alone. Maybe we threw the first punch. Brothers know that sometimes we need to learn lessons the hard way.

4). Brothers make you want to be better.

Invariably, brothers have an ability to make you give that extra bit of effort. Maybe it’s a look, a saying, or a gesture they have. No matter what it is, when it happens, we have to do better.

5). Brothers make you laugh.

Even if we are having a horrible day, week, month, year, brothers know exactly what to say to make us laugh. Maybe they bring up a great memory, tell a lame joke, or do something so characteristically brotherly we can’t help but laugh. Whatever it is, they know just how to cheer us up.

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6). Brothers try to establish dominance.

Everyone with a brother knows just what this one means. There is no such situation where a brother hasn’t put us in a headlock, destroyed us in a game of HORSE, or tied a noose around our favorite action figure and tossed it up in the oak tree. It all comes with having brothers.

7). Brothers test our limits.

They know exactly what to say or do to make us angry, but every once in a while they push us too far. They make us go berserk. The good thing about going berserk is that our brothers may never push us that far again. They know the consequences.

8). Brothers have no filter.

Every brother will have those moments where they tell us exactly what they think, no matter what. “Did the lawn mower give you a haircut?” or “I saw your fly was down, but didn’t want to say anything.” Sometimes they’ll make up something just for kicks. Brothers will say whatever comes to mind.

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9). Brothers scheme.

Brothers always seem to have evil genius tendencies. They will hold your favorite possessions ransom. “Put all of you money in an envelope behind the toilet or you will never see your Gameboy again!”

10). Brothers give creative nicknames.

Every time we see our brothers, we either have a new nickname or are reminded of one that we thought died in the early 2000s. Sometimes they are totally unrelated to anything at all, but they make them work.

11). Brothers are role models.

At some point in our lives, we realize that our brothers are our role models. We model our fashion, language, jokes, and activities after our brothers. We ask them their opinion on significant others, which schools and careers we should look into, and what is the meaning of life.

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12). Brothers eat fast.

Dinner, supper, lunch, brunch, elevensies, or fourth meal. It doesn’t matter what meal it is, brothers race to finish first. And we can forget about that last slice of pizza we wanted for lunch tomorrow. Odds are that brother dearest ate, bit, or licked it to claim it for his own.

13). Brothers change the rules.

There is no point in actually trying to beat your brothers in anything. The rules, if not established in writing, agreed to under oath, and sanctioned with a blood pact, will alway change to benefit our brothers.

14). Brothers know us best.

There are no other people in the world that know us better than our brothers. Parents, guardians, significant others, and best friends all rank up there, but brothers truly know us best. They speak our language, know our likes and dislikes, and encourage us to be ourselves.

15). Brothers are forever.

No matter how far away they are or how long it has been since our last conversation, brothers will always be there for us. Having brothers means that we will always have someone there to support and encourage us.

Featured photo credit: Ryan McGuire via gratisography.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

    • What will you have accomplished already?
    • How will you feel about yourself?
    • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
    • What does your ideal day look like?
    • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
    • What would you be doing?
    • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    Plan Backwards

    It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

    • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
    • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
    • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
    • What important actions would you have had to take?
    • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
    • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
    • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

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