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15 Things Only People Who Have Brothers Would Understand

15 Things Only People Who Have Brothers Would Understand

Brotherhood is truly an amazing bond. Brothers are our friends, bodyguards, rivals, and role models. Older or younger, it doesn’t really matter; brothers are there to help us be the best people we can. Having brothers is a truly unique experience, an experience that is hard to put into words. But I’ll try. Here are 15 things only people who have brothers would understand.

1). Brothers are your oldest, most reliable friends.

No matter what happens in life, we can always rely on our brothers to be there for us. They have been there from the minute you entered their life, and they’ll be there until the minute you die. Having brothers means we will always have that special bond that can never be broken.

2). Brothers won’t let you fight alone.

Having a brother or brothers means always having someone on our side when we need it. Bad foul in a pick-up game? Nasty rumor going around? Brothers are there to set things straight. Or at least help.

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3). Brother let you fight alone (if you need to).

Sometimes brothers let us fight it out alone. Every once in a while we need to duke it out alone. Maybe we threw the first punch. Brothers know that sometimes we need to learn lessons the hard way.

4). Brothers make you want to be better.

Invariably, brothers have an ability to make you give that extra bit of effort. Maybe it’s a look, a saying, or a gesture they have. No matter what it is, when it happens, we have to do better.

5). Brothers make you laugh.

Even if we are having a horrible day, week, month, year, brothers know exactly what to say to make us laugh. Maybe they bring up a great memory, tell a lame joke, or do something so characteristically brotherly we can’t help but laugh. Whatever it is, they know just how to cheer us up.

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6). Brothers try to establish dominance.

Everyone with a brother knows just what this one means. There is no such situation where a brother hasn’t put us in a headlock, destroyed us in a game of HORSE, or tied a noose around our favorite action figure and tossed it up in the oak tree. It all comes with having brothers.

7). Brothers test our limits.

They know exactly what to say or do to make us angry, but every once in a while they push us too far. They make us go berserk. The good thing about going berserk is that our brothers may never push us that far again. They know the consequences.

8). Brothers have no filter.

Every brother will have those moments where they tell us exactly what they think, no matter what. “Did the lawn mower give you a haircut?” or “I saw your fly was down, but didn’t want to say anything.” Sometimes they’ll make up something just for kicks. Brothers will say whatever comes to mind.

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9). Brothers scheme.

Brothers always seem to have evil genius tendencies. They will hold your favorite possessions ransom. “Put all of you money in an envelope behind the toilet or you will never see your Gameboy again!”

10). Brothers give creative nicknames.

Every time we see our brothers, we either have a new nickname or are reminded of one that we thought died in the early 2000s. Sometimes they are totally unrelated to anything at all, but they make them work.

11). Brothers are role models.

At some point in our lives, we realize that our brothers are our role models. We model our fashion, language, jokes, and activities after our brothers. We ask them their opinion on significant others, which schools and careers we should look into, and what is the meaning of life.

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12). Brothers eat fast.

Dinner, supper, lunch, brunch, elevensies, or fourth meal. It doesn’t matter what meal it is, brothers race to finish first. And we can forget about that last slice of pizza we wanted for lunch tomorrow. Odds are that brother dearest ate, bit, or licked it to claim it for his own.

13). Brothers change the rules.

There is no point in actually trying to beat your brothers in anything. The rules, if not established in writing, agreed to under oath, and sanctioned with a blood pact, will alway change to benefit our brothers.

14). Brothers know us best.

There are no other people in the world that know us better than our brothers. Parents, guardians, significant others, and best friends all rank up there, but brothers truly know us best. They speak our language, know our likes and dislikes, and encourage us to be ourselves.

15). Brothers are forever.

No matter how far away they are or how long it has been since our last conversation, brothers will always be there for us. Having brothers means that we will always have someone there to support and encourage us.

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Last Updated on February 15, 2019

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

In Personal Development-speak, we are always talking about goals, outcomes, success, desires and dreams. In other words, all the stuff we want to do, achieve and create in our world.

And while it’s important for us to know what we want to achieve (our goal), it’s also important for us to understand why we want to achieve it; the reason behind the goal or some would say, our real goal.

Why is goal setting important?

1. Your needs and desire will be fulfilled.

Sometimes when we explore our “why”, (why we want to achieve a certain thing) we realize that our “what” (our goal) might not actually deliver us the thing (feeling, emotion, internal state) we’re really seeking.

For example, the person who has a goal to lose weight in the belief that weight loss will bring them happiness, security, fulfillment, attention, popularity and the partner of their dreams. In this instance, their “what” is weight-loss and their “why” is happiness (etc.) and a partner.

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Six months later, they have lost the weight (achieved their goal) but as is often the case, they’re not happier, not more secure, not more confident, not more fulfilled and in keeping with their miserable state, they have failed to attract their dream partner.

After all, who wants to be with someone who’s miserable? They achieved their practical goal but still failed to have their needs met.

So they set a goal to lose another ten pounds. And then another. And maybe just ten more. With the destructive and erroneous belief that if they can get thin enough, they’ll find their own personal nirvana. And we all know how that story ends.

2. You’ll find out what truly motivates you

The important thing in the process of constructing our best life is not necessarily what goals we set (what we think we want) but what motivates us towards those goals (what we really want).

The sooner we begin to explore, identify and understand what motivates us towards certain achievements, acquisitions or outcomes (that is, we begin moving towards greater consciousness and self awareness), the sooner we will make better decisions for our life, set more intelligent (and dare I say, enlightened) goals and experience more fulfilment and less frustration.

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We all know people who have achieved what they set out to, only to end up in the same place or worse (emotionally, psychologically, sociologically) because what they were chasing wasn’t really what they were needing.

What we think we want will rarely provide us with what we actually need.

3. Your state of mind will be a lot healthier

We all set specific goals to achieve/acquire certain things (a job, a car, a partner, a better body, a bank balance, a title, a victory) because at some level, most of us believe (consciously or not) that the achievement of those goals will bring us what we really seek; joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

Of course, setting practical, material and financial goals is an intelligent thing to do considering the world we live in and how that world works.

But setting goals with an expectation that the achievement of certain things in our external, physical world will automatically create an internal state of peace, contentment, joy and total happiness is an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset to inhabit.

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What you truly want and need

Sometimes we need to look beyond the obvious (superficial) goals to discover and secure what we really want.

Sadly, we live in a collective mindset which teaches that the prettiest and the wealthiest are the most successful.

Some self-help frauds even teach this message. If you’re rich or pretty, you’re happy. If you’re both, you’re very happy. Pretty isn’t what we really want; it’s what we believe pretty will bring us. Same goes with money.

When we cut through the hype, the jargon and the self-help mumbo jumbo, we all have the same basic goals, desires and needs:

Joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

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Nobody needs a mansion or a sport’s car but we all need love.

Nobody needs massive pecs, six percent body-fat, a face lift or bigger breasts but we all need connection, acceptance and understanding.

Nobody needs to be famous but we all need peace, calm, balance and happiness.

The problem is, we live in a culture which teaches that one equals the other. If only we lived in a culture which taught that real success is far more about what’s happening in our internal environment, than our external one.

It’s a commonly-held belief that we’re all very different and we all have different goals — whether short term or long term goals. But in many ways we’re not, and we don’t; we all want essentially the same things.

Now all you have to do is see past the fraud and deception and find the right path.

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