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15 Life Lessons from The Lonely Island

15 Life Lessons from The Lonely Island

For those of you who many not know them by name, The Lonely Island is the parody rap group responsible for many of Saturday Night Live’s viral YouTube hits. Off set of SNL, the group has released three rap albums, all of which are equally satirical, witty and perfectly hilarious.

Andy Samberg, Jorma Taccone and Akiva Schaffer are the musical and lyrical masterminds that make up the group, and–quite frankly–they have a lot of inspirational lifehacks to teach all of us.

Here are 15 life lessons I’ve learned from The Lonely Island:

1. You’re never too old for anything.

Anyone who knows the name Michael Bolton probably knows him for his world famous love songs back in the day. This is the man responsible for “When a Man Loves a Woman” and dozens upon dozens of other soulful love songs.  And, now in his early 60s, this same man is the featured singer of the hit Lonely Island song, “Jack Sparrow.”

If that isn’t proof that you can do and be anything you want to be no matter what age you are, then I just don’t know what is.

Watch “Jack Sparrow” here.

2. Being cool is all about confidence.

If you’ve seen the members of The Lonely Island, then you already know that their oddly attractive persona has very little to do with the way they dress. The hyper masculine attitude of The Dudes is all about confidence and self-respect, no matter what their clothes or behavior would otherwise indicate.

Wearing powder blue turtlenecks and skin tight white pants really isn’t in style these days, but somehow Andy, Jorm and Kiv just pull it off.

Listen to “Turtleneck & Chain” to get a better idea of what I mean.

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3. Throwing things on the ground is funny in almost every situation.

If you’ve read any of my other Lifehack posts, then you may have noticed that I’m a big fan of exercising your inner child and not taking your life too seriously. That’s just one of the many reasons that I’m such a huge Lonely Island fan. As their video and song for “Threw It On The Ground” shows, you can throw just about ANYTHING on the ground and it will be funny to someone.

I think throwing things on the ground is an important part of keeping your outer adult in check. Plus, it looks really funny in slow-mo.

Watch “Threw It On The Ground” here.

4. Nice girls can go hard too.

One of my first and all-time favorites is “Natalie’s Rap” because, much like myself, Natalie Portman comes across as a sweet and innocent goody-goody in many of her on-screen roles.

Any girl who’s ever felt stuck in the “nice girl” stereotype can appreciate Natalie’s willingness to go hard for a day and personify a gangster kingpin whose love of violence, drugs and sex comically contrasts with her normal acting roles.

Watch the uncensored version of “Natalie’s Rap” here.

http://vimeo.com/77383280

5. Work is more fun if you amp yourself up about it.

Even though early Lonely Island favorite, “Like A Boss,” is all about a guy whose job sucks, the upbeat and overly confident nature of the song kind of conveys mixed messages. So if you’re having a bad day at work, try thinking about your job as if it were a hyper-dramatized rap video and your day will likely be much more bearable.

Watch the video for “Like A Boss” here.

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6. Nobody cares that you’re having sex because everyone else is doing it too.

America is pretty well known for hush-hush feelings about airing your sex life in public, but this leads many of us to feel awkward or embarrassed about our sex lives and sexuality. In “I Just Had Sex,” The Lonely Island confronts this nationally awkward topic head-on by rapping about their (hopefully) fictional, embarrassing sex lives.

Watch the video for “I Just Had Sex” here.

7. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

We’ve all heard this saying before, but nothing puts this phrase into perspective quite like “Dreamgirl.” In a slower, R&B-style song, The Dudes list off the characteristics they like about their dream girl. With characteristics including, “skin like asphalt, nose so runny,” this description of a sexy woman is the exact opposite of what most people imagine. But beauty should not be defined by one ideal image, and The Lonely Island shows us just that.

Listen to “Dreamgirl” here.

8. Partying gets old after a while.

Our culture places such huge importance on the “coolness” and consumerism of partying that many of us fail to realize that partying 24/7 would get boring pretty quickly. The Lonely Island exaggerates the overrated expectations of party life by describing the mental breakdown of a huge party-goer in the song “After Party.”

I think this song is just a good reminder that, while partying can be fun sometimes, there are more important things in life that deserve a lot more of your attention.

Listen to “After Party” here.

9. You can be masculine and give hugs at the same time.

Again playing with our cultural ideals of masculinity and sex, The Lonely Island’s song “Hugs” is a heavy rap beat that is all about…hugging? Yep.

For me, this song says that you can be any kind of man (or woman) that you want to be, as long as you’re confident about yourself. It’s also a pretty clear satire of pop culture’s objectification of women and relationships in general.

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Listen to “Hugs” here.

10. Team effort makes everything better.

Everything is better when a group of people combine forces, and “We Are A Crowd” is definitely one of those things. It’s a song about people being in a crowd, and it would just suck if only one dude was singing it. Even things that sound meaningless on the surface can have genuine meaning if enough people believe in the message. So if you don’t get anything else from this Beastie Boys-esque track, there’s always that.

Listen to “We Are A Crowd” now to join in.

11. Grammar is important.

Being a writer, I can’t help but get a little irritated when people misuse punctuation, and The Lonely Island seem to feel the same. In their song “Semicolon,” The Dudes rap entirely in what they think are semicolon-separated phrases. Their grammar is a bit off, though, and it turns out the entire song should be punctuated with colons instead. But still, the message is there.

Click here to listen to “Semicolon.”

12. It’s the thought that counts.

Much like their “Dreamgirl” ideals, The Dudes’ ideas of the perfect gift are somewhat less than the norm. While you likely would be more shocked than grateful if your boyfriend did this, the song “D*ck in a Box” is a funny example of times when it’s really the thought that counts.

Watch the “D*ck in a Box” music video here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABrSYqiqvzc&feature=kp

13. Homophobic people are really just insecure about themselves.

In a surprisingly serious satire, The Lonely Island combats homophobia and masculine ideals in their 2-part song “No Homo.” This song goes from realistic bro-like expressions (i.e. “I like the way your shoulders fill out that shirt. No homo!”) to a plethora of sexual desires that are geared towards other guys.

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The song’s true message works for the group, though, because their core listeners are younger audiences who are much more open to the LGBT movement than previous generations.

Listen to “No Homo” here.

14. Perspective makes all the difference.

A change in perspective is often all you need to gain new insights and interpretations about the world around you. In the case of The Lonely Island, though, those insights are pretty scary when the guys interpret the phrase YOLO (You Only Live Once) to mean You Oughta Look Out.

While you shouldn’t look for negativity in things, you should try to be more open-minded and view things from a new perspective once in a while.

See what a difference perspective can make here.

15. Not staying true to yourself is the biggest mistake you can make.

Probably the most overtly critical message The Lonely Island has ever put out, “Go Kindergarten,” is very satirical. While it’s funny and entertaining, the message of the song is really strong: stay true to yourself and don’t let other people tell you who you get to be.

Watch “Go Kindergarten” here.

Featured photo credit: Turtleneck & Chain Desktop/The Lonely Island via thelonelyisland.com

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8 Reasons Why Goal Setting Is Important to a Fulfilling Life

8 Reasons Why Goal Setting Is Important to a Fulfilling Life

The importance of effective goal setting cannot be overstated on our personal journeys towards success. This is why there are countless articles out there on how to set your own SMART goals and even why it’s a skill commonly taught to a small degree in classrooms.

Learning the importance of goal setting and the benefits of sticking to those goals can be the defining factor determining whether we truly embrace the importance of goal setting. The more willing we are to embrace this method, the more likely we become to reach our personal definitions of personal and professional success.

Thus, today’s article is going to walk you through some of the benefits you’ll see from learning to set goals for yourself and answer the question, “why is goal setting important?”

1. Goals Guide and Align Our Focus

It’s hard to get to where you want to be in life if you don’t know what you’re aiming for. Some people believe avoiding goals means living a more care-free life. How many times have you heard the phrase “If I have no expectations, then I can’t be disappointed”?

But is that really what our lives have come to? Living just to avoid disappointment? It doesn’t seem like an overly optimistic view in my opinion. And since you’re reading this article, I’m willing to bet that you agree with me.

Without goals, we lack a degree of direction and focus. Sure you may be able to avoid disappointment, but just avoiding disappointment doesn’t mean you are necessarily happy.

Without goals, we will pointlessly waste our time, energy, and efforts. Listen to anybody who is the top of their field and they’ll tell you something like this,

“Yes talent is important, but often your success depends much more on what you decide to do with that talent.”

And what you will do with your talent largely depends on your focus.

Your goals give you direction. Your goals give you something to shoot for. This direction and target you create in your mind will help you to progress towards your main life goals rather than simply wander around aimlessly. These goals will help you align your actions and behaviors as you continue moving forward.

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So, why is goal setting important? Because it gives you direction, alignment, and purpose!

2. Goals Help You Avoid ‘Shiny Object Syndrome’

Basically, shiny object syndrome is always being in pursuit of the next big thing, constantly switching your goals based on what you feel is most fun and interesting at the given moment, but never actually giving yourself time to accomplish any of those goals.

You don’t get anywhere because you continually change the direction you are heading in. This is one of the consequences that may result if you decide to live a life without goals.

Your goals can sometimes help you to create mental barriers, or blinders, that help you to remain focused on what you think is important and avoid the things that are second priority. When you outline goals for yourself, you are better able to avoid things that distract you from achieving and accomplishing those goals.

Setting goals helps you to step around the other shiny objects because you’ve taken the time to make some mental notes that remind you what it is that you want from your life. Your goals act as subconscious deterrents to anything less than your main priorities. This is what helps you to reach your personal definition of success.

So, why is goal setting important? Because not only do goals tell you what you want from life, but they also help you realize what you need to give up and avoid to achieve that.

3. Goals Turn Our Largest Goals into Manageable Steps

A lot of us have big hopes and dreams. It’s one of the things that make our lives exciting!

But a lot of us never take the time to figure out how we can effectively get from point A to point B. So, sadly, we never fully achieve those goals. We look at our dreams and convince ourselves that only a select few people ever achieve them, so we write ourselves off as people not meant to reach that level of success. Looking at the end product of a goal can be intimidating, daunting, and discourage us from even pursuing them.

Thankfully, goal setting helps us break large intimidating goals into smaller ones. These small steps and more achievable goals will help us to build momentum and will encourage us to keep working towards the next phase of our goal. The form the foundation from which we can begin building the life that we truly hope to have for ourselves, our families, and may even for our communities depending on how big your goals are!

Whenever I get talking about this aspect of goal setting, I can’t help but think about the mountain climbing analogy, and that the easiest way to climb a mountain is simply step by step.

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So, why is goal setting important? Goal setting gives you a list of manageable steps that you can take in order to take your life from where it is now to where you want it to go both effectively and efficiently.

4. Goals Encourage You to Take Action

This builds on the last benefit of goal setting. Not only does effective goal setting help you break down your larger goals into smaller, more manageable ones, but it also encourages you to actually begin taking action on those goals. After all, a plan is completely worthless if you aren’t willing to invest the effort required to execute it.

Setting your goals and putting your plan in place motivates you to begin taking action towards achieving them. These goals give you something to plan and work towards. Essentially, they help propel you forward.

What I like to do is write out and place my goals somewhere that I’ll regularly see them. This constantly serves as a reminder of my top priorities. It allows me to focus on taking small progressive actions towards achieving these goals daily.

This ensures that I don’t fall into the trap of setting a goal, beginning to work towards it for a while, but then having my motivation fade resulting in me falling off track. This is exactly what many people see happen when it comes to their “New Year’s Resolutions.”

If you want to learn about how to take action towards achieving your goal, here’s how: How To Take Action Towards Your Goals Right Now

So, why is goal setting important? Because goal setting actually motivates you to stop thinking about your goals and actually get out there and achieve them!

5. Goal Setting Helps You Continually Improve

This is something that a lot of personal development and self-improvement writers talk about, continual improvement. For those of you who are not aware of the term, continual improvement is exactly what it sounds like — taking small steps towards improvement as frequently as you can to develop into the person you want to become.

What’s the point in improving a little bit each day if you’re not improving in the areas that you want to improve in after all?

The goals that you define for yourself will inevitably shape you into the person who you want to become. They’ll shape your character. Your goals can help you measure your progress as you strive for this type of development.

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Essentially, having goals helps you determine where you started, where you are now, and how much further you need to go. In this manner, your goal setting can serve as milestones and benchmarks that help you determine how well you’re progressing towards your most important goals!

So, why is goal setting important? Goal setting helps you make improvements each day that will slowly transition you into the person you want to become.

6. Goal Setting Keeps You Accountable

Not only does setting goals help you measure your progress, but it also is a means through which you can keep yourself accountable. Too many goals fail because they lack this crucial aspect of outlining accountability.

For example, if I have the goal to do 50 push-ups, that’s great. Most people would support that goal. However, this goal lacks accountability. When do I want to accomplish this goal by and what steps do I take to get there? These are important questions that the original goal leaves unanswered.

A much more descriptive and specific goal could be to do 50 push-ups within the next 3 months by starting at 5 push-ups, and then adding 5 each week. This goal outlines the deadline as well as the steps I’m going to take to achieve it. This plan will keep me accountable because if I fail to retain my progression schedule, I will know that I’m not going to achieve the goal on time.

Additionally, it can serve as a marker helping to signify when something is impeding my progress that I may not have initially accounted for. This tells me that I need to re-evaluate what I’m doing and figure out what adjustments I can make to facilitate my success.

So, why is goal setting important? Setting goals is key to keeping ourselves accountable and on-track towards accomplishing our goals according to the schedules and deadlines we set for ourselves.

7. Goals Make You Feel Good

Trust me, the progress you feel as you set and achieve goals can become super motivating and super addicting (in a good way)! The dopamine release you get from achieving your goals is like a little reward for our brains that continually motivates us to try and hit that next goal!

Having some clearly defined goals will help you to feel better about yourself and your life in general, especially when you stick to those goals, actively work towards achieving them, and end up accomplishing and surpassing your initial expectations. I’m not the oldest book on the shelf myself, but I can attest that there are not many feelings quite like the one you experience when you truly get on a roll!

Additionally, our goals give us an endpoint to shoot for. Rather than progress for progress’s sake, you can actually see where you’re heading! That’s so much more rewarding. Think about a long car trip as a kid. You ask “if you’re there yet?” ever 20 minutes. It seems like the drive drags on forever.

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If you don’t know where you’re going, you risk the journey becoming tedious. It doesn’t tend to be much fun wandering around aimlessly. Goals make us feel good about where we’re directing ourselves.

So, why is goal setting important? Because setting goals and accomplishing them plain and simply make us feel better about ourselves and our lives!

8. Goals Help You Live Your Best Life

I’ve talked a lot in this article about how goal setting helps us progress towards our top priorities and live the way we truly want to live. So I think it’s fit to end the article with this goal because, in the end, I feel it’s the most important one.

Setting your goals and clearly defining what they mean to you will help you live a life that is tailored to your beliefs and values. Your life will become directed towards the things that you most want to achieve.

Life is a tricky game and only in very rare circumstances are things handed to us on a silver platter. Often it takes a great degree of work, planning, and effortful execution of both.

There is no point clinging on to things in your life if they don’t bring you happiness or help you accomplish something that, in some way, aligns with your goals.

Simply put, setting goals helps us live a life that allows us to pursue the challenges and rewards that we truly want to achieve.

So, why is goal setting important? Because our time is always limited, and setting clearly defined goals can help ensure that you make the most of your life and live to the fullest! Find out more here: How to Use SMART Goal to Become Highly Successful in Life

Final Thoughts

These are just a few of the benefits of goal setting that outline why it truly is so important. If you take a moment or two, I bet that you can even think of a few more benefits yourself that you could add to this list.

If I could leave you with something, it would be this:

Goal setting has the potential to take us to some amazing places in life because we all have talent and ambitions. To achieve your biggest dreams, you need to be willing to sit down and create a life design uniquely tailored to you that will help you achieve them!

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