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10 Things I Wish I’d Known Before Having a Baby

10 Things I Wish I’d Known Before Having a Baby

There are few things that can match the life changing experience that is childbirth. The whirlwind of feelings that the expecting parents experience include emotions of all kinds. They experience joy, fear, happiness and many more emotions but, above all else, they experience love. This is not just any kind of love. A love of a parent for his or her child is something that is unsurpassed by anything else in the world and is the source from which all other emotions come from.

However, it is quite common for new parents to experience fear and doubt. Questions like “Are we ready for this?” or “Are we going to manage everything?” come to mind and some even go as far as to question whether they have “what it takes to be a parent”. You do, you have what it takes, trust me, babies do amazing things for your productivity.

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This video can help you put some things into perspective. The thing that makes it different from tons of other baby related advice you can find online is the fact that it comes from real parents. These people give you insights into things they picked up by being parents and not from books, online blogs or articles which can very much confuse you and get you riled up over nothing.

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The same goes for the advice you are going to get from people around you. Some will be impressed with what you are doing while others will be shocked with “what you are doing to your child”, so keep in mind that no two families are the same in this world and no two couples in the world do things the same way. Some parents will use software to follow their kids’ activity through their phones, others will not be aware where their kids are 10 hours at a time and the fact is, both of these could be terrible decisions and perfect decisions. Finding what works for you is crucial and this is just one of the great pieces of advice given here.

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The thing you should always remember, through all the spilled food, worrying, bumps and who knows what else, is that it is absolutely worth it! Be grateful for the blessing that you got and always cherish the memories.

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

1. Breathe

The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

  • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
  • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
  • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

2. Loosen up

After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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3. Chew slowly

Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

4. Let go

Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

It’s not. Promise.

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Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

5. Enjoy the journey

Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

6. Look at the big picture

The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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Will this matter to me…

  • Next week?
  • Next month?
  • Next year?
  • In 10 years?

Hint: No, it won’t.

I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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8. Practice patience every day

Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

  • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
  • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
  • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

Final thoughts

Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

Featured photo credit: Brooke Cagle via unsplash.com

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