Advertising
Advertising

The Mysteries Behind Motivation and How To Manipulate Them

The Mysteries Behind Motivation and How To Manipulate Them

Have you ever wondered what motivates people to do certain things? Why some people are just “gung ho” about an idea while others couldn’t care less? Or why you constantly find yourself repeating certain activities again and again? Without pulling Sigmund Freud into the picture, we can understand some of the basic motivations that we’ve all experienced from time to time in an effort to understand the motivations of not only others, but ourselves as well. Understanding our own motivations gives us the information we need to turn our personal potential into our own guaranteed success.

One of our basic motivations to do things is based on physical needs, like food, water, clothing, and shelter. Being the most obvious, the need for these things (food, water, clothing, and shelter) is the prime motivation that drives people to work in order to earn an income and get them. Without these items, we can’t survive – thus survival becomes a basic motivation that enables us to continue living.

The motivation to survive of course, goes without saying. It’s our need for self-actualization or self-validation that drives us to acquire the “best” food, “best” water, “best” clothing, and “best” shelter. Since employment gives us the means to acquire our basic needs, we then seek the “best” employment to validate our wants for the best of them. Very few of us volunteer to accept what we already have and despite what psychologists or sociologists may say, our drive to have the “best” may in fact be a factor of human nature more than social or cultural conditioning.

Advertising

We also have another motivation – one that drives us to adjust our behaviors and choices. And that motivation is to belong. The motivation to belong has captivated American society for ages and is responsible for our shopping habits, the schools we put our children in, and the clothing that we buy.

Advertising

But the motivations that make us especially interested in things that are separate from our survival needs or our desire to belong are our inborn inclinations to do things. These motivations are unknown forces that defy all explanation. One may even interpret this type of motivation as habit or natural talent – an invisible force that wakes us up early in the morning to work our hardest and perform our best. As an example, a comedian may be motivated to put on the best show possible and succeed out of habit or a natural talent for telling the funniest jokes. In other words, the guy just might not be able to help his own success!

Advertising

Can you “suffer” from the same inclination to succeed? Sure! Simply take a few minutes (or longer if needed) to evaluate the things that you can not stop doing. These are your own mysterious motivations (or natural talents). Our example comedian found success by failing to stop making others laugh. Others who can not stop talking (in other words, are motivated to constantly speak) can find success in writing or working as a phone support consultant. Or how about a person who can’t stop fixing things? Certainly this person can find success in almost any occupation. See how it works? What are you naturally inclined to do? Once you find out what you just can’t stop yourself from doing – you’ve found your own unique motivation for success and you can turn that inborn motivation into a career!

Nicole Miller is a developer and member of the Association of Shareware Professionals.

Advertising

More by this author

Have You Ever Wished Your Kids Will Beg To Do Their Chores? How to Plan Your Life Goals and Actually Achieve Them in 7 Simple Steps 20 Things People Regret the Most Before They Die Overcoming The Pain Of A Breakup: 3 Suggestions Based On Science Quit Your Job If You Don’t Like It, No Matter What

Trending in Lifehack

1 How to Become an Early Riser and Stay Energetic 2 20 Time Management Tips to Super Boost Your Productivity 3 A Review of “The Art of Learning” 4 The Lifehack Show Episode 11: Mindfulness and the Authentic Self 5 What Everyone Is Wrong About Achieving Inbox Zero

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on November 19, 2019

How to Become an Early Riser and Stay Energetic

How to Become an Early Riser and Stay Energetic

When you become an early riser, you’ll experience a lot of benefits including feeling more energized and having more time to do what you want.

If you’d like to become an early riser, there are some things you should know before you run off to set your oft-ignored alarm clock.

So how to become an early riser?

Here are five tips I’ve discovered to be most helpful in making the transition from erratic sleeper to early morning wizard:

1. Choose to Get up Before You Go to Sleep

You’re not very good at making decisions when you’ve just woken up. You were in the middle of a dream in which [insert celebrity crush of choice here] is serving you breakfast in bed only to be rudely awakened by the harsh tones of your alarm clock. You’re frustrated, angry, confused, and surprised. This is not the time to be making decisions about whether or not you should stay in bed! And yet, most of us leave the first decision of our day to be made in a blur of partial wakefulness.

Advertising

No more!

If you want to be a consistently early riser, try making your decision to rise at a specific time before you go to sleep the night before. This frees you from making the decision in the morning when you’ve just woken up. Instead of making a decision, you have only to follow through on your decision from the night before.

Easier said than done? Of course. But only for the first few times. Eventually, your need for raw willpower to get out of bed will diminish and you’ll be the proud parent of a new habit!

Steve Pavlina suggests you practice getting out of bed during the day[1] to get a few of the “practice sessions” out of the way without the early morning fog in your head.

2. Have a Plan for Your Extra Time

Let’s say you’ve actually made it out of bed 2 hours before you normally would. Now what? What are you going to do with all this time you’ve discovered in your day?

Advertising

If you don’t have something planned to do with your extra time, you risk falling for the temptation of a “morning nap” that wipes out all the work you put into getting up.

What to do? Before you go to bed, make a quick note of what you’d like to get done during your extra hours the following day. Do you have a book to write, paper to read, or garage to clean? Make a plan for your early hours and you’ll do more than protect yourself from backsliding into bed.

You’ll get things done and those results will fuel your desire to build rising early into a habit!

3. Make Rising Early a Social Activity

Your internet or social media buddies just don’t have enough pull to make your new habit stick in the long term. The same cannot be said for the people you spend time with as part of your early morning routine.

Sure, you could choose to read blogs for two hours every morning. But wouldn’t it be great to join an early breakfast club, running group, or play chess in the park at 5am?

Advertising

The more people you get involved in making your new habit a daily part of your life, the easier it’ll be to succeed.

4. Don’t Use an Alarm That Makes You Angry

If we’re all wired differently, why do we all insist on torturing ourselves with the same sort of alarm each morning?

I spent years trying to wake up before my alarm went off so I wouldn’t have to hear it. I got pretty good, too. Then I started using a cellphone as my alarm clock and quickly realized that different ring tones irritated me less but worked just as well to wake me up. I now use the ring tone alarm as a back up for my bedside lamp plugged in to a timer.

When the bright light doesn’t work, the cellphone picks up the slack and I wake up on time. The lesson learned? Experiment a bit and see what works best for you. Light, sound, smells, temperature, or even some contraption that dumps water on you might be more pleasant than your old alarm clock. Give something new a try!

5. Get Your Blood Flowing Right After Waking

If you don’t have a neighbor, you can pick fights with at 5am, you’ll have to settle with a more mundane exercise. It doesn’t take much to get your blood flowing and chase the sleep from your head.

Advertising

Just pick something you don’t mind doing and go through the motions until your heart rate is up. Jumping rope, push-ups, crunches, or a few minutes of yoga are typically enough to do the trick. (Just don’t do anything your doctor hasn’t approved.)

If you live in a beautiful part of the world like me, you might want to use a bit of your early morning to go for a walk and enjoy the beauty of the world around you.

If you have a coffee shop open within walking distance, dragging yourself out of bed for a cup of coffee to savor on your walk home as the world wakes around you is a wonderful experience. Try it!

More to Power Up Your Day

Featured photo credit: Nomadic Julien via unsplash.com

Reference

Read Next