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Stop Whining and Take Charge of Your Life

Stop Whining and Take Charge of Your Life

If you are the kind of person who looks at other people’s lives and wonders about how good their lives are and feel dejected at your own, then you probably need to take things in your own hands and change. Do you feel envious at times about your college mate who flies to London every now and then to close deals, moves around in a company owned BMW or your sibling who has a retreat where he spends most of his time writing books? Then you are obviously not satisfied with what you have and need to do something about it.

A large number of people do the same work day in and day out and are extremely happy with that. But if you find yourself thinking about how your potential is being wasted and somewhere subconsciously desire more action and thrill, then you need to shake yourself into some positive action.

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You know that had you been in a different situation, you would have taken things in your own hands and worked towards a more ambitious goal. If all this strikes a chord with you, then don’t let the inertia of the situation pull you down. Don’t try and provide excuses to yourself and rationalize about why you are not exploiting your potential to the fullest.

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If you have fire in your belly and the capability to do something don’t let your prowess go waste. To help you determine whether you really are satisfied, comfortable and happy in you current state, you need to answer the following questions.

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– Do you find yourself attempting things and then leaving them mid way? Have you started certain courses, learnt skills and never put them in action?
– Do you prepare too much for redecorating your house or taking a trip?
– Do you hate being pushed or hurried? Do you delay deliveries of your project and not be bothered about the delay?
– Do you stay with the past and look longingly back at the times when things were better and you were a fiercely ambitious employee?
– Do you feel that there is a scarcity of time for the thing that you really want to do but yet spend hours I front of the idiot box staring at it like a zombie?
– Do you revel in watching the life of the rich and famous on the tube? Have you wondered why you have such a burning desire to know the details of other people’s lives and whether you are trying to fill a void in yours in a surrogate manner?
– Do you dream about doing something really earth shattering but never get down to doing it?

If the answer to any three of or more the above questions is in the affirmative, then it is time that you think about what you should do to break away from that inertia, stop whining and take charge. It is probably about time that you stopped fooling yourself and realized that the safety of the shore may be damaging your self more than you actually think it is.

Vishal P. Rao share his insights and tips on holistic living at: http://www.relishinglife.com/

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Last Updated on August 12, 2020

How to Plan Your Life Goals and Actually Achieve Them

How to Plan Your Life Goals and Actually Achieve Them

Where do you want to be 5 years from now, 10 years from now, or even this time next year? These places are your goal destinations and although you might know that you don’t want to be standing still in the same place as you are now, it’s not always easy to identify what your real goals are.

Many people think that setting a goal destination is having a dream that is there in the far distant future but will never be attained. This proves to be a self-fulfilling prophesy because of two things:

Firstly, that the goal isn’t specifically defined enough in the first place; and secondly, it remains a remote dream waiting for action which is never taken.

Defining your goal destination is something that you need to take some time to think carefully about. The following steps on how to plan your life goals should get you started on a journey to your destination.

1. Make a List of Your Goal Destinations

Goal destinations are the things that are important to you. Another word for them would be ambitions, but ambitions sound like something which outside of your grasp, whereas goal destinations are certainly achievable if you are willing to put in the effort working towards them.

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So what do you really want to do with your life? What are the main things that you would like to accomplish with your life? What is it that you would really regret not doing if you suddenly found you had a limited amount of time left on the earth?

Each of these things is a goal. Define each goal destination in one sentence.

If any of these goals is a stepping stone to another one of the goals, take it off this list as it isn’t a goal destination.

2. Think About the Time Frame to Have the Goal Accomplished

This is where the 5 year, 10 year, next year plan comes into it.

Learn the differences between a short term goal and a long term goal. Some goals will have a “shelf life” because of age, health, finance, etc, whereas others will be up to you as to when you would like to achieve them by.

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3. Write Down Your Goals Clearly

Write each goal destination at the top of a new piece of paper.

For each goal, write down what is it that you need and don’t have now that will allow you achieve that goal. This could be some kind of education, career change, finance, a new skill, etc. Any “stepping stone” goals you removed will fit into this exercise. If any of these smaller “goals” have sub-goals, go through the same process with these so that you have precise action points to work with.

4. Write Down What You Need to Do for Each Goal

Under each item listed, write down the things that you will need to do in order to complete each of the steps required to complete the goal. 

These items will become a check-list. They are a tangible way of checking how you are progressing towards reaching your goal destinations. A record of your success!

5. Write Down Your Timeframe With Specific and Realistic Dates

Using the time frames you created, on each goal destination sheet write down the year in which you will complete the goal by.

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For any goal which has no fixed completion date, think about when you would like to have accomplished it by and use that as your destination date.

Work within the time frames for each goal destination, make a note of realistic dates by which you will complete each of the small steps.

6. Schedule Your To-Dos

Now take an overview of all your goal destinations and make a schedule of what you need to do this week, this month, this year – in order to progress along the road towards your goal destinations.

Write these action points on a schedule, you have definite dates on which to do things.

7. Use Your Reticular Activating System to Get Your Goal

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8. Review Your Progress

At the end of the year, review what you have done this year, mark things off the check-lists for each goal destination and write up the schedule with the action points you need for the next year.

Although it may take you several years to, for example, get the promotion you desire because you first need to get the MBA which means getting a job with more money to allow you to finance a part-time degree course, you will ultimately be successful in achieving your goal destination because you have planned out not only what you want, but how to get it, and have been pro-active towards achieving it.

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