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Enrich Your Life By Making it a Story to Tell

Enrich Your Life By Making it a Story to Tell

We have all heard the old adage, “Life is short, go live it.”

The problem is that it takes so many people an entire life before they start living it or not living it. It’s so easy to get stuck living the everyday mundane tasks instead of doing those that really make your heart sing.

We spend our lives working our jobs waiting around to live, and when that time arrives we often end up on the porch lamenting about all those things we didn’t do, while we wait around to die.

    The moments when life offers us the opportunity to experience something new we usually allow our conditioned thoughts of fear, failure and doubt to get in the way and keep us doing only what we know. This is known as the safe route, which at times is a beneficial route, but not often if you want to live an enriched life.

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    I believe that life is all about the memories so I want to share with you a way of thinking, or a philosophy, that I have employed throughout my life. It is a philosophy that has helped me to overcome fear and doubt in order to experience and create many new memories.

    It’s simply,

    ‘Live your life so it’s a story to tell’.

    When you think like this, fear tends to take a back seat. The driver becomes life.

    ‘Live your life so it’s a story to tell,’ has given me many experiences and as a result lots of insightful wisdom I can share with others.

    As someone who in their teenage years was very shy and felt I had nothing to contribute or talk about, this was an essential philosophy for me to adopt in order to change the beliefs I had about myself. I felt that the more stories I created in my life then the more interesting experiences I would be able to share with others.

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    ‘Live your life so it’s a story to tell’ has been a huge builder of courage for me. It helps to make me step up to the plate and just do whatever it is I am fearful to do, or complacent about.

    “Just go and do it, it will make a great story to tell.”

    As a result of this, I’ve created stories of global adventures, dare-devil experiences, profitable investments, disastrous investments, entrepreneurial activities, friendships spanning many countries, and the experience of new foods, cultures, music, sports and activities.

    My husband, who is terrified of flights, recently hung backwards off a 192 m building in Auckland, New Zealand and then sky dived. When I asked him why he did it, he replied,

    “Well, it gave me a great story to tell.”

    When I asked if he thought doing the sky dive had changed him in any way, he replied “It’s certainly made me braver to try other new things and I have a lot more control over my fears now.”

    I’ve also found one of the most empowering things about this philosophy, is it helps you to get over those challenging times in your life. When things go wrong for me, I often think,

    “Well I guess I’ve now got a story to tell.”

    This is so empowering as it allows you to get over it and drop the baggage that we would otherwise carry around with us for years.

    It helps you to understand the real version of the story is now over and you can move on to better things. It allows you to learn from the mistakes and take something positive from the negative.

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    Enrich your life and make it rewarding. The next time your faced with a decision or an opportunity to do something a little different, out of the box, or outside your comfort zone, take control of your fears and doubts by saying,

    “Why not? At least it will be a story to tell!”

    How have you made your life a story to tell?

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    Last Updated on September 15, 2020

    7 Helpful Reminders When You Want to Make Big Life Changes

    7 Helpful Reminders When You Want to Make Big Life Changes

    Overcoming fear and making life changes is hard. It’s even harder when it’s a big change—breaking up with someone you love, leaving your old job, starting your own business, or hundreds of other difficult choices.

    Even if it’s obvious that making a big change will be beneficial, it can be tough. Our mind wants to stay where it’s comfortable, which means doing the same things we’ve always done[1].

    We worry: how do we know if we’re making the right decision? We wish we knew more. How do we make a decision without all of the necessary information?

    We feel stuck. How do we get past fear and move forward with that thing we want to do?

    Well, I certainly don’t have all the answers, but here are 7 things to remember when you want to move forward and make positive life changes.

    1. You’ll Never Have All the Information

    We often avoid making important decisions because we want more information before we make a tough call.

    Yes, it’s certainly true that you need to do your research, but if you’re waiting for the crystal clear answer to come to you, then you’re going to be waiting a long time. As humans, we are curious creatures, and our need for information can be paralyzing.

    Life is a series of guesses, mistakes, and revisions. Make the best decision you can at the time and continue to move forward. This also means learning to listen to and trust your intuition. Here’s how.

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    2. Have the Courage to Trust Yourself

    We make all sorts of excuses for not making important life changes, but the limiting belief that often underlies many of them is that we don’t trust ourselves to do the right thing.

    We think that if we get into a new situation, we won’t know what to do or how to react. We’re worried that the uncharted territory of the future will be too much for us to handle.

    Give yourself more credit than that.

    You’ve dealt with unexpected changes before, right? And when your car got a flat tire on the way to work, how did that end up? Or when you were unexpectedly dumped?

    In the end, you were fine.

    Humans are amazingly adaptable, and your whole life has been helping you develop skills to face unexpected challenges.

    Have enough courage to trust yourself. No matter what happens, you’ll figure out a way to make it work.

    3. What’s the Worst That Could Happen?

    Like jealousy, most of your fears are created in your own head.

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    When you actually sit down and think about the worst case scenario, you’ll realize that there are actually very few risks that you can’t recover from.

    Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Once you realize the worst isn’t that bad, you’ll be ready to crush it.

    When you’re preparing to make a big life change, write down all of the things you’re afraid of. Are you afraid of failing? Of looking silly? Of losing money? Of being unhappy?

    Then, address each fear by writing down ways you can overcome them. For example, if you’re afraid of losing money, can you take a few months to save up a safety net?

    4. It’s Just as Much About the Process as It Is About the Result

    We’re so wrapped up in results when we think about major life changes. We worry that if we start out towards a big goal, then we might not make it to the finish line.

    However, you’re allowed to change your mind. And failing will only help you learn what not to do next time.

    Furthermore, just because you don’t reach the final goal doesn’t mean you failed. You chose the goal in the first place, but you’re allowed to alter it if you find that the goal isn’t working out the way you hoped. Failure is not a destination, and neither is success.

    Enjoy the process of moving forward[2].

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    5. Continue to Pursue Opportunity

    If you’re on the fence about a big decision, then you might be worried about getting locked into a position that you can’t escape from.

    Think about it a different way. New choices rarely limit your options.

    In fact, new pursuits often open up even more opportunities. One of the best things about going after important goals with passion is that they open up chances and options that you never could have expected in the beginning.

    If you pursue the interesting opportunities that arise along the path to your goal, then you can be sure that you’ll always have choices.

    6. Effort Matters, So Use It

    It sounds simple, but one of the big reasons we don’t make life changes is because we don’t try. And we don’t try because then it’s easy to make excuses for why we don’t get what we want.

    Flunked that test? Are you stupid? “Of course I’m not stupid. I just didn’t study. I would have gotten an A if I actually studied.”

    Stuck in a job you hate? Why haven’t you found a new job yet? “Well, I haven’t really tried to get a new job. I could totally ace that interview if I wanted.”

    Why do we make excuses like these to ourselves? It’s because if we try and fail, then we just failed. But if we don’t try, we can chalk it up to laziness.

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    Get over it. Failure happens to everyone.

    And the funny thing is, if you actually try—because it’s pretty clear that most people aren’t trying—then you’ll win a lot more than you think.

    7. Start With Something Manageable

    You can’t climb Everest if you don’t try hiking beforehand.

    Maybe applying for your dream job seems intimidating right now. What can you start with today?

    Can you talk to someone who already has that position and see what they think makes them successful? Can you improve your skills so you meet one of the qualifications? Can you take a free online course to expand your resume?

    Maybe you’re not quite ready for a long-term relationship, but you know you want to start dating. Could you try asking out a mutual friend? Can you go out more with friends to practice your communication skills and meet new people?

    You don’t need to be a world changer today; you just need to make small life changes in your own world.

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