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Closet Entrepreneur

Closet Entrepreneur

Every weekday, my reoccurring wish is not suffer through another traffic jam. Every two weeks, there is an urge to be independent and to control my own destiny. Every month jealousy rages when the media celebrates another start-up company with an un-extraordinary idea. And every year there is a realization…time is slipping by.

Living a Dream

With enough dedication, hard work and maybe a little luck, nothing is impossible. My dream was to always start a business to apply all the things learned during college and graduate school (and, hopefully, create a little wealth). After all, my determination, work ethic and being a little lucky already helped me a lot. However, starting a business would be a great learning experience.


Even after programming all day at work, tinkering at night always brought a little enjoyment because there was something new to learn about. And as someone who enjoys learning, these nightly sessions provided many rewards. Then one night something happened.

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I thought of an idea that could be turned into a business.

The idea itself was simple: it solved my problem of being late. But then there was the realization that it could solve other people’s problem of being late. And then this thinking became a flurry of possibilities…

Procrastination

…but there was a problem: I was late a lot because of my procrastination. Although this procrastination didn’t affect my studies or work, it affected everything else.

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One of my tricks for getting things done is simplify the problem and write down each step on a scrap piece of paper. More importantly, I can scratch off each step after completing it and real progress can be seen. Scratching off each step is a reward in itself — it feels empowering.

So each night, the task of creating a business formed on little scraps of paper. And steps were being scratched off one at a time.

It helped having a friend that helped with the legality of starting a business. And thank goodness for the tech bubble because the bust made a lot of internet-related services, such as web site hosting, dirt cheap.

So less than the price of computer, my simple idea became a real business one night at a time, one step at a time.

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Living a Life

Luckily I had a weekend to myself to create most of the code for my internet start-up.

Within three days, the entire start-up, including the client software, web site and supporting applications, were developed. But now came the hard part: it had to be ready for prime time.

Working on this start-up was fun and rewarding, but it was impossible to dedicate every night to finish my start-up. And that was okay. Working on the same problem for too long only produces new problems. Like everyone else, I tend to get sloppy from working too much.

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Imaginary deadlines were created to ensure that steps were completed within a reasonable time period. But there was always a goal of trying to reach that elusive balance. Work was not to be my entire life — this was supposed to be a learning experience.

Starting a business has been a great learning experience, although it hasn’t created too much wealth yet, I’m still at the beginning of a great journey. Living the dream hasn’t been easy, but it has been rewarding and, best of all, it’s possible for anyone else to do the same.

Matthew Choinski is the founder of messagingreminder.com, a Baltimore, MD, USA small software start-up offering a service that synchronizes your Microsoft Outlook calendar and sends reminders to your mobile phone. The service is the perfect complement to your mobile phone since it’s easy to use, reliable and very affordable.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

5 Steps To Move Out Of Stagnancy In Life

5 Steps To Move Out Of Stagnancy In Life

In the journey of growth, there are times when we grow and excel. We are endlessly driven and hyped up, motivated to get our goals.

Then there are times when we stagnate. We feel uninspired and unmotivated. We keep procrastinating on our plans. More often than not, we get out of a rut only to get back into another one.

How do you know if you are stagnating? Here are some tell-tale signs:

  • If you have been experiencing chronic procrastination on your goals
  • If you don’t ever feel like doing anything
  • If you keep turning to sleep, eating, games, mindless activities and entertainment for comfort
  • If you know you should be doing something, but yet you keep avoiding it
  • If you have not achieved anything new or significant now relative to 1 month, 2 months or 3 months ago
  • If you have a deep sense of feeling that you are living under your potential

When we face stagnation in life, it’s a sign of deeper issues. Stagnancy in life, just like procrastination, is a symptom of a problem. It’s easy to beat ourselves over it, but this approach is not going to help.

Here, I will share 5 steps to help you move out of this stagnation. They won’t magically transform your life in 1 night (such changes are never permanent because the foundations are not built), but they will help you get the momentum going and help you get back on track.

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1. Realize You’re Not Alone

Everyone stagnates at some point or another. You are not alone in this and more importantly, it’s normal. In fact, it’s amazing how many of my clients actually face the same predicament, even though all of them come from different walks of life, are of different ages, and have never crossed paths.

Realizing you are not alone in this will make it much easier to deal with this period. By trying to “fight it”, you’re only fighting yourself. Accept this situation, acknowledge it, and tell yourself it’s okay. That way, you can then focus on the constructive steps that will really help you.

2. Find What Inspires You

Stagnation comes because there isn’t anything that excites you enough to take action. If you don’t have a habit of setting goals, and instead just leave yourself to daily mundanes, it’s not surprising you are experiencing stagnation.

What do you want to do if there are no limitations? If you can have whatever you want, what will it be? The answers to these questions will provide the fuel that will drive you forward.

On the other hand, even if you are an experienced goal setter, there are times when the goals you set in the past lose their appeal now. It’s normal and it happens to me too. Sometimes we lose touch with our goals, since we are in a different emotional state compared to when we first set them. Sometimes our priorities change and we no longer want to work on those goals anymore. However, we don’t consciously realize this, and what happens is we procrastinate on our goals until it compounds into a serious problem.

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If that’s the case for you, it’s time to relook into your goals. There’s no point in pursuing goals that no longer inspire you. Trash away your old goals (or just put them aside) and ask yourself what you really want now. Then go for them.

3. Give Yourself a Break

When’s the last time you took a real break for yourself? 3 months? 6 months? 1 year? Never? Perhaps it’s time to take a time-out. Prolonged working can cause someone to become disillusioned as they lose sight of who they are and what they want.

Go take some extended leave from work. A few days at bare minimum; a few weeks or months will be great. Some of my ex-colleagues have quit their jobs and took months out to do some self-reflection. Of course, some of us might not have that luxury, so we can stick to a few weeks of leave.

Go on a trip elsewhere and get away from your work and your life. Use this chance to get a renewed perspective of life. Think about your life purpose, what you want and what you want to create for your life in the future.

These are big questions that require deep thinking over them. It’s not about finding the answers at one go, but about taking the first step to finding the answers.

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4. Shake up Your Routines

Being in the same environment, doing the same things over and over again and meeting the same people can make us stagnant. This is especially if the people you spend the most time with are stagnant themselves.

Change things around. Start with simple things, like taking a different route to work and eating something different for breakfast. Have your lunch with different colleagues, colleagues you never talked much with. Work in a different cubicle if your work has free and easy seating. Do something different than your usual for weekday evenings and weekends. Cultivate different habits, like exercising every day, listening to a new series of podcasts every morning to work, reading a book, etc (here’re 6 Proven Ways To Make New Habits Stick). The different contexts will give you different stimulus, which will trigger off different thoughts and actions in you.

When I’m in a state of stagnancy, I’ll get a sense of what’s making me stagnate. Sometimes it’s the environment I’m in, sometimes it’s the people I’ve been hanging out with, sometimes it’s my lifestyle. Most of the times it’s a combination of all these. Changing them up helps to stir myself out of the stagnant mode.

5. Start with a Small Step

Stagnation also comes from being frozen in fear. Maybe you do want this certain goal, but you aren’t taking action. Are you overwhelmed by the amount of work needed? Are you afraid you will make mistakes? Is the perfectionist in you taking over and paralyzing you?

Let go of the belief that it has to be perfect. Such a belief is a bane, not a boon. It’s precisely from being open to mistakes and errors that you move forward.

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Break down what’s before you into very very small steps, then take those small steps, a little step at a time. I had a client who had been stagnating for a long period because he was afraid of failing. He didn’t want to make another move where he would make a mistake. However, not wanting to make a mistake has led him to do absolutely nothing for 2-3 years.

On the other hand, by doing just something, you would already be making progress, whether it’s a mistake or not. Even if you make a supposed “mistake”,  you get feedback to do things differently in the next step. That’s something you would never have known if you never made a move.

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