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Yes, No, or Maybe…?

Yes, No, or Maybe…?
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    Always remember that you are at least 50% smarter than computers. Computers know ‘yes’ and ‘no,’ but we know ‘maybe.’” – John Pironti

    When it comes to where you direct your energy, it involves just three simple answers – yes, no, or maybe. Think about it. Every decision you make – voluntary or otherwise, involves a “yes,” a “no,” or a “maybe.” Okay, common sense, right?

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    But are you considering those answers before you make a decision?

    A lot of people say “yes” to something without really thinking it through. The same goes for those saying “no.” If you are the type who always tends to want to jump in and help, you probably blurt out a “yes” before you think through what the request entails. If you prefer to stick to your own tasks, you may say “no” without really judging what’s being asked.

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    Are you a Yes Person, a No Person, or do you say “maybe”…?

    When it comes to productivity and your own personal development, there are pros and cons to both yes and no answers. Adrian posted an excellent view of why saying “yes” more often can be beneficial, and saying “no” may help you take back your time. People who always say “yes” may get taken advantage of. Those who always say “no,” may be considered selfish or not helpful. Neither one is bad, if you make sure you are consciously directing where you put your time and effort. And that’s the key, consciously

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    The third path

    I had a mentor years ago who said always answer with a “maybe” response. It could be “hmm…let me think that over,” or “that might work, let me check my schedule.” Going with a “maybe” gives you time to think about what the request actually involves, and whether you want to put your energy towards it.

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    Now some of you might be thinking “duh, everyone does that.” The thing is, most don’t. If you do, wonderful, you’ve got a good handle to being consciously aware of where you direct your energy. But many people struggle with this.

    So next time you’re put on the spot, instead of going with your usual “yes” or “no” answer, use a “maybe.” The take some time to mull over the choice. It’s your time and energy. Using it in a way that can both benefit you and help others is a nice balance to achieve.

    What do think – yes, no, or maybe…?

    Tony D. Clark writes, draws cartoons, designs software and websites, and spends a lot of time talking others into working from home, being creative, and doing what they love. His blog Success from the Nest helps people to design and run a home-based business that is in line with their unique gifts, values, personality, and world-view – all served up with humor and cartoons.

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    Last Updated on May 12, 2020

    8 Steps to Continuous Self Motivation Even During the Difficult Times

    8 Steps to Continuous Self Motivation Even During the Difficult Times

    Many of us find ourselves in motivational slumps that we have to work to get out of. Sometimes it’s like a continuous cycle where we are motivated for a period of time, fall out and then have to build things back up again.

    There is nothing more powerful for self-motivation than the right attitude. You can’t choose or control your circumstance, but you can choose your attitude towards your circumstances.

    How I see this working is while you’re developing these mental steps, and utilizing them regularly, self-motivation will come naturally when you need it.

    The key, for me, is hitting the final step to Share With Others. It can be somewhat addictive and self-motivating when you help others who are having trouble.

    A good way to have self motivation continuously is to implement something like these 8 steps from Ian McKenzie.[1] I enjoyed Ian’s article but thought it could use some definition when it comes to trying to build a continuous drive of motivation. Here is a new list on how to self motivate:

    1. Start Simple

    Keep motivators around your work area – things that give you that initial spark to get going.

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    These motivators will be the Triggers that remind you to get going.

    2. Keep Good Company

    Make more regular encounters with positive and motivated people. This could be as simple as IM chats with peers or a quick discussion with a friend who likes sharing ideas.

    Positive and motivated people are very different from the negative ones. They will help you grow and see opportunities during tough times.

    Here’re more reasons why you should avoid negative people: 10 Reasons Why You Should Avoid Negative People

    3. Keep Learning

    Read and try to take in everything you can. The more you learn, the more confident you become in starting projects.

    You can train yourself to crave lifelong learning with these tips: How to Develop a Lifelong Learning Habit

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    4. See the Good in Bad

    When encountering obstacles or challenging goals, you want to be in the habit of finding what works to get over them.

    Here are 10 tips to make positive thinking easy.

    5. Stop Thinking

    Just do. If you find motivation for a particular project lacking, try getting started on something else. Something trivial even, then you’ll develop the momentum to begin the more important stuff.

    When you’re thinking and worrying about it too much, you’re just wasting time. These tried worry busting techniques can help you.

    6. Know Yourself

    Keep notes on when your motivation sucks and when you feel like a superstar. There will be a pattern that, once you are aware of, you can work around and develop.

    Read for yourself how the magic of marking down your mood works.

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    7. Track Your Progress

    Keep a tally or a progress bar for ongoing projects. When you see something growing, you will always want to nurture it.

    Take a look at these 4 simple ways to track your progress so you have motivation to achieve your goals.

    8. Help Others

    Share your ideas and help friends get motivated. Seeing others do well will motivate you to do the same. Write about your success and get feedback from readers.

    Helping others actually helps yourself, here’s why.

    What I would hope happens here is you will gradually develop certain skills that become motivational habits.

    Once you get to the stage where you are regularly helping others keep motivated – be it with a blog or talking with peers – you’ll find the cycle continuing where each facet of staying motivated is refined and developed.

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    Too Many Steps?

    If you could only take one step? Just do it!

    Once you get started on something, you’ll almost always just get into it and keep going. There will be times when you have to do things you really don’t want to: that’s where the other steps and tips from other writers come in handy.

    However, the most important thing, that I think is worth repeating, is to just get started.

    Get that momentum going and then when you need to, take Ian’s Step 7 and Take A Break. No one wants to work all the time!

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    Reference

    [1] Ian McKenzie: 8 mental steps to self-motivation

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