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How to Make EVERY day Valentine’s Day

How to Make EVERY day Valentine’s Day

    Valentine’s Day.  The red hearts make us feel like love and happiness is all around.  We see images of couples hugging and gazing into each other’s eyes and we want that.  We go shopping at beautifully decorated stores and envision making our loved one feel special and cherished.  And, secretly, we hope our partners are thinking and doing the same for us. The spirit behind Valentine’s Day is beautiful.  Don’t we all want more of it though?

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    Wouldn’t it be great if we could make our loved ones feel special most days of the year? Wouldn’t it be fantastic if WE felt that our loved ones cherished and truly appreciated US most days of the year?

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    How, in this busy world of ours, can we keep the lovely spirit of Valentine’s Day alive?  Author CJ Mahaney offers some advice on this to men, but it relates to women as well.  He says, “To learn how to touch your wife’s heart and mind, you must study her.”  He then goes on to ask a poignant question: “Do you know how to surprise and delight your wife in the following areas?”

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    • clothing styles and stores?
    • jewelry?
    • health?
    • exercise?
    • books and magazines?
    • movies?
    • the arts?
    • sports?
    • food and drink?
    • music?
    • entertainment?
    • places to visit?
    • intellectual interests?
    • hobbies?
    • vacations/getaways?

    It’s usually the small things that make the biggest difference to us.  If someone takes the time to really know you and show you they know and appreciate who you are, then happiness and the feeling that we wish for each and every Valentine’s Day can be felt more often than just February 14th.

    Can this philosophy be directed toward our children too?  Absolutely!  Who doesn’t like to be loved this way?  Does your child mention a song or artist they love?  Why not find it on iTunes and secretly download it to their iPod.  Does your husband love a certain type of food from his heritage?  Why not cook that for him as a surprise?  Does your wife love romance?  Surprise her with a beautiful romance novel and a rose one day.

    It doesn’t take much, but the rewards of doing little things for our loved ones — and doing them OFTEN — are immeasurable.  Study your wife, husband or child, then use this information to bring happiness into your home on a regular basis, not just on the day when someone tells you to.

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    The Gentle Art of Saying No

    The Gentle Art of Saying No

    No!

    It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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    But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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    What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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    But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

    1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
    2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
    3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
    4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
    5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
    6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
    7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
    8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
    9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
    10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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