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How To Have No Passion In Life And Still Crush It

How To Have No Passion In Life And Still Crush It

There’s been a lot said about finding your passion and doing work you love. But enough of that for one second. What if you have no idea what you want to do in life?

I’m here to tell you that it’s okay. It’s time to take the pressure off you. I’m here to help you do more than just “finding your passion.” I’m here to help you live life the way it should be. To live life in the now, and totally crush it. Period.

Life is not a destination. Life is a journey. Some people take 10 years to figure out their life purpose, and some never do. Do you want to stress yourself out for 10 long years? Or do you want to do some crazy stuff, challenge yourself, stop your monotonous daily routine, and kick some butt? And all at the same time, while maybe discovering your passion too?

It’s time to discover that your life can be just as awesome without any particular burning passion.

Let’s get to it!

The 30-Day Challenge (extended for a whole year)

You have probably heard the wonders of these challenges: they say it takes about 30 days to cultivate a new habit, whether that’s an addition or a subtraction. But this is not just about habits. This is about stretching yourself, getting yourself uncomfortable, and growing a ton. You’re going to realize how much life has to offer, with or without having a passion.

And you’re going to have loads of fun at it!

Do note that these challenges were created for the common 9–5 employee, so “no time” is not an excuse. Make time!

Month 1: Cultivate a new habit

We are just getting started here, so don’t roll your eyes. The challenges increase in difficulty as you move along.

Think of a bad habit that you want to kill, or a good habit that you want to cultivate. Do not underestimate the power of habits because, to paraphrase Aristotle, you become what you repeatedly do.

The best way to start doing the right things consistently and with ease is to make them a habit.

“Good habits are worth being fanatical about.” ~ John Irving

I really believe in that.

I have a strategy to help you out. For every day you successfully execute your act, cross it out on the calendar. Now focus on not breaking that chain of crosses. Life is a game. Life is fun.

Month 2: Attitude of gratitude

Message (or call if you’re up for the challenge) two people every day and thank each of them for something. It can be literally anything at all, as long as you’re sincere and genuine about it.

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You will be surprised by the outcome.

Some people will be happy, some will think you’re a loony, some will just brush it off. You can even grab this opportunity to network and reconnect with some old friends. Just remember that their reaction is a reflection of their character and personal development, not yours.

By day 30, you would have expressed gratitude to 60 people. Take caution here, because you might be ridiculously happy this month.

Did you know psychologists have scientifically proven that one of the greatest contributing factors to overall happiness in your life is how much gratitude you show?

Month 3: Cold turkey—30 days without Facebook

“Status update: Going cold turkey for 30 days. Contact me through other means.”

Do that and notice how much free time you could actually be using to crush life. You don’t need to browse photos of hot chicks and ripped men. You don’t need to know what your friends are eating in real time.

It’s time to start appreciating real, authentic interactions with the people you love and care about. Start learning about what it takes to build real relationships.

Don’t worry. You’ll survive, I promise.

Need help? Get Cold Turkey!

Month 4: Pay it forward

Did you know that if you have food in your fridge, clothes on your back, a roof over your head and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75% of the world?

It’s time to give back. Pay it forward.

Offer to pay for a couple’s dinner. Offer to pay for the person behind you in the drive-through. Offer to pay for someone’s entire grocery list. Do this once every day.

You’ll be surprised; you might even start a chain reaction. This is powerful stuff. A simple gesture, yet powerful.

Learn from these guys.

Month 5: Read and be inspired

Here’s your chance to find something you might be interested in and grow a passion for.

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For the next 30 days, ask a friend to recommend you the most powerful and inspiring article that he or she has ever read on the net.

Ask your most intellectual friends. Ask friends who actually read.

For every article that resonates with you, print it out or bookmark it so you can refer to it in the future. Something might just click one day, and you could be well on your way to “doing the work you love” that those personal development bloggers so love talking about.

Best of all, you get to open yourself up to the world and you will gain tons of new knowledge that will blow your mind.

Knowledge is power.

Month 6: Learn a new skill

Commit to learning a new skill consistently for 30 days. Pick up an instrument. A sport. Enroll in a dance class. Learn about psychology and entrepreneurship.

This is your second chance at finding something that you can be passionate about.

Always be learning, always be growing. Real education begins after graduation. Don’t stop right there.

“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” ~ Nelson Mandela

Month 7: Double your savings, spend less

Getting harder here…

“Financial freedom comes to the person who saves 10% or more of his income throughout his lifetime.” You know who said that? Brian Tracy. It’s number 10 of his 21 Absolutely Unbreakable Laws of Money.

If you’re not in the habit of living within 90% of your income right now, I suggest you start doing so. Whether you have been or not, start saving a minimum of 20% for the next 30 days.

Cut down on whatever unnecessary expenditures you have. Challenge yourself. You might realize there are things you never really needed. And it’s a plus that you’re investing in your future along the way.

Always pay yourself first.

Month 8: Free hugs!

When you hug someone, you release something called oxytocin in your body, a hormone commonly known as the “love drug.” All you need to know is that this boosts positive emotions. It’s all the warm and fuzzy you feel.

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Everyone loves to be hugged. Imagine yourself being cuddled by your best friend or your soul mate.

Do it. I’m waiting.

Does it feel good? What’s not to love? Your happiness level is immediately boosted.

“Hugs should be available at the medical stores 24/7. Sometimes, they are the best healers for almost everything.” ~ Minhal Mehdi

Your job this month is to go out in the streets and offer free hugs every day for just 15 minutes. Show the world some love. And feel good about yourself while at it.

Month 9: Do a crazy act in public

This month, go somewhere where at least five strangers can see you. Now start dancing as though there’s no one around. Like, you know, when you do it at home. Don’t worry about what people are thinking of you. Because trust me, there will be some who are wishing inside that they could just let loose on their life and be awesome, just the way you do.

Be brave. Have fun. There’s nothing to it, really.

Bonus: How about scaring some people along the way?

Month 10: Record self-promo videos

What talents do you have? Are you good at the piano or the guitar? Do you have a super-ripped body? Are you a great kisser? Maybe you can type a thousand words in less than 30 minutes, consistently?

I don’t care what you have, if you think it’s a talent, make a video and brag about it. Practice speaking in front of a camera, that’s a great skill to have.

And be obnoxious about your self-promo: it can be funny, serious, whatever.

Find something to record every day and upload it all to YouTube. Share your videos on all your social networks. Make sure all your friends know.

Don’t fret; you have come this far and we’re almost done with the year. This is an awesome opportunity for self-discovery. You’re going to build up heck-loads of monster confidence and this is where you’re really going to crush life.

Just as with the previous month, some of your friends are going to wish they were living life as awesomely as you do.

Month 11: The approach

Health warning: this month’s exercise is probably best left to the singles out there!

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Men, approach five (ten if you’re up for the challenge) women every day. Choose the hottest ladies. The ones you think you would love to get to know. The ones you think you will never have and are too afraid to approach.

Pick her and just go get her.

Ladies, this is for you, too. The average woman is waiting for men to come to her. If you start approaching men, you’re already ahead of most ladies in getting the man you want. As a matter of fact, many men are going to find that confidence of yours super attractive.

This is not just about picking up, mind you (although I’m sure you’re going to get some numbers). This is about building confidence. This is about busting out of your comfort zone and conquering your fears.

Watch this dude kick some butt. Learn from him. You’re going to grow massively (if you take action). And don’t forget to have fun while you’re at it!

Month 12: Write your story

This is it, guys. We’re almost done!

I’m sure it must have been one heck of a ride for the last 11 months.

For each day this month, choose an interesting event and write 300 words about it. Learn to express yourself by penning your thoughts down and get those creative juices flowing. You will learn a lot about yourself here and you might even develop a passion for writing.

This is your time to reflect on your accomplishments. No more crazy stunts. Just relax. Write about that hottie’s number you got!

Now, can I assure that you will find your passion by the end of the year? Definitely not!

But I can guarantee your life will be the same as it was before, if you do not take action. Even if you choose to select just one 30-day challenge to beat, that’s powerful enough. The idea is that you are trying new things and challenging yourself.

What I can promise is that you’re going to make several new connections and you’re going to be massively inspired. This year might just be the year you grow the most.

Have fun with your newfound monster confidence!

“Live fully, love openly, and make a difference today.” ~ Brendon Burchard, author of The Millionaire Messenger

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Last Updated on September 10, 2019

How to Master the Art of Prioritization

How to Master the Art of Prioritization

Do you know that prioritization is an art? It is an art that will lead you to success in whatever area that matters to you.

By prioritization, I’m not talking so much about assigning tasks, but deciding which will take chronological priority in your day—figuring out which tasks you’ll do first, and which you’ll leave to last.

Effective Prioritization

There are two approaches to “prioritizing” the tasks in your to-do list that I see fairly often:

Approach #1 Tackling the Biggest Tasks First and Getting Them out of the Way

The idea is that by tackling them first, you deal with the pressure and anxiety that builds up and prevents you from getting anything done—whether we’re talking about big or small tasks. Leo Babauta is a proponent of this Big Rocks method.[1]

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Approach #2 Tackling the Tasks You Can Get Done Quickly and Easily, with Minimal Effort

Proponents of this method believe that by tackling the small fries first, you’ll have less noise distracting you from the periphery of your consciousness.

If you believe in getting your email read and responded to, making phone calls and getting Google Reader zeroed before you dive into the high-yield work, you’re a proponent of this method. I suppose you could say Getting Things Done (GTD) encourages this sort of method, since the methodology advises followers to tackle tasks that can be completed within two minutes, right there and then.

Figure out Your Approach for Prioritization

My own approach is perhaps a mixture of the two.

I’ll write out my daily task list and draw little priority stars next to the three items I need to get done that day. They don’t need to be big tasks, but nine times out of ten, they are.

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Smaller tasks are rarely important enough to warrant a star in the first place; I can always get away without even checking my inbox until the next day if I’m swamped, and the people who need to get in touch with me super quickly know how.

But I’m not recommending my system of prioritization to you. I’m also not saying that mine is better than Leo’s Big Rocks method, and I’m not saying it’s better than the “if it can be done quickly, do it first” method either.

The thing with prioritization is that knowing when to do what relies very much on you and the way you work. Some people need to get some small work done to find a sense of accomplishment and clarity that allows them to focus on and tackle bigger items. Others need to deal with the big tasks or they’ll get caught up in the busywork of the day and never move on, especially when that Google Reader count just refuses to get zeroed (personally, I recommend the Mark All As Read button—I use it most days!).

I’m in between, because my own patterns can be all over the place. Some days I will be ready to rip into massive projects at 7AM. Other times I’ll feel the need to zero every inbox I have and clean up the papers on my desk before I can focus on anything serious. I also know that my peak, efficient working time doesn’t come at 11AM or 3PM or some specific time like it does for many people, but I have several peaks divided by a few troughs. I can feel what’s coming on when and try to keep my schedule liquid enough that I can adapt.

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That’s why I use a starred task list system rather than a scheduled task list. It allows me to trust myself (something that I suppose takes a certain amount of discipline) and achieve peak efficiency by blowing with the winds. If I fight the peaks and troughs, I’ll get less done; but if I do certain kinds of work in each period of the day as they come, I’ll get more done than most others in a similar line of work.

You may not be able to trust yourself to that extent without falling into the busywork trap. You may not be able to tackle big tasks first thing in the morning without feeling like you’re pushing against an invisible brick wall that won’t budge. You might not be able to deal with small tasks before the big tasks without feeling pangs of guilt and urgency.

My point is:

The prioritization systems themselves don’t matter. They’re all pretty good for a group of people, not least of all to the people who espouse them because they use them and find them effective.

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What matters is that you don’t fall for one set of dogma (and I’m not saying Leo Babauta or David Allen preach these things as dogma, but sometimes their proponents do) until you’ve tried the systems extensively, and found which method of chronological prioritization works for you.

And if the system you already use works great, then there’s no need to bother trying others—in the world of personal productivity, it’s too easy to mess with something that works and find yourself unable to get back into your former groove.

“If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”

In truth, this principle applies to all sorts of personal productivity issues, though it’s important to know which issues it applies to.

If you thought multitasking worked well for you each day and I’d have to contend that you are wrong—multitasking is a universal myth in my books! But if you find yourself prioritizing tasks that never get done, you might need to reconsider which of the above approaches you’re using and change to a system that is more personally effective.

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