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How To Have No Passion In Life And Still Crush It

How To Have No Passion In Life And Still Crush It

There’s been a lot said about finding your passion and doing work you love. But enough of that for one second. What if you have no idea what you want to do in life?

I’m here to tell you that it’s okay. It’s time to take the pressure off you. I’m here to help you do more than just “finding your passion.” I’m here to help you live life the way it should be. To live life in the now, and totally crush it. Period.

Life is not a destination. Life is a journey. Some people take 10 years to figure out their life purpose, and some never do. Do you want to stress yourself out for 10 long years? Or do you want to do some crazy stuff, challenge yourself, stop your monotonous daily routine, and kick some butt? And all at the same time, while maybe discovering your passion too?

It’s time to discover that your life can be just as awesome without any particular burning passion.

Let’s get to it!

The 30-Day Challenge (extended for a whole year)

You have probably heard the wonders of these challenges: they say it takes about 30 days to cultivate a new habit, whether that’s an addition or a subtraction. But this is not just about habits. This is about stretching yourself, getting yourself uncomfortable, and growing a ton. You’re going to realize how much life has to offer, with or without having a passion.

And you’re going to have loads of fun at it!

Do note that these challenges were created for the common 9–5 employee, so “no time” is not an excuse. Make time!

Month 1: Cultivate a new habit

We are just getting started here, so don’t roll your eyes. The challenges increase in difficulty as you move along.

Think of a bad habit that you want to kill, or a good habit that you want to cultivate. Do not underestimate the power of habits because, to paraphrase Aristotle, you become what you repeatedly do.

The best way to start doing the right things consistently and with ease is to make them a habit.

“Good habits are worth being fanatical about.” ~ John Irving

I really believe in that.

I have a strategy to help you out. For every day you successfully execute your act, cross it out on the calendar. Now focus on not breaking that chain of crosses. Life is a game. Life is fun.

Month 2: Attitude of gratitude

Message (or call if you’re up for the challenge) two people every day and thank each of them for something. It can be literally anything at all, as long as you’re sincere and genuine about it.

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You will be surprised by the outcome.

Some people will be happy, some will think you’re a loony, some will just brush it off. You can even grab this opportunity to network and reconnect with some old friends. Just remember that their reaction is a reflection of their character and personal development, not yours.

By day 30, you would have expressed gratitude to 60 people. Take caution here, because you might be ridiculously happy this month.

Did you know psychologists have scientifically proven that one of the greatest contributing factors to overall happiness in your life is how much gratitude you show?

Month 3: Cold turkey—30 days without Facebook

“Status update: Going cold turkey for 30 days. Contact me through other means.”

Do that and notice how much free time you could actually be using to crush life. You don’t need to browse photos of hot chicks and ripped men. You don’t need to know what your friends are eating in real time.

It’s time to start appreciating real, authentic interactions with the people you love and care about. Start learning about what it takes to build real relationships.

Don’t worry. You’ll survive, I promise.

Need help? Get Cold Turkey!

Month 4: Pay it forward

Did you know that if you have food in your fridge, clothes on your back, a roof over your head and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75% of the world?

It’s time to give back. Pay it forward.

Offer to pay for a couple’s dinner. Offer to pay for the person behind you in the drive-through. Offer to pay for someone’s entire grocery list. Do this once every day.

You’ll be surprised; you might even start a chain reaction. This is powerful stuff. A simple gesture, yet powerful.

Learn from these guys.

Month 5: Read and be inspired

Here’s your chance to find something you might be interested in and grow a passion for.

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For the next 30 days, ask a friend to recommend you the most powerful and inspiring article that he or she has ever read on the net.

Ask your most intellectual friends. Ask friends who actually read.

For every article that resonates with you, print it out or bookmark it so you can refer to it in the future. Something might just click one day, and you could be well on your way to “doing the work you love” that those personal development bloggers so love talking about.

Best of all, you get to open yourself up to the world and you will gain tons of new knowledge that will blow your mind.

Knowledge is power.

Month 6: Learn a new skill

Commit to learning a new skill consistently for 30 days. Pick up an instrument. A sport. Enroll in a dance class. Learn about psychology and entrepreneurship.

This is your second chance at finding something that you can be passionate about.

Always be learning, always be growing. Real education begins after graduation. Don’t stop right there.

“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” ~ Nelson Mandela

Month 7: Double your savings, spend less

Getting harder here…

“Financial freedom comes to the person who saves 10% or more of his income throughout his lifetime.” You know who said that? Brian Tracy. It’s number 10 of his 21 Absolutely Unbreakable Laws of Money.

If you’re not in the habit of living within 90% of your income right now, I suggest you start doing so. Whether you have been or not, start saving a minimum of 20% for the next 30 days.

Cut down on whatever unnecessary expenditures you have. Challenge yourself. You might realize there are things you never really needed. And it’s a plus that you’re investing in your future along the way.

Always pay yourself first.

Month 8: Free hugs!

When you hug someone, you release something called oxytocin in your body, a hormone commonly known as the “love drug.” All you need to know is that this boosts positive emotions. It’s all the warm and fuzzy you feel.

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Everyone loves to be hugged. Imagine yourself being cuddled by your best friend or your soul mate.

Do it. I’m waiting.

Does it feel good? What’s not to love? Your happiness level is immediately boosted.

“Hugs should be available at the medical stores 24/7. Sometimes, they are the best healers for almost everything.” ~ Minhal Mehdi

Your job this month is to go out in the streets and offer free hugs every day for just 15 minutes. Show the world some love. And feel good about yourself while at it.

Month 9: Do a crazy act in public

This month, go somewhere where at least five strangers can see you. Now start dancing as though there’s no one around. Like, you know, when you do it at home. Don’t worry about what people are thinking of you. Because trust me, there will be some who are wishing inside that they could just let loose on their life and be awesome, just the way you do.

Be brave. Have fun. There’s nothing to it, really.

Bonus: How about scaring some people along the way?

Month 10: Record self-promo videos

What talents do you have? Are you good at the piano or the guitar? Do you have a super-ripped body? Are you a great kisser? Maybe you can type a thousand words in less than 30 minutes, consistently?

I don’t care what you have, if you think it’s a talent, make a video and brag about it. Practice speaking in front of a camera, that’s a great skill to have.

And be obnoxious about your self-promo: it can be funny, serious, whatever.

Find something to record every day and upload it all to YouTube. Share your videos on all your social networks. Make sure all your friends know.

Don’t fret; you have come this far and we’re almost done with the year. This is an awesome opportunity for self-discovery. You’re going to build up heck-loads of monster confidence and this is where you’re really going to crush life.

Just as with the previous month, some of your friends are going to wish they were living life as awesomely as you do.

Month 11: The approach

Health warning: this month’s exercise is probably best left to the singles out there!

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Men, approach five (ten if you’re up for the challenge) women every day. Choose the hottest ladies. The ones you think you would love to get to know. The ones you think you will never have and are too afraid to approach.

Pick her and just go get her.

Ladies, this is for you, too. The average woman is waiting for men to come to her. If you start approaching men, you’re already ahead of most ladies in getting the man you want. As a matter of fact, many men are going to find that confidence of yours super attractive.

This is not just about picking up, mind you (although I’m sure you’re going to get some numbers). This is about building confidence. This is about busting out of your comfort zone and conquering your fears.

Watch this dude kick some butt. Learn from him. You’re going to grow massively (if you take action). And don’t forget to have fun while you’re at it!

Month 12: Write your story

This is it, guys. We’re almost done!

I’m sure it must have been one heck of a ride for the last 11 months.

For each day this month, choose an interesting event and write 300 words about it. Learn to express yourself by penning your thoughts down and get those creative juices flowing. You will learn a lot about yourself here and you might even develop a passion for writing.

This is your time to reflect on your accomplishments. No more crazy stunts. Just relax. Write about that hottie’s number you got!

Now, can I assure that you will find your passion by the end of the year? Definitely not!

But I can guarantee your life will be the same as it was before, if you do not take action. Even if you choose to select just one 30-day challenge to beat, that’s powerful enough. The idea is that you are trying new things and challenging yourself.

What I can promise is that you’re going to make several new connections and you’re going to be massively inspired. This year might just be the year you grow the most.

Have fun with your newfound monster confidence!

“Live fully, love openly, and make a difference today.” ~ Brendon Burchard, author of The Millionaire Messenger

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

Becoming Self-Taught (The How-To Guide)

Becoming Self-Taught (The How-To Guide)

Most of the skills I use to make a living are skills I’ve learned on my own: Web design, desktop publishing, marketing, personal productivity skills, even teaching! And most of what I know about science, politics, computers, art, guitar-playing, world history, writing, and a dozen other topics, I’ve picked up outside of any formal education.

This is not to toot my own horn at all; if you stop to think about it, much of what you know how to do you’ve picked up on your own. But we rarely think about the process of becoming self-taught. This is too bad, because often, we shy away from things we don’t know how to do without stopping to think about how we might learn it — in many cases, fairly easily.

The way you approach the world around you dictates to a great degree whether you will find learning something new easy or hard.

The Keys to Learning Anything Easily

Learning comes easily to people who have developed:

Curiosity

Being curious means you look forward to learning new things and are troubled by gaps in your understanding of the world. New words and ideas are received as challenges and the work of understanding them is embraced.

People who lack curiosity see learning new things as a chore — or worse, as beyond their capacities.

Patience

Depending on the complexity of a topic, learning something new can take a long time. And it’s bound to be frustrating as you grapple with new terminologies, new models, and apparently irrelevant information.

When you are learning something by yourself, there is nobody to control the flow of information, to make sure you move from basic knowledge to intermediate and finally advanced concepts.

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Patience with your topic, and more importantly with yourself is crucial — there’s no field of knowledge that someone in the world hasn’t managed to learn, starting from exactly where you are.

A Feeling for Connectedness

This is the hardest talent to cultivate, and is where most people flounder when approaching a new topic.

A new body of knowledge is always easiest to learn if you can figure out the way it connects to what you already know. For years, I struggled with calculus in college until one day, my chemistry professor demonstrated how to do half-life calculations using integrals. From then on, calculus came much easier, because I had made a connection between a concept I understood well (the chemistry of half-lifes) and a field I had always struggled in (higher maths).

The more you look for and pay attention to the connections between different fields, the more readily your mind will be able to latch onto new concepts.

How to Self-Taught Effectively

With a learning attitude in place, working your way into a new topic is simply a matter of research, practice, networking, and scheduling:

1. Research

Of course, the most important step in learning something new is actually finding out stuff about it. I tend to go through three distinct phases when I’m teaching myself a new topic:

Learning the Basics

Start as all things start today: Google it! Somehow people managed to learn before Google ( I learned HTML when Altavista was the best we got!) but nowadays a well-formed search on Google will get you a wealth of information on any topic in seconds.

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Surfing Wikipedia articles is a great way to get a basic grounding in a new field, too — and usually the Wikipedia entry for your search term will be on the first page of your Google search.

What I look for is basic information and then the work of experts — blogs by researchers in a field, forums about a topic, organizational websites, magazines. I subscribe to a bunch of RSS feeds to keep up with new material as it’s posted, I print out articles to read in-depth later, and I look for the names of top authors or top books in the field.

Hitting the Books

Once I have a good outline of a field of knowledge, I hit the library. I look up the key names and titles I came across online, and then scan the shelves around those titles for other books that look interesting.

Then, I go to the children’s section of the library and look up the same call numbers — a good overview for teens is probably going to be clearer, more concise, and more geared towards learning than many adult books.

Long-Term Reference

While I’m reading my stack of books from the library, I start keeping my eyes out for books I will want to give a permanent place on my shelves. I check online and brick-and-mortar bookstores, but also search thrift stores, used bookstores, library book sales, garage sales, wherever I happen to find myself in the presence of books.

My goal is a collection of reference manuals and top books that I will come back to either to answer thorny questions or to refresh my knowledge as I put new skills into practice. And to do this cheaply and quickly.

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2. Practice

Putting new knowledges into practice helps us develop better understandings now and remember more later. Although a lot of books offer exercises and self-tests, I prefer to jump right in and build something: a website, an essay, a desk, whatever.

A great way to put any new body of knowledge into action is to start a blog on it — put it out there for the world to see and comment on.

Just don’t lock your learning up in your head where nobody ever sees how much you know about something, and you never see how much you still don’t know.

Check out this guide for useful techniques to help you practice efficiently: The Beginner’s Guide to Deliberate Practice

3. Network

One of the most powerful sources of knowledge and understanding in my life have been the social networks I have become embedded in over the years — the websites I write on, the LISTSERV I belong to, the people I talk with and present alongside at conferences, my colleagues in the department where I studied and the department where I now teach, and so on.

These networks are crucial to extending my knowledge in areas I am already involved, and for referring me to contacts in areas where I have no prior experience. Joining an email list, emailing someone working in the field, asking colleagues for recommendations, all are useful ways of getting a foothold in a new field.

Networking also allows you to test your newly-acquired knowledge against others’ understandings, giving you a chance to grow and further develop.

Here find out How to Network So You’ll Get Way Ahead in Your Professional Life.

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4. Schedule

For anything more complex than a simple overview, it pays to schedule time to commit to learning. Having the books on the shelf, the top websites bookmarked, and a string of contacts does no good if you don’t give yourself time to focus on reading, digesting, and implementing your knowledge.

Give yourself a deadline, even if there is no externally imposed time limit, and work out a schedule to reach that deadline.

Final Thoughts

In a sense, even formal education is a form of self-guided learning — in the end, a teacher can only suggest and encourage a path to learning, at best cutting out some of the work of finding reliable sources to learn from.

If you’re already working, or have a range of interests beside the purely academic, formal instruction may be too inconvenient or too expensive to undertake. That doesn’t mean you have to set aside the possibility of learning, though; history is full of self-taught successes.

At its best, even a formal education is meant to prepare you for a life of self-guided learning; with the power of the Internet and the mass media at our disposal, there’s really no reason not to follow your muse wherever it may lead.

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