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Writing: Change Yourself, Change the World

Writing: Change Yourself, Change the World

During our school days, writing was such a loathsome task; one of the greatest parts of graduation was putting down our pens and letting our brains atrophy. Why, then, do so many people choose to write? Why bother writing anything if there isn’t a formidable educator standing over us?

1. Change

Change is the reason so many people choose to write. It is what drives me – and perhaps many of you. After all, Margaret Mead was right when she said: “Never believe that a few caring people can’t change the world. For, indeed, that’s all who ever have.”

And writing about both the good and bad experiences has been the foundation of change. Not convinced? Let me tell you exactly how writing can instigate change – both on a personal and global level.

2. Measure Success

I once read an article on goal setting. The author instructed readers to write down all their goals and aspirations. Then, go back and determine how they will accomplish each task.

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Why write your goals down? You are much more likely to accomplish your goals if you put the effort into writing them. You focus your mind on what you really want to accomplish and how you are going to do it. An ambiguous goal – like eat healthier – is difficult to measure, but if you wrote that out, you’d probably think of several ways to narrow your goal down and elaborate on what you really want to achieve, such as sitting down to dinner every night, eating three servings of fruits and vegetables each day, or only hitting the fast food joint once a week.

Similarly, writing about your travel experience offers a way to measure your successes and evaluate if you are achieving everything you set out to do.

3. Instigate Change

Each and every day, we all – no matter where we are in the world – witness injustices, faulty rules and regulations, prejudices, and more. Many of us feel there is little, if anything we can do about these things. However, there has always been one tried and true way to instigate change: raise awareness.

Writing about offensive things is the first step to drawing attention to them; once you have drawn attention to the situation, you can go about instigating change.

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Mahatma Gandhi said: “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”

People generally sit in their culturally-ignorant bubble (no judgment there, just a fact) and are totally unaware of many issues others face on a daily basis. Since few people have the means or desire to witness these things firsthand, it is the responsibility of global writers to bring these injustices to the attention of fellow countrymen.

By writing about major world issues, the author is changing own life along with changing the world. If we just passively observe life – without engaging – we don’t really experience it. Write about it and it becomes a personal issue that changes how you think, live, and interact with others. According to Wikipedia, desensitization is defined as the diminished emotional responsiveness to a negative or aversive stimulus after repeated exposure to it.

I want to remember there is an alternate way to live. Viktor E. Frankl had it right when he said, “When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.” Hopefully, I can rely on my writing to remember how life can/should be.

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4. Learn Something New

I would argue it is nearly impossible to write anything without learning something.

If you are a professional writer – say, a freelance blog content writer – you have to research different topics regularly. News reporters and magazine columnists need to do the same thing. All these writers need to gather facts, statistics, data, etc. Even novel writers need to research the topic of their book.

That is obvious learning, but there are less obvious learning opportunities too.

Take this blog post for example: I’ve had the idea for this post rolling around in my head for quite a while. Before putting my thoughts down on paper, I checked the archives of the site because I wanted to make sure no one else had written anything like it before. While meandering through the past posts, I couldn’t help but click on several that caught my eye. Two hours later, I had determined there wasn’t anything like my article on this blog – but there was a ton of interesting and educational information.

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At the very least, writing teaches you something about yourself. Just a simple diary entry exposes your deepest thoughts and intentions. If you didn’t take the time to write it, you might not have ever unearthed those parts of yourself.

There you have it. The top four reasons why writing can change you and the world you live in. What do you think? Do you agree? Do you write to instigate change? Have you been changed by what someone else wrote? Let us know!

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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