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WorkHack: The Attitude of Q. & D.

WorkHack: The Attitude of Q. & D.

Aloha, let’s manage with aloha: Work well, live well.

Last week we talked about what employees need to learn from their managers. What can managers learn from employees? Virtually everything they need to know about the things which affect the productivity of the business they manage. Whether you are the employee or the manager, I’d wager your list of learning nuggets would be a long one.

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What I’d like to offer you today instead, is another tool on HOW managers can learn what their employees know (footnote below). This tool is something we know of in managing with aloha as the Attitude of Q. & D. This is the attitude that Q.&A.’s are not good enough where you work: Question and Answer gets replaced with Question and Dialogue.

These are the implicit expectations of Dialogue:

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There’s potentially more than one answer to any question,
Those answers best come from more than one person,
In responses, pieces of an answer, and the beginnings of an answer are okay,
Weighing in on a question reveals more possibility when it is collaborative process.

The best answers and the right answers can be elusive things in companies. One nagging reason for this is that best answers remain hidden behind the ones we’re too quick to settle for. They arrive in conversations with the culprits of “the way we’ve always done it,” “what the boss will probably want,” and “yeah, that’ll be good enough.” As managers, our job is to dig deeper, and to reveal all the options until we arrive at the best one.

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The good news is that so many of these gems can be readily found in the collective intelligence of our people. How do you mine those gems? By learning to ask better questions, and then creating an atmosphere where dialogue is always expected to follow sincerely inquisitive questions (as opposed to leading questions). You want the synergistic effect where 1 + 1 can equal 3—and usually does.

This means more than the elementary phrasing of “open-ended questions.” It means that most everything at work worth improving and building on can be questioned. It means asking questions when the timing is right for exploratory back and forth dialogue. It means welcoming an alternative that may differ from yours, and being willing to see this happen more often than not. It means getting creative. It means admitting you don’t have all the answers, and you don’t pretend that you do.

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“This may sound a bit out there, but what if we ______? What do you suppose is the best and worst that could happen?”
“______ is always a lengthy process for us. Do you know of any time-wasters, redundancy, or unnecessary steps we may be taking with this?”
“What’s been your experience with ______. What have you noticed about ______?
“I’m stuck. I need a new idea with ______. Can you help me?”
“What do you think?”
“What do you think?”
“What do you think?”

One more very important thing: It means never testing people in those situations where there is just one answer, and you have to require compliance (think safety, think legality, think core values).

More on September Learning right here on Lifehack.org with me, every Thursday of this month. On every other day, you can visit me on www.ManagingWithAloha.com. Aloha,
Rosa Say

Previous Thursday Column: 5 Things Employees Need to Learn—from You.
Footnote: The first tool I’d mentioned was The Daily Five Minutes.
Reference: Managing with Aloha

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Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

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The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.

If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.

The Need for Change

Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.

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We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.

Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.

This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.

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    Signs It’s Time to Redefine

    “Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano

    So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.

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    “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

    The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.

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    When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.

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      And if Arnold can do it…so can you!

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