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This Video Will Inspire You And Show You How Models Think Of Themselves

This Video Will Inspire You And Show You How Models Think Of Themselves

Have you ever felt a wave of empathy during that scene in “Bridget Jones’s Diary,” where Bridget attempts unsuccessfully to give herself a home leg-waxing before her date with Daniel cleaver? How about the moment in “The Edge of Reason” when she declares to Mark Darcy, “I will always be just a little bit fat”?

Many of us can probably relate to this microscopic scrutiny of our own bodies: standing in front of the mirror, willing our reflections to show us smaller waists, bigger breasts, or shinier hair; and the short film “Models are perfect. Or are they?” by D.EFECT takes an honest look at the reality of the unattainable ideal of physical perfection – even for the models who supposedly embody that ideal.

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The video features a series of female models in various stages of dress, from the opening shot of the first model in a loose-fitting summer nightgown with tousled hair and a make-up free face to the heavily-made up girl in cocktail dress and high-heels. Everything from the intentionally oversized dresses to the hideously ugly slippers works to detract from, rather than to enhance the models’ figures. Each shot is captioned with bold, self-scrutinizing statements like “This obsession with perfect looks will make you feel hopelessly insecure and miserable.”

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Each girl then confesses to the camera what she most dislikes about her body: one girl hates her shoulders, another her big feet, and one wishes her waist were smaller. As the models talk about their insecurity with their bodies, the camera zooms in on the feature mentioned, drawing the eye to one’s crooked teeth and the wrinkle’s in another’s smile.

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On the one hand, the video tells a troubling (though hardly surprising) truth about the impossibility of the perfect body; on the other, it challenges us to embrace our imperfections. Zooming in on each model’s “hated” feature shows us the danger of obsessing over one part to the exclusion of the whole, objectifying and fragmenting our self-image until we lose sight of who we are. The fact that each girl shares a different imperfection reminds us that there’s no such thing as the perfect body and that there’s a certain natural beauty in the uniqueness of the molds in which each of us is cast.

I’ve always hated the fact that my shoulders poke out of a strapless dress like a pair of bony boulders, but the truth is, my shoulders aren’t the sum total of who I am, and nobody is ultimately going to judge me based on whether or not I can rock a tube top. If you’re in need of a reminder to love yourself just as you are, watching this video will teach you to view yourself in a much more flattering light.

Featured photo credit: Models are Perfect by D.EFECT via youtube.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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