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In This Unscripted Video Kids Teach You How To Handle Emotions

In This Unscripted Video Kids Teach You How To Handle Emotions

Mad. Aggravated. At your wit’s end.Everyone’s been there before.

Maybe it was a rough day at the office that did it to you. Or rush-hour traffic. Or a family member who just asked way too much of you that morning. And you felt like you were going to lose it.

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It’s fine; it’s happened to all of us. But there are more productive ways to deal with frustration than taking it out on a loved one, or stewing over it for the rest of the day.

In just under four minutes, the children in this video exhibit wisdom that some of the most intelligent adults could learn from. Their advice? Just breathe.

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These school-age children are able to pinpoint warning signs their body sends them when they are getting to their breaking point, or, as one girl explains in her own words, when “‘mad’ just takes over your body.” One of the children drew a parallel to a glass jar full of glitter, and how the glitter gets jumbled up when it’s shaken. They talk about what they do when they’re mad (like punch stuff, scream, or get red-hot), and how they don’t like doing what they do when they’re mad.

One child is even able to explain the neuroscience behind anger, a phenomenon I’m sure many adults aren’t aware of.

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More importantly, these children explain the coping skills they use when they begin to feel the “mad” warning signs in their body. The overall consensus from these young minds is simple: just breathe.

The children describe how breathing helps the heart slow down, and harnesses your energy, allowing you to think clearly. The girl who used the glitter analogy explains, “it’s like all the sparkles are at the bottom of your brain.”

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The wisdom shared by these young life coaches is something all of us could use on a daily basis, at work, at home, or in the car. Nothing is so important it’s worth lashing out, or losing your cool.

Though these children don’t have bills to pay, or mouths to feed (besides their own), they all have worries and stress that are just as important as the adult problems we face every day. And if they can figure out a way to remain calm, so can all of us.

Featured photo credit: Pixabay via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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