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Is This Love Real? A Test to Separate LIKE from LOVE

Is This Love Real? A Test to Separate LIKE from LOVE

Have I fallen in love? Is this love real? Maybe I like this person? I don’t know my own feelings… Everyone has had these worries about love at least once. If s/he is already married or is a type completely opposite to yours, you may feel crazy and don’t want to admit to your feelings. But aren’t there times when you realised “love” through your unconscious attitude towards someone or something that he said that keeps running in your head?

Is this LOVE? Or is it just another LIKE?

You can diagnose your “love” in this test, just count the number of items that ring true to you.

1. I want to say unnecessary things to him/her.

You know it’s unnecessary…but you want to meddle!

2. I want to talk about myself in front of him/her.

Were there times when you noticed that you kept talking about yourself?

3. To be honest, I want to have sex.

No explanation is necessary. It’s a human nature.

4. I want to do snowboarding (or other sports) with him/her.

You want to release your overflowing passion.

5. I want to seduce him/her or want to be seduced by him/her.

You probably are imagining what’s next already. (laughs)

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6. I have similar taste in food and music to him/her.

Yes, people say this is important for marriage.

7. He/She seems very accepting.

You want him/her to accept you as who you are.

8. I want to be protected or want to protect him/her.

Well, people must support each other…

9. I feel that I can trust him/her.

As long as this isn’t a biased presumption, OK!

10. I want to be touched, or touch him/her.

If you like someone, you long to be near them.

11. I want to make him/her laugh.

It’s also very important to share enjoyable moments.

12. I don’t know why, but I want to know.

The reason for being interested…

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13. When I’m with him/her, my attitude becomes hot and cold.

You can’t be honest because of “love”! Totally understand your feeling!

14. I want to tease him/her.

Do you pick on him/her because you want him/her to look at you?

15. I feel that he/she is awfully attractive.

Even if they aren’t handsome, there are many attractive men out there.

16. I’m tempted to pet him/her.

Do you think he/she is as cute as a pet?

17. He/She has already told me his problems and complaints.

One can only show their weaknesses to someone he/she trusts.

18. I want to sympathise with him/her even if it is a bad story.

To show one’s weakness is to open one’s heart.

19. I want to heal his/her pain.

You would be a great mother or father!

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20. I feel that I am necessary to him/her.

…it’s possible that you’re the one needing him/her.

Time to sort your “love”! Let’s see, how many items are true to you!

You answered YES to 4 or more of questions “1-5”:

Genuinely in love

You are in carnivorous mode. Perhaps you’re frustrated? But “I want to have sex!” is a type of “love” that is necessary for human prosperity so there’s nothing to be ashamed of!

in love

    You answered YES to 4 or more of questions “6-10”:

    You like his face or the feeling of being with him/her

    The feeling of comfort when you two are together is important. But actually, you might be in love with yourself rather than him/her. This might be the typical “I like him/her if he/she likes me”.

    being with him her

      You answered YES to 4 or more of questions “11-15”:

      Friendly or humanly love

      This is the perfect kind of “love” for just friends. You two might have good influence on each other as rivals. It’s best to be friends that you can joke with and share your weaknesses with.

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      friendly or humanly love

        You answered YES to 4 or more of questions “16-20”:

        Sympathy or family love

        You are a nice person. Perhaps you usually get stuck with mommy’s boys or daddy’s girls, and confused falling in a love relationship with being kind to others.

        family love

          You answered YES to 16 or more with an overall balance:

          First-class “love”

          Congratulations! You must love him so much that his/her faults are precious to you. This first-class “love” forgives selfishness and needs. Go and approach him/her!

          first class love

            “Love” comes in different forms. There are instances where you seem to like someone but in fact you actually like yourself. At times, such feeling might be too strong and ruin the other. The feeling of love does not go well either too light or too heavy. A balanced “love” might be an eternal theme.

            In the test of the biases of “love”, which type did you fall under?

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            30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

            30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

            In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

            1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

            Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

            2. Focus on your breath

            Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

            3. Get organized and purge old items

            A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

            4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

            Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

            5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

            Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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            6. Smile more

            Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

            7. Don’t worry about the future

            As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

            8. Eat real food

            The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

            9. Choose being happy over being right

            Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

            10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

            Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

            11. Make use of filtering features on social media

            You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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            12. Get comfortable with silence

            When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

            13. Listen to understand, not to respond

            So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

            14. Put your troubles in a bubble

            Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

            15. Speak more slowly

            Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

            16. Don’t procrastinate

            Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

            17. Buy a coloring book

            Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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            18. Prioritize yourself

            You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

            19. Forgive others

            Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

            20. Check your expectations

            Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

            21. Engage in active play

            Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

            22. Stop criticizing yourself

            The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

            23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

            Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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            24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

            Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

            25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

            Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

            26. Manage your money

            Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

            27. Stop trying to control everything

            Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

            28. Practice affirmations

            Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

            29. Get up before sunrise

            Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

            30. Be yourself

            Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

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