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The Hidden Obstacle to Massive Motivation and Productivity

The Hidden Obstacle to Massive Motivation and Productivity

Do you know how much more motivated and productive you could be?

If you are an average worker, chances are you operate at around 60% capacity, according one corporate survey.

In other words, if you are average, it takes you five days of work to accomplish what you could do in three.

The benefits of greater motivation and productivity, over time, could transform your career or business dramatically. Imagine getting 40% more done every week, for years to come!

That’s the good news: you have tremendous potential!

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The bad news is that hidden in your psyche (and in mine) is a pervasive obstacle to motivation and productivity.

It’s called an attachment. In this case, it’s an attachment to feelings of deprivation.

In the throes of a deprivation attachment, we cling to feelings of emptiness, apathy, frustration, or boredom and avoid a sense of fulfillment, such as the fulfillment that comes from meeting needs and accomplishing goals.

Amazingly, we can get so accustomed to living the deprived life that we unwittingly seek it out by avoiding what would bring satisfaction!

In the end, we are left with a conflict. On the one hand, we want to be motivated and succeed. On the other hand, we don’t seem to care. This is a perfect set up for self-sabotage.

Do you have a deprivation attachment? Here are some signs that you do.

Notice how these behaviors indicate that a part of you is seeking to be deprived.

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• You set a goal, get started, then mysteriously lose motivation or get bored.

• You have a need, but do not express it.

• You do not allow yourself to be satisfied unless something is perfect, which never happens.

• You make excuses to justify laziness.

• You put off doing things that you would feel great for doing.

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• You engage in behaviors that directly prevent genuine fulfillment, such as over-eating, drinking too much, or various addictions that cause you to feel numb or empty.

• You feel guilty or scared when you succeed.

• You expect disappointment.

• You feel like you don’t deserve happiness and success.

Acknowledging the deprivation attachment is a huge step toward letting it go. Understanding the source of the attachment is another big help. Essentially, you need to get to the root of this one and pull it out of your psyche for good!

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Then, you will be free to pursue your dreams without getting sucked into the psychic black hole of deprivation by a part of you that seems to want nothing but emptiness and misery.

There are many kinds of negative attachments. We become so accustomed to them that we believe living with them is just “how life is.”

We can become attached to rejection, feeling controlled, humiliation, shame, and failure. We need to shine the light on our negative attachments if we are to free ourselves from them.

A challenge to you:

If you suspect the deprivation attachment applies to you, then do the following: for the next 2-3 days, monitor your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Take special note of those that serve to keep you in a state of deprivation. How do you deny yourself the good things in life? What thoughts and feelings keep you from moving forward?

This kind of insight is the critical first step toward change!

Next, after you begin to get how this works and have a few AHA moments, then you can ask yourself how long you need to keep this up. What purpose does keeping yourself in a state of deprivation serve? What unfinished business do you have around this issue?

What would happen if you let it all go and simply pursued fulfillment as if it were your birthright?

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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