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The Body Language of Success: Tricks from Models

The Body Language of Success: Tricks from Models

Body language is so important. It can show how you’re really feeling about a person or a situation. A lot of times the way your body is talking says more than what you’re saying out loud. Your body language can give off vibes that others will pick up and sometimes that can help or hurt their first impression of you. Body language can make or break you: you can come across completely differently to others based on small things you do, i.e. you could come across as a nervous person by the clicking of your pen or you could be a confident role model by the way you present yourself to others.

Whatever You’re Feeling, You’ll Become

Naomi Campbell, who has been in the modeling industry for almost 30 years now, she stated this more than perfectly in a Huffington Post interview: “If you feel fear, fear will become you.” If you’re feeling scared then your body language is going to show that, other people will pick up on it and then what? They’re going to judge you. If you’re feeling confident, then people are going to pick up on that and think, “wow, I want to go talk to that person.” If there’s a way you want to convey yourself, do it through body language first. Watch people who have that sort of ardor about them. Observe friends, role models, people you meet on a train and imitate it. Stand in a mirror and try to practice the way you want to be. Watch the way you cross your legs, roll your eyes, or purse your lips, it all conveys a message of how you’re really feeling.

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Posture Is Everything

As stated, stand in front of the mirror and practice the way you want to be. Don’t slouch, sit up straight. Models don’t slouch, they lean. When you lean too much it’s slouching. Slouching shows that you’re really not committed or interested in whatever it is you’re doing. And it’s bad for your back.  Having good posture when you sit, stand, and walk shows that you’re not only confident in what you’re doing but that you know what you’re doing and you care about what you’re doing (even if you don’t). You don’t want to sit in an interview or stand around at work slouching, it shows that you don’t care about the important project that you’re working on or that you really just don’t want to be there. If a model slouched on a runway or in an interview with someone, they wouldn’t ever get a call back to do a new shoot or walk on the runway again.

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Keep Your Hands Calm

Models almost never move their hands when walking the runway or in interviews. A lot of them take this trait outside their careers as well. Being able to keep your hands calm show that you’re calm. Fiddling your thumbs, clicking a pen, tapping a table, biting your nails, and touching your hair or face a lot are nervous habits. A lot of the time we don’t realize we’re doing it, it’s just a natural reaction our bodies have when we’re nervous, feeling shy, or even angry. Keeping your hands still shows that you are confident and controlled as you go about your daily life.

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Where You Stand Is Important (Literally)

Have you ever noticed how models are spaced a certain distance from the other models on the runway or in photos? It’s important to show how close you’re willing to be and how you really feel about a situation. If you stand too far away from others then you can seem shy and really reserved. People aren’t going to want to talk to you. Taking up space is okay. I’m not saying stand in the way – I’m saying make a stance when you’re standing. It lets people know that you’re there, you’re in the room and you’re ready to be approached. Models don’t shy away and hide in corners, they make sure their presence is known by the way they stand.

Keep Your Head Up

Models aren’t known for being shy. They aren’t the girls you read about in books who hide behind an over-sized cardigan and layers of messy hair with their eyes looking at the floor. Anyone who actually does that may have difficulty getting ahead professionally. Push your hair out of your face, walk in a confident stance and make sure your head is held up. When you have your head down you look insecure, lost and shy. When you have your head up and you’re looking forward, you exert an amount of intensity that people want to be a part of.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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