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The Body Language of Success: Tricks from Models

The Body Language of Success: Tricks from Models

Body language is so important. It can show how you’re really feeling about a person or a situation. A lot of times the way your body is talking says more than what you’re saying out loud. Your body language can give off vibes that others will pick up and sometimes that can help or hurt their first impression of you. Body language can make or break you: you can come across completely differently to others based on small things you do, i.e. you could come across as a nervous person by the clicking of your pen or you could be a confident role model by the way you present yourself to others.

Whatever You’re Feeling, You’ll Become

Naomi Campbell, who has been in the modeling industry for almost 30 years now, she stated this more than perfectly in a Huffington Post interview: “If you feel fear, fear will become you.” If you’re feeling scared then your body language is going to show that, other people will pick up on it and then what? They’re going to judge you. If you’re feeling confident, then people are going to pick up on that and think, “wow, I want to go talk to that person.” If there’s a way you want to convey yourself, do it through body language first. Watch people who have that sort of ardor about them. Observe friends, role models, people you meet on a train and imitate it. Stand in a mirror and try to practice the way you want to be. Watch the way you cross your legs, roll your eyes, or purse your lips, it all conveys a message of how you’re really feeling.

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Posture Is Everything

As stated, stand in front of the mirror and practice the way you want to be. Don’t slouch, sit up straight. Models don’t slouch, they lean. When you lean too much it’s slouching. Slouching shows that you’re really not committed or interested in whatever it is you’re doing. And it’s bad for your back.  Having good posture when you sit, stand, and walk shows that you’re not only confident in what you’re doing but that you know what you’re doing and you care about what you’re doing (even if you don’t). You don’t want to sit in an interview or stand around at work slouching, it shows that you don’t care about the important project that you’re working on or that you really just don’t want to be there. If a model slouched on a runway or in an interview with someone, they wouldn’t ever get a call back to do a new shoot or walk on the runway again.

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Keep Your Hands Calm

Models almost never move their hands when walking the runway or in interviews. A lot of them take this trait outside their careers as well. Being able to keep your hands calm show that you’re calm. Fiddling your thumbs, clicking a pen, tapping a table, biting your nails, and touching your hair or face a lot are nervous habits. A lot of the time we don’t realize we’re doing it, it’s just a natural reaction our bodies have when we’re nervous, feeling shy, or even angry. Keeping your hands still shows that you are confident and controlled as you go about your daily life.

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Where You Stand Is Important (Literally)

Have you ever noticed how models are spaced a certain distance from the other models on the runway or in photos? It’s important to show how close you’re willing to be and how you really feel about a situation. If you stand too far away from others then you can seem shy and really reserved. People aren’t going to want to talk to you. Taking up space is okay. I’m not saying stand in the way – I’m saying make a stance when you’re standing. It lets people know that you’re there, you’re in the room and you’re ready to be approached. Models don’t shy away and hide in corners, they make sure their presence is known by the way they stand.

Keep Your Head Up

Models aren’t known for being shy. They aren’t the girls you read about in books who hide behind an over-sized cardigan and layers of messy hair with their eyes looking at the floor. Anyone who actually does that may have difficulty getting ahead professionally. Push your hair out of your face, walk in a confident stance and make sure your head is held up. When you have your head down you look insecure, lost and shy. When you have your head up and you’re looking forward, you exert an amount of intensity that people want to be a part of.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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