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10 Killer Ways To Rock Your Life By Setting Goals That You’ll Actually Achieve

10 Killer Ways To Rock Your Life By Setting Goals That You’ll Actually Achieve

You know the drill. It’s always the same: millions of people get all ramped up to make resolutions for the new year in order to finally reach their goals. But after a few weeks, any traces of these resolutions are gone and our goals remain unreached for the rest of the year. It really shouldn’t be this way, but alas, for most of us, it is. It isn’t that we don’t want to make changes in our lives — we do — but most of us are unaware of how keying into a few old-school tactics can help us to set goals any time of the year that we’ll actually achieve!

Here’s the secret: there is no special formula, no magic wand to wave over ourselves that will transform us into rock stars, and no pill for it yet, either.

The secret is this: it takes good old-fashioned American work to succeed at anything!

If you want to develop some killer success strategies that will stick, you have to be willing to work hard and believe you can make it happen.

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Here are ten strategies that will help get and keep you on track:

Persevere

When most people decide to finally commit themselves to reaching a goal, they are gung ho at the beginning. Yipee. Go get em! Live the dream, set new goals, lose that flab, and get that makeover. But hype won’t get you anywhere. That’s why most of us fail to do much of anything. The only thing that will work for you, whether you’re trying to lose weight, start a new business, or set new goals, is to realize that anything of value, anything that’s worthwhile, takes time and perseverance to achieve. There are no shortcuts. No guts, no glory.

Dig Deep

Most of us fail at reaching our goals because we lack passion, we’re too general in defining our goals, and we’ve historically had way too many failures on the front end of things. In other words, we expect to fail. To succeed, you have to dig deep and find out what’s really important to you. People that are passionate about what they’re doing don’t burn out as easily. That doesn’t mean they don’t get tired; it means that something more powerful is driving them. It could be a cause, a belief, a need, or the love of something. Find it for yourself, and there will be no stopping you.

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Give

Most people who are successful pour into the lives of others. They’re generous with their time and want to build value for others. If you want to succeed in anything, learn to be a giver. Don’t think about what’s in it for you — think about giving others what they need, and everything else will fall into place.

Build

Don’t overlook building relationships. Whether you’re working on a new business, trying to lose weight, or trying for that promotion, relationships can provide the client base or support you need.

Get counsel

Successful people are always learning. They look to other successful people to mentor them. They are teachable and don’t try to re-invent the wheel.

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Invest

Whatever you want to do, you have to invest in it. That means time, money, and plenty of effort. Buy the right food if you’re trying to lose weight and make a lifestyle change. It may be more expensive to go organic, but you’re worth it. Spend the money on that great online course by a reputable teacher. You can’t make money if you won’t invest it your own business. You have to be willing to do things others won’t do.

Think positively

We’ve heard this one forever, but how many of us actually do it? Most people aren’t aware of how their negative internal monologues affect their abilities. Start noticing what you tell yourself on a daily basis. If you’re prone to negative self-talk, learn to replace it by building positive counter-statements. Consider this: nothing keeps you from reaching your goals like stinkin’ thinkin’.

Write it down

Don’t skip this exercise! Get a piece of paper and write down a list of what is motivating you to lose the weight, continue with your writing, start a blog, create a new business, or whatever else you may be wanting to do. You can do this on 3 x 5 cards. When your motivation waxes and wanes, pull them out and read them — slowly. If you want to lose weight and you’re tempted to overeat, remind yourself of why this is an important lifestyle change for you. Ask yourself the following:

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  • How do you want to feel about yourself at the end of the day?
  • Will this action help or hinder your ability to reach your goals?
  • What do you need to do to re-focus on the bigger picture?
  • What next steps might you need to take to do that?
  • How will you plan for future obstacles?

Never give up

Winston Churchill said this years ago, but it still holds true: “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” Most successful people have seen the bottom drop out plenty of times, but they suck it up and keep going anyway. When you want to quit, just take a break, regroup, and come back into it when you feel ready.

Change perspective

When trouble or difficulty arises, it’s easy to get discouraged. That last ten pounds won’t come off, another article is rejected, or you’ve had a financial hit to the new business. Discouragement can lead to despair — no bueno! Try looking at the obstacles through the lens of possibility. See your challenges as opportunities for new growth or a change of direction. If you throw the towel in, you’re done.

So now that you’re aware of some old tried-and-true ways to make your any-time-of-the-year resolutions stick, what the heck are you waiting for — go achieve your goals!

Back at you: What have you tried that’s helped you to turn a resolution into a reality

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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