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10 Killer Ways To Rock Your Life By Setting Goals That You’ll Actually Achieve

10 Killer Ways To Rock Your Life By Setting Goals That You’ll Actually Achieve

You know the drill. It’s always the same: millions of people get all ramped up to make resolutions for the new year in order to finally reach their goals. But after a few weeks, any traces of these resolutions are gone and our goals remain unreached for the rest of the year. It really shouldn’t be this way, but alas, for most of us, it is. It isn’t that we don’t want to make changes in our lives — we do — but most of us are unaware of how keying into a few old-school tactics can help us to set goals any time of the year that we’ll actually achieve!

Here’s the secret: there is no special formula, no magic wand to wave over ourselves that will transform us into rock stars, and no pill for it yet, either.

The secret is this: it takes good old-fashioned American work to succeed at anything!

If you want to develop some killer success strategies that will stick, you have to be willing to work hard and believe you can make it happen.

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Here are ten strategies that will help get and keep you on track:

Persevere

When most people decide to finally commit themselves to reaching a goal, they are gung ho at the beginning. Yipee. Go get em! Live the dream, set new goals, lose that flab, and get that makeover. But hype won’t get you anywhere. That’s why most of us fail to do much of anything. The only thing that will work for you, whether you’re trying to lose weight, start a new business, or set new goals, is to realize that anything of value, anything that’s worthwhile, takes time and perseverance to achieve. There are no shortcuts. No guts, no glory.

Dig Deep

Most of us fail at reaching our goals because we lack passion, we’re too general in defining our goals, and we’ve historically had way too many failures on the front end of things. In other words, we expect to fail. To succeed, you have to dig deep and find out what’s really important to you. People that are passionate about what they’re doing don’t burn out as easily. That doesn’t mean they don’t get tired; it means that something more powerful is driving them. It could be a cause, a belief, a need, or the love of something. Find it for yourself, and there will be no stopping you.

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Give

Most people who are successful pour into the lives of others. They’re generous with their time and want to build value for others. If you want to succeed in anything, learn to be a giver. Don’t think about what’s in it for you — think about giving others what they need, and everything else will fall into place.

Build

Don’t overlook building relationships. Whether you’re working on a new business, trying to lose weight, or trying for that promotion, relationships can provide the client base or support you need.

Get counsel

Successful people are always learning. They look to other successful people to mentor them. They are teachable and don’t try to re-invent the wheel.

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Invest

Whatever you want to do, you have to invest in it. That means time, money, and plenty of effort. Buy the right food if you’re trying to lose weight and make a lifestyle change. It may be more expensive to go organic, but you’re worth it. Spend the money on that great online course by a reputable teacher. You can’t make money if you won’t invest it your own business. You have to be willing to do things others won’t do.

Think positively

We’ve heard this one forever, but how many of us actually do it? Most people aren’t aware of how their negative internal monologues affect their abilities. Start noticing what you tell yourself on a daily basis. If you’re prone to negative self-talk, learn to replace it by building positive counter-statements. Consider this: nothing keeps you from reaching your goals like stinkin’ thinkin’.

Write it down

Don’t skip this exercise! Get a piece of paper and write down a list of what is motivating you to lose the weight, continue with your writing, start a blog, create a new business, or whatever else you may be wanting to do. You can do this on 3 x 5 cards. When your motivation waxes and wanes, pull them out and read them — slowly. If you want to lose weight and you’re tempted to overeat, remind yourself of why this is an important lifestyle change for you. Ask yourself the following:

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  • How do you want to feel about yourself at the end of the day?
  • Will this action help or hinder your ability to reach your goals?
  • What do you need to do to re-focus on the bigger picture?
  • What next steps might you need to take to do that?
  • How will you plan for future obstacles?

Never give up

Winston Churchill said this years ago, but it still holds true: “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” Most successful people have seen the bottom drop out plenty of times, but they suck it up and keep going anyway. When you want to quit, just take a break, regroup, and come back into it when you feel ready.

Change perspective

When trouble or difficulty arises, it’s easy to get discouraged. That last ten pounds won’t come off, another article is rejected, or you’ve had a financial hit to the new business. Discouragement can lead to despair — no bueno! Try looking at the obstacles through the lens of possibility. See your challenges as opportunities for new growth or a change of direction. If you throw the towel in, you’re done.

So now that you’re aware of some old tried-and-true ways to make your any-time-of-the-year resolutions stick, what the heck are you waiting for — go achieve your goals!

Back at you: What have you tried that’s helped you to turn a resolution into a reality

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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