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7 Simple Steps to Build a Successful Mindset

7 Simple Steps to Build a Successful Mindset

Many people I come across these days have a mindset that is totally working against them. They know what they want, they’re constantly trying to pursue that goal, and making solid effort, but never really reaching anywhere. Heck, I was one of them just a few years ago—I did everything, but nothing seemed to work!

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Formula for Living Your Success 2

    Then, over the course of time, I came across a few good books that helped me start taking action. If we want to succeed, we need to figure out a way to think over the hedge, and we have to understand that we should oversee our own mindsets, our way of working and our ideals of success.

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    Here is a 7-step formula for living your success from the inside out.

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    1. Define your success – If you don’t define it, you will keep yourself subjected to confusion about your success and your failures. Find out what’s important for you in your personal life, career and health. For an hour of two, set aside your ego, and also your guilt, and think about what a perfect life would be to you.
    2. Set goals based on your definition – Right now, you’re at a stage where you simply know what success means to you. You’ve no plan, no help, nor any strategy to live that success. So, start by setting goals in the three basic of life: work, relationships, and health.
    3. Find inspiration and motivation – Setting goals isn’t enough. The next step helps you to find a way to convince your brain to stick to that goal and get inspired about how to move ahead. The best way to find motivation is through books. Go find 2-3 books that can keep your inspired and stay persistent; read them again and again. A few book that worked for me were: 1. Think and Grow Rich 2. Rich Dad Poor Dad 3. Bhagwat Gita 4. The Bible
    4. Create habits surrounding your goals – Goal-setting works best when you have habits surrounding your goal. Your habits are directly related to the rate of depletion of your motivation levels, so if you’re not habitual about doing things that are needed for achieving your goals, your motivation levels will deplete more quickly.
    5. Create a routine around your habits – Successful people have this one noticeable thing in their lives: they live their success, whether anyone notices them or not. Learn to live your success. Do the best work you want to end up with today; throw yourself at the toughest of tasks. Make it a routine to commit yourself to that habitual activity, and demand exceptional performance from yourself.
    6. Stop procrastinating – Routines suck, and even the most successful people will time lapse  because of their habit of procrastinating. There will be times when inspiration will stop flowing and life will seem pointless, and your time will get wasted. Here, the best advice would be to go back to step 3, because this is the time when you need motivation, inspiration, and love the most. I love the quote, “One should be loved when he least deserves it, because that’s the time he needs it most!”
    7. Stop looking at success like a distant achievement – “I wish I was that successful”, “When will I reach that success?” Stop considering success from a point of view where success is different from you as an individual, and is merely something you hope to attain one day.

    After I learned these tricks, I have always felt happy and inspired to do more. Instead of searching for some distant success, search for success in your day-to-day life—find success with the smallest bits of work that help you reach your goal. Then stay committed to those habits and strive to live them daily.

    I found that successful people live these rules; they don’t really search for success,  but instead they set these habitual routines into their lives, consciously or unconsciously, and seek out the best way forward. Now you know it. It’s your time to change yourself. Consciously create habits that improve your life, and learn to live successfully with them.

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    Last Updated on September 17, 2018

    7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

    7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

    Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

    Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

    When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

    Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

    1. You’re depressed about your home life.

    No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

    However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

    If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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    When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

    You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

    2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

    Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

    If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

    You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

    If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

    3. You can’t stop snooping.

    Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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    I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

    Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

    So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

    It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

    If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

    4. You’re afraid of commitment.

    If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

    Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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    No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

    If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

    Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

    5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

    If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

    Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

    Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

    Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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    If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

    6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

    When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

    When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

    If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

    7. You chase past feelings.

    It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

    You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

    When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

    Final thoughts

    If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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