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7 Simple Steps to Build a Successful Mindset

7 Simple Steps to Build a Successful Mindset

Many people I come across these days have a mindset that is totally working against them. They know what they want, they’re constantly trying to pursue that goal, and making solid effort, but never really reaching anywhere. Heck, I was one of them just a few years ago—I did everything, but nothing seemed to work!

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Formula for Living Your Success 2

    Then, over the course of time, I came across a few good books that helped me start taking action. If we want to succeed, we need to figure out a way to think over the hedge, and we have to understand that we should oversee our own mindsets, our way of working and our ideals of success.

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    Here is a 7-step formula for living your success from the inside out.

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    1. Define your success – If you don’t define it, you will keep yourself subjected to confusion about your success and your failures. Find out what’s important for you in your personal life, career and health. For an hour of two, set aside your ego, and also your guilt, and think about what a perfect life would be to you.
    2. Set goals based on your definition – Right now, you’re at a stage where you simply know what success means to you. You’ve no plan, no help, nor any strategy to live that success. So, start by setting goals in the three basic of life: work, relationships, and health.
    3. Find inspiration and motivation – Setting goals isn’t enough. The next step helps you to find a way to convince your brain to stick to that goal and get inspired about how to move ahead. The best way to find motivation is through books. Go find 2-3 books that can keep your inspired and stay persistent; read them again and again. A few book that worked for me were: 1. Think and Grow Rich 2. Rich Dad Poor Dad 3. Bhagwat Gita 4. The Bible
    4. Create habits surrounding your goals – Goal-setting works best when you have habits surrounding your goal. Your habits are directly related to the rate of depletion of your motivation levels, so if you’re not habitual about doing things that are needed for achieving your goals, your motivation levels will deplete more quickly.
    5. Create a routine around your habits – Successful people have this one noticeable thing in their lives: they live their success, whether anyone notices them or not. Learn to live your success. Do the best work you want to end up with today; throw yourself at the toughest of tasks. Make it a routine to commit yourself to that habitual activity, and demand exceptional performance from yourself.
    6. Stop procrastinating – Routines suck, and even the most successful people will time lapse  because of their habit of procrastinating. There will be times when inspiration will stop flowing and life will seem pointless, and your time will get wasted. Here, the best advice would be to go back to step 3, because this is the time when you need motivation, inspiration, and love the most. I love the quote, “One should be loved when he least deserves it, because that’s the time he needs it most!”
    7. Stop looking at success like a distant achievement – “I wish I was that successful”, “When will I reach that success?” Stop considering success from a point of view where success is different from you as an individual, and is merely something you hope to attain one day.

    After I learned these tricks, I have always felt happy and inspired to do more. Instead of searching for some distant success, search for success in your day-to-day life—find success with the smallest bits of work that help you reach your goal. Then stay committed to those habits and strive to live them daily.

    I found that successful people live these rules; they don’t really search for success,  but instead they set these habitual routines into their lives, consciously or unconsciously, and seek out the best way forward. Now you know it. It’s your time to change yourself. Consciously create habits that improve your life, and learn to live successfully with them.

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    The Gentle Art of Saying No

    The Gentle Art of Saying No

    No!

    It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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    But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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    What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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    But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

    1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
    2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
    3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
    4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
    5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
    6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
    7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
    8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
    9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
    10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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