Only People With Social Anxiety Would Understand This

Only People With Social Anxiety Would Understand This

Do you remember  the last time  you had butterflies flapping in your stomach? When your heart was thumping so fast you thought it would come out of your chest?  When your palms turned clammy? These are sensations that as many as 1 in 10 people experience on a near daily basis. Social anxiety disorder or social phobia can be a crippling thing to live with. It’s when an individual has a higher-than-usual fear of dealing with everyday social interactions like the following.

1. Your phone rings

What you are thinking: “Stop ringing. Stop ringing… STOP…please?  Why did I choose the ringtone? It sounds like an ambulance on drugs. People are staring! SHUTUP SHUTUP.”

What others are thinking: “Is that my phone? Nope. Cool.”


answering the phone

    2. Going Out to Eat

    What you are thinking: “What to eat what to eat what to e-. OKAY, say something. Yes I DO want fries with that. But I can’t say that now, she’s already done my order. She’ll think I’m an idiot. I’m holding up the queue. I’m never coming back here… ”

    What the cashier is thinking: “Next!”

    going out to eat

      3. Going to a Bar

      What you are thinking: “Why are they staring? I knew I had toothpaste on my face. Am I wearing two different shoes? Is it too early to go for a drink? Maybe I should just come back later.”


      What others are thinking: “It looks like it’s going to rain again today.”

      going to bar

        4. Going to a party

        What you are thinking: “I knew I should have just stayed home.  Everyone looks like they know each other.  What if I don’t have anything funny to say? They don’t like me, I knew it.”

        What other people at the party are thinking: “This person is cute!”


        going to party

          5. Running into an Acquaintance

          What you are thinking: “What should I say, what should I say!?  Please don’t notice me. Talk about the weather. No that’s dumb. Talk about politics. WHAT ABOUT POLITICS?  It sucks maybe?  Argh…Why is it so hard to have a conversation? ”

          What the acquaintance is thinking: “Did she get a new haircut?”



            6. Coming Home

            What you are thinking: “ FREEDOM. People suck. I missed you bed. What series shall I watch? I’m hungry. Takeout? But then I have to go outside… No.”

            coming home

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              How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

              How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

              If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

              Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

              So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.


              1. Listen

              Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

              2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

              Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

              “Why do you want to do that?”


              “What makes you so excited about it?”

              “How long has that been your dream?”

              You need this information the help you with the following steps.


              3. Encourage

              This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

              4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

              After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

              5. Dream

              This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.


              6. Ask How You Can Help

              Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

              7. Follow Up

              Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

              Final Thoughts

              By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

              Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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