Only People With Social Anxiety Would Understand This

Only People With Social Anxiety Would Understand This

Do you remember  the last time  you had butterflies flapping in your stomach? When your heart was thumping so fast you thought it would come out of your chest?  When your palms turned clammy? These are sensations that as many as 1 in 10 people experience on a near daily basis. Social anxiety disorder or social phobia can be a crippling thing to live with. It’s when an individual has a higher-than-usual fear of dealing with everyday social interactions like the following.

1. Your phone rings

What you are thinking: “Stop ringing. Stop ringing… STOP…please?  Why did I choose the ringtone? It sounds like an ambulance on drugs. People are staring! SHUTUP SHUTUP.”

What others are thinking: “Is that my phone? Nope. Cool.”


answering the phone

    2. Going Out to Eat

    What you are thinking: “What to eat what to eat what to e-. OKAY, say something. Yes I DO want fries with that. But I can’t say that now, she’s already done my order. She’ll think I’m an idiot. I’m holding up the queue. I’m never coming back here… ”

    What the cashier is thinking: “Next!”

    going out to eat

      3. Going to a Bar

      What you are thinking: “Why are they staring? I knew I had toothpaste on my face. Am I wearing two different shoes? Is it too early to go for a drink? Maybe I should just come back later.”


      What others are thinking: “It looks like it’s going to rain again today.”

      going to bar

        4. Going to a party

        What you are thinking: “I knew I should have just stayed home.  Everyone looks like they know each other.  What if I don’t have anything funny to say? They don’t like me, I knew it.”

        What other people at the party are thinking: “This person is cute!”


        going to party

          5. Running into an Acquaintance

          What you are thinking: “What should I say, what should I say!?  Please don’t notice me. Talk about the weather. No that’s dumb. Talk about politics. WHAT ABOUT POLITICS?  It sucks maybe?  Argh…Why is it so hard to have a conversation? ”

          What the acquaintance is thinking: “Did she get a new haircut?”



            6. Coming Home

            What you are thinking: “ FREEDOM. People suck. I missed you bed. What series shall I watch? I’m hungry. Takeout? But then I have to go outside… No.”

            coming home

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              60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

              60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

              Sometimes it’s easier to focus on what we don’t have, rather than what we do have. It’s important to take time out and remember all of the things to be thankful for that many of us take for granted.

                Here you’ll find 60 very solid things to be thankful for in your everyday life. These are great reminders for you to treasure everything you have.

                1. Good Health

                Even if you’re health isn’t great, it could be worse and you likely still have some working parts to be thankful for.

                2. Money in the Bank

                Having just a few coins makes you richer than most people on Earth.

                3. Good Friends

                Often, it’s the quality of friendships, not the quantity.

                4. Freedom of Religion

                Being able to worship whomever and however you want is something many people don’t ever experience.

                5. Your Parents

                Even if they’re dysfunctional, they gave you life.

                6. Weekends

                There’s something magical about weekends.

                7.Having a Partner

                Being in a romantic relationship can teach you so much about the world and yourself.

                8. Pets

                Pets offer one of the best examples of unconditional love.

                9. Learning from Mistakes

                If we never made mistakes, we wouldn’t learn much so it is one of those things we should be thankful for.

                10. Opportunity to Get an Education

                The opportunity to attend school is something many people don’t have.


                11. Having a Home

                Whether you live in an apartment, a mansion, or a tent, having a place to call home is something to be thankful for.

                12. An Ability to Read

                If you’re reading this right now, you have a lot to be thankful for.

                13. Breathing Fresh Air

                Being able to step outside to breathe in fresh air is a good reminder how many little things we should be thankful for.

                14. A Bed to Sleep

                A bed is one of those things that’s easy to take for granted, until you don’t have one.

                15. Laughter

                Without laughter, the world would be a sad place.

                16. Safety and Security

                Being able to wake up without immense fear frees us up to really live life.

                17. Cars

                Without cars, it would take a lot longer to get our activities done.

                18. Sunshine

                The sun’s warmth can brighten any day.

                19. Time

                Although we often don’t think there’s enough of it, time is something we shouldn’t take for granted.

                20. Clean Water

                Many people on earth lack access to clean water.

                21. Cell Phones

                Cell phones make talking to loved ones easy.

                22. Love

                The world sure would be a different place if we lacked the ability to love.

                23. Books

                Books provide an opportunity to enter another world all from the comfort of your own home.


                24. Kindness of Strangers

                Never take the kindness of a stranger for granted.

                25. Campfires

                The simplicity of a campfire creates lifelong memories.

                26. Pain

                Without pain, it would be difficulty to appreciate life’s joys.

                27. Art

                The world would be less beautiful if art didn’t exist.

                28. Holidays

                Any reason to celebrate is something we should be thankful for.

                29. Freedom of Speech

                Being able to express your thoughts and feelings freely should never be taken for granted.

                30. Rainbows

                The beauty of a rainbow is unmatched.

                31. Tears

                Sometimes when there are no words to say, tears express how we feel for us.

                32. Waking up Today

                Simply waking up today means you have things to be thankful for.

                33. Indoor Plumbing

                Indoor plumbing not only provides convenience, it spares us from disease.

                34. Wisdom that Comes with Age

                Thankfully, we grow smarter over time.

                35. Mountains

                Mountains provide us with beauty and recreation.

                36. Eyesight

                Being able to see allows us to view the world’s beauty.


                37. Grocery Stores

                Grocery stores mean we don’t have to spend all of our time getting our own food.

                38. Sunsets

                Sunsets are a reminder that we should enjoy the simple things in life.

                39. Entertainment

                Entertainment gives us a way to relax and enjoy life.

                40. Your Mind

                Being able to think, remember, and solve problems sure makes life easier.

                41. Employment

                Even if you don’t like your job, being employed means someone thought you were special enough to hire.

                42. Diversity

                The world would be a boring place without diversity.

                43. Moon and Stars

                The moon and stars encourage us to dream.

                44. Electricity

                Electricity makes most of our chores efficient.

                45. Air Conditioning

                Staying cool on a hot day is something people wouldn’t have dreamed about in past centuries.

                46. Hearing

                Being able to hear your loved one’s voice is something that not everyone gets to do.

                47. Children

                Watching children laugh, grow, and dream can keep things in perspective.

                48. Ability to Learn

                The ability to learn new things means we have endless potential.

                49. People Willing to Teach

                Whether it’s your grandmother teaching you to knit or your plumber showing you how to prevent future problems, be grateful that others are willing to use their time and talents to teach you something new.


                50. Oceans

                The sea creatures in the ocean almost seem too mystical to be real.

                51. Modern Medicine

                Without advances in modern medicine, many of us wouldn’t be alive.

                52. Music

                Music brings out new emotions.

                53. Entrepreneurs

                Some of life’s best inventions resulted from an entrepreneur who was willing to take a risk.

                54. Warm Clothing

                On a cold day, there’s nothing more important than warm clothing.

                55. Freedom to Vote

                Being able to have a say in the laws should never be taken for granted.

                56. An Internet Connection

                It’s hard to believe how easy it is to take the internet for granted, seeing how none of us had just a couple of decades ago.

                57. Challenges

                Without challenges in life, we wouldn’t be the people we are now.

                58. Hiking Trails

                Hiking trails give us the chance to enjoy mother’s nature beauty.

                59. Vaccines

                Many of us wouldn’t be alive without today’s vaccinations.

                60. Armed Forces

                Our lives would likely be very different if we didn’t have protection from the armed forces.

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