Only People With Social Anxiety Would Understand This

Only People With Social Anxiety Would Understand This

Do you remember  the last time  you had butterflies flapping in your stomach? When your heart was thumping so fast you thought it would come out of your chest?  When your palms turned clammy? These are sensations that as many as 1 in 10 people experience on a near daily basis. Social anxiety disorder or social phobia can be a crippling thing to live with. It’s when an individual has a higher-than-usual fear of dealing with everyday social interactions like the following.

1. Your phone rings

What you are thinking: “Stop ringing. Stop ringing… STOP…please?  Why did I choose the ringtone? It sounds like an ambulance on drugs. People are staring! SHUTUP SHUTUP.”

What others are thinking: “Is that my phone? Nope. Cool.”


answering the phone

    2. Going Out to Eat

    What you are thinking: “What to eat what to eat what to e-. OKAY, say something. Yes I DO want fries with that. But I can’t say that now, she’s already done my order. She’ll think I’m an idiot. I’m holding up the queue. I’m never coming back here… ”

    What the cashier is thinking: “Next!”

    going out to eat

      3. Going to a Bar

      What you are thinking: “Why are they staring? I knew I had toothpaste on my face. Am I wearing two different shoes? Is it too early to go for a drink? Maybe I should just come back later.”


      What others are thinking: “It looks like it’s going to rain again today.”

      going to bar

        4. Going to a party

        What you are thinking: “I knew I should have just stayed home.  Everyone looks like they know each other.  What if I don’t have anything funny to say? They don’t like me, I knew it.”

        What other people at the party are thinking: “This person is cute!”


        going to party

          5. Running into an Acquaintance

          What you are thinking: “What should I say, what should I say!?  Please don’t notice me. Talk about the weather. No that’s dumb. Talk about politics. WHAT ABOUT POLITICS?  It sucks maybe?  Argh…Why is it so hard to have a conversation? ”

          What the acquaintance is thinking: “Did she get a new haircut?”



            6. Coming Home

            What you are thinking: “ FREEDOM. People suck. I missed you bed. What series shall I watch? I’m hungry. Takeout? But then I have to go outside… No.”

            coming home

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              7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

              7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

              When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

              You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

              1. Connecting them with each other

              Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.


              It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

              2. Connect with their emotions

              Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

              For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.


              3. Keep going back to the beginning

              Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

              On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

              4. Link to your audience’s motivation

              After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.


              Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

              5. Entertain them

              While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

              Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.


              6. Appeal to loyalty

              Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

              In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

              7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

              Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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