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Online communities and you

Online communities and you
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    Have you noticed over the last few years how many more communities you belong to online, and how isolated they are from each other?

    Last century, I could count on one hand how many active communities I belonged to: there was the town I lived in, but I hardly knew anyone. There was a couple of newsgroups I followed, until the crumbled under the weight of trolls, flame wars and above all else spam. There was the “developer community” – but it was never more than a convenient label for large company marketing purposes, developer conferences and the like.

    This century, I can hardly keep track of how many communities – almost all online – I’m actively a part of. Whether it’s online forums, Web 2.0 applications, social networking sites or blogs I frequent often or write; whether it’s venerable online communities like Flickr or the newest kid on the block, Twitter, communities are what the online world is fast becoming about.

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    And that’s causing a number of problems, with #1 being a productivity problem.

    Because in the rush to joyously connect with other people across the net who have the same interests, in the excitement of finding others who value what you value, look at the world as you do, have the same obstacles, concerns and small triumphs as you do, it’s easy to spend more and more of your time connecting and discussing, and less and less time working.

    Remember work? That’s the stuff that puts food on the table and that you bring to the table called life. It’s the value you create for others, not the value you consume. Being totally connected nowadays means being totally unproductive.

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    Managing your online community involvement wasn’t and isn’t a class you took in high school like Home Economics where you learned all the basic stuff of everyday life – but it should be. It is part of a new curriculum absolutely necessary for life now – call it the Digital Lifestyle, the Third Wave, or what have you – it’s another Brave New Problem for people living in the Brave New World online.

    So here are four questions you should ask yourself next time jump back into one of your online communities:

    Am I giving value? Lurking is fine for starters in an online community – and we’ve all done it. But there comes a time when you should step out of the digital shadows and start contributing. Not contributing little agreement comments, but adding to the conversation in a meaningful way by applying your perspective, your experience, your passion, your knowledge to the issues others have. What’s in it for you? Read on.

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    Am I getting value? Value comes in many forms – there’s information (too much), there’s other perspectives (can range from irrelevant to life changing), there’s connecting with people you would never have meet in the offline world. If all you are doing is soaking up information, images, video, what have you, you’re leaving most of the value of an online community on the table.

    Am I following up? Following up what you say you will do online is just as important – possibly more important – than following up what you do offline. If you say for example you saw just the info someone what looking for, make the effort to find it. If you meet someone online, make the effort to follow up. Above all else, build a process into how you work online so that when you find something of value to you, you take action on it, not just add another open loop to your life.

    Am I procrastinating? There’s nothing wrong at all with just hanging out with people you know and like online or off. But whether you’re hanging around the dorm lounge, the water cooler, the mall or the online community, it’s up to you to be honest with yourself – are you there because you want to be and should be or are you there because there’s something else you don’t want to do and should?

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    Finally, just about everyone whose online – especially me – need to get better at controlling when we are connecting and when we are disconnecting and working. Online communities are great, but it pays to take a closer look at yours and spend some time deciding what value you bring to each table and how much of your very finite time that community experience be.

    Bob Walsh sells MasterList Professional, a Windows task management application and writes, codes,
    podcasts and blogs about different aspects of the digital lifestyle at ToDoOrElse, MyMicroISV and Clear Blogging. His second book, Clear Blogging, is now available at Amazon and elsewhere.

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    Last Updated on January 21, 2020

    How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

    How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

    If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

    Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

    So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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    1. Listen

    Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

    2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

    Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

    “Why do you want to do that?”

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    “What makes you so excited about it?”

    “How long has that been your dream?”

    You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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    3. Encourage

    This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

    4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

    After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

    5. Dream

    This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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    6. Ask How You Can Help

    Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

    7. Follow Up

    Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

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    By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

    Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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