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Not Leading a Life of Passion? You Will After Reading This

Not Leading a Life of Passion? You Will After Reading This

Passion is: a “strong and barely controllable emotion.”

Passion is believing that you are one-of-a-kind and were born for a reason.

Passion is taking steps everyday to move towards your life purpose.

Passion is believing that every negative experience is part of the journey of the evolution of your soul.

Passion is contagious. Others will be drawn to you like bees to honey.

Conversely, lack of passion will drive others away. You’ll end up lonely and die with regrets.

Find your passions and pursue them to live a good life.

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1. Know yourself and then you can find your passion.

What do you like to do? What lights you up? What do you love to talk about every chance you get? If you weren’t afraid and if you didn’t care what others will thought of you, what would you be doing that you are not doing right now? “I’d quit my job and start my own business.”

If you are afraid quitting will put you in financial distress, what baby steps can you take to move one step towards a more passionate life? “I can research and read books about entrepreneurship so that I can prepare myself to quit my job.”

Enthusiasm for your next step is contagious and attractive. Others can help make your dreams a reality. When you mentally challenge yourself and go beyond the edges of your comfort zone, it can produce a state of flow that is bliss.

Just take the next step.

2. Figure out why you were born.

“The two most important days of your life are #1: the day you were born and #2: the day you discovered why you were born.” –Les Brown, motivational speaker.

“Your Dream Is Possible” It is your duty to figure out why you were born through making “lemonade” out of the “lemons” of your negative experiences. Combine this lemonade with your passions and you’ll find the lightening rod that will jolt you out of bed in the morning.

3. Don’t take your passions and talents for granted.

What comes easily to you does not come easily to others.

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I became a Success and Happiness Catalyst through connecting the dots of my life looking backwards. My negative experiences, pharmaceutical career, my passions in nutrition, self-image psychology, and Law of Attraction created my life’s calling to help others go from good to great and achieve success and happiness.

Jason, my 21-year-old son, took his electronic music composing and producing talents for granted until he realized he was one of the most talented musicians at Tufts University. The Universe gave him these talents so he can make a difference through music. How are you using the talents you were given to entertain or help others?

4. Do it for yourself and not for the purpose of seeking approval from others.

Seeking approval through “fake” passions or goals is a recipe for misery. Your “high” will be short-lived. The Paradox of Intention says: “You must have goals, but your happiness cannot be tied to those goals. You must be happy first before you reach your goals.”

You might find it hard to be happy first because of old emotional scars. The younger parts of you that hold shame, humiliation, and rejection make you seek validation and approval from others so they can feel they are lovable, worthy, and enough. You need to heal the old wounds so you can feel better about yourself. When you are happy with who you are, you won’t need to do things for the purpose of seeking approval from others.

If you need to overcome sadness so you can live a life of passion, read this post to “Overcome Sadness: 19 Simple Things You Didn’t Realize You Can Do.” Are you guilty of seeking approval from others? What are the emotional scars underneath your need for approval?

5. Meet others with a shared passion.

It’s important so you feel connected because love and belonging are hard-wired human needs. You can find like-minded people through the internet, forums, Facebook groups, LinkedIn groups, Meet-up groups, etc. If you don’t find a group that shares your passions, create your own.

6. Understand that failing is learning.

Thomas Jefferson failed at least 1,000 times (some say 10,000 times) before the light bulb was invented. Rejection is a part of life. When you pick yourself up after you’ve failed, you will gain more confidence to try again and you’ll be an inspiration to others. People who are successful knows the fastest route to success is through many failures.

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If you are afraid of failing, you have to address the emotional scars that has you frozen in some 6th grade memory when your teacher, father, or mother said you would never amount to anything. See point #4 above on how to overcome this fear of failure.

7. Use your passion to change the world.

Steve Jobs “People With Passion Can Change The World.”

Mark Zuckerberg of Facebook.

Dr. Mehmet Oz made talking about poop normal everyday language.

Lisa Nichols, a very inspiring, energetic, and charismatic personality. Watch her “Questions That Will Stir Your Soul” video.

David Wood of The KissAss Life. David has the #1 personal development podcast on iTunes. Downloaded by listeners from 200 countries, he has a beautiful “rags to riches” story and has turned his lemons into his lemonade helping others to live a KissAss Life. These gurus can inspire you to be a guru in your own community. How would you like to make a difference before you go to heaven?

8. Take classes, read books, and volunteer if you don’t know what you are passionate about.

One of these activities can help you find your your passion.

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9. Write about your passions through blogging.

There will be a readership for your point of view. You’ll be the leader and attract a following. Your life will be more exciting when you meet new people through blogging.

10. Lead a workshop on your expertise.

If you read five books on a subject, you are an expert on the subject. There is so much information on the internet that people will pay you to show them how to solve their problems in a clear and simple way. For example, “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” became a blockbuster because Steven Covey gathered concepts that were already known and packaged them in a way that was concise, simple, and actionable.

So gather your friends and talk from the heart about what you’ve learned and show them how they can improve their lives. No need for a formal PowerPoint presentation. If you find you enjoy doing workshops, then explore how you can take this further and make it your life purpose.

11. A life of passion will help you look and feel younger. 

Passion and purpose slow down aging. Passion creates happy thoughts. Happy thoughts create great moods. A happy and healthy mind will minimize the expression of your disease genes. Studies have shown that 2/3 of the world’s health problems can be traced to negative thoughts and beliefs.

Negativity will not give you the energy to pursue your passions. Negativity is a fuel for your body to turn on disease genes. Positivity and passion will turn on your health-promoting genes and slow down the aging process.

12. Use these resources to figure out what your passions are.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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