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Little Things You Do Can Keep You In A Good Mood All The Time

Little Things You Do Can Keep You In A Good Mood All The Time

Sometimes life passes us by so fast that it feels as though we are sitting in a train with our life sliding by like the scenery outside the window. With our busy schedules we tend to rush from obligation to obligation. Some days, we enter our office while it is dark in the morning, and don’t leave until it is dark outside again at night. We can start to feel like we are in a rut, and our life is being determined by others. We feel like we have no choice but to oblige the guidelines others set for us.

However, there are a number of things we can do to find the silver lining in our days. We can make small changes and practice self-care through nurturing habits. By cultivating good habits, we show our love and respect for ourselves throughout the day, and these little details can keep us in a good mood all the time.

1. Have enough sleep

Sleep deprivation causes us to be foggy-headed and unable to make good decisions in the short term. And in the long run it has a slew of bad effects on our health. Sleeping enough keeps us in a good mood and keeps our spirits high. As a bonus, you can make sure that you have an enjoyable bedtime routine.

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2. Exercise

Exercise gives us a rush of endorphins, and as such, gives a boost to our good mood. Besides, we know that exercising is an essential element of self-care. So pull out your yoga mat, tie up your running shoes or pump some iron—whatever works for you and feels good for your body!

3. Drink enough water

Avoid getting dehydrated, especially when you drink a lot of coffee in the office. Bring a big mug and fill it at the water fountain, or bring a few big bottles of water with you to the office. Sip throughout the day, and you might notice you get fewer headaches!

4. Keep a diary

Learn from your experiences in life by analyzing them in a diary. Use your journal as a place where you can dump whatever is going on in your mind. As nobody reads your diary, writing everything down can have the same effect as pouring out your heart to a therapist. Get it out, and you feel instantly better!

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5. Eat fruit and vegetables

Fruit and vegetables are packed with nutrients and vitamins, and will keep your body healthy. Moreover, fruits are light sources of energy. Fried fast foods can make you feel heavy and sunken into the ground, whereas fruits and vegetables make you feel energized and can contribute to a good mood.

6. Love

We are beings destined to love. Have you noticed in how many ancient religions the god or goddess of love was one of the principal players, and how in one of today’s major religions the deity is often seen as the lord of love? Love is essential to humanity. Infuse your actions with love, and you will increase your vibrations and mood.

7. Be thankful

This one ties back to keeping a diary. You can keep a gratitude list in your diary, so that you focus on the positive events in your life. By highlighting the things you feel grateful for in your everyday life, you will realize what you love about your life, be able to reinforce it, and keep pumping up your mood.

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8. Keep variety in your life

Nothing is as much of a bummer to your mood as always following the same routine. Spice things up a bit. Try out something new every weekend. Visit places and neighborhoods in your city where you’ve never been before. Cook up a dish you have never eaten, maybe from a country you have never visited. The possibilities are endless, and they will all bring a smile to your face and boost your mood.

9. Wear clothes you love

Regardless of where you go, who you are going to see and what you are going to do, dress to look and be your best self. Whenever you see yourself in the window or mirror, you’ll notice the effort you made in the morning, and you’ll instantly lift your mood.

10. Use essential oils that you enjoy

Take a little bottle with a mixture of your favorite essential oils dissolved in some sweet almond oil and demineralized water wherever you go, and spray this mixture on your wrists whenever you need a little pick-me-up. Use a burner in your house to diffuse a scent you love, and pump your mood.

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11. Disconnect from the internet after a certain time at night

Give yourself a curfew for the internet. It’s so easy to get sucked into the internet for hours on end—even cutting into sleep time—but it can leave us drained and feeling worn out. Instead, use a curfew time in the evening, and do something truly nourishing and relaxing afterwards. You’ll sleep better, wake up feeling better and increase your positive mood overall.

12. Learn something new every day

Just like your body needs wholesome food to be fueled, your brain needs continued challenges to keep on evolving. To tickle your brain on a daily basis, make sure you learn something new every day. Start learning a new language, watch inspiring TED talks, solve a riddle—just make sure you use your brain every day. You’ll feel invigorated, you’ll feel that you are continuously growing, and this will elevate your mood.

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Eva Lantsoght

Eva is a university professor and a professional structural engineer. She writes about achieving excellence and success in life on Lifehack.

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

For the original article by Celestine: 13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

“We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown

“It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

Have you ever experienced moments when things just don’t go your way? For example, losing your keys, accidentally spilling your drink, waking up late, missing your buses/trains, forgetting to bring your things, and so on?

You’re not alone. All of us, myself included, experience times when things don’t go as we expect.

Here is my guide on how to deal with daily setbacks.

1. Take a step back and evaluate

When something bad happens, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Some questions to ask yourself:

  1. What is the problem?
  2. Are you the only person facing this problem in the world today?
  3. How does this problem look like at an individual level? A national level? On a global scale?
  4. What’s the worst possible thing that can happen to you as a result of this?
  5. How is it going to impact your life in the next 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

Doing this exercise is not to undermine the problem or disclaiming responsibility, but to consider different perspectives, so you can adopt the best approach for it. Most problems we encounter daily may seem like huge issues when they crop up, but most, if not all, don’t have much impact in our life beyond that day.

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2. Vent if you have to, but don’t linger on the problem

If you feel very frustrated and need to let off some steam, go ahead and do that. Talk to a friend, complain, crib about it, or scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you happy.

At the same time, don’t get caught up with venting. While venting may temporarily relieve yourself, it’s not going to solve the problem ultimately. You don’t want to be an energy vampire.

Vent if there’s a need to, but do it for 15 to 20 minutes. Then move on.

3. Realize there are others out there facing this too

Even though the situation may be frustrating, you’re not alone. Remember there are almost 7 billion people in the world today, and chances are that other people have faced the same thing before too. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

4. Process your thoughts/emotions

Process your thoughts/emotions with any of the four methods:

  1. Journal. Write your unhappiness in a private diary or in your blog. It doesn’t have to be formal at all – it can be a brain dump on rough paper or new word document. Delete after you are done.
  2. Audio taping. Record yourself as you talk out what’s on your mind. Tools include tape recorder, your PC (Audacity is a freeware for recording/editing audio) and your mobile (most mobiles today have audio recording functions). You can even use your voice mail for this. Just talking helps you to gain awareness of your emotions. After recording, play back and listen to what you said. You might find it quite revealing.
  3. Meditation. At its simplest form, meditation is just sitting/lying still and observing your reality as it is – including your thoughts and emotions. Some think that it involves some complex mambo-jumbo, but it doesn’t.
  4. Talking to someone. Talking about it with someone helps you work through the issue. It also gets you an alternate viewpoint and consider it from a different angle.

5. Acknowledge your thoughts

Don’t resist your thoughts, but acknowledge them. This includes both positive and negative thoughts.

By acknowledging, I mean recognizing these thoughts exist. So if say, you have a thought that says, “Wow, I’m so stupid!”, acknowledge that. If you have a thought that says, “I can’t believe this is happening to me again”, acknowledge that as well.

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Know that acknowledging the thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. It’s simply recognizing the existence of said thoughts so that you can stop resisting yourself and focus on the situation on hand.

6. Give yourself a break

If you’re very stressed out by the situation, and the problem is not time sensitive, then give yourself a break. Take a walk, listen to some music, watch a movie, or get some sleep. When you’re done, you should feel a lot more revitalized to deal with the situation.

7. Uncover what you’re really upset about

A lot of times, the anger we feel isn’t about the world. You may start off feeling angry at someone or something, but at the depth of it, it’s anger toward yourself.

Uncover the root of your anger. I have written a five part anger management series on how to permanently overcome anger.

After that, ask yourself: How can you improve the situation? Go to Step #9, where you define your actionable steps. Our anger comes from not having control on the situation. Sitting there and feeling infuriated is not going to change the situation. The more action we take, the more we will regain control over the situation, the better we will feel.

8. See this as an obstacle to be overcome

As Helen Keller once said,

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

Whatever you’re facing right now, see it as an obstacle to be overcome. In every worthy endeavor, there’ll always be countless obstacles that emerge along the way. These obstacles are what separate the people who make it, and those who don’t. If you’re able to push through and overcome them, you’ll emerge a stronger person than before. It’ll be harder for anything to get you down in the future.

9. Analyze the situation – Focus on actionable steps

In every setback, there are going to be things that can’t be reversed since they have already occurred. You want to focus on things that can still be changed (salvageable) vs. things that have already happened and can’t be changed. The only time the situation changes is when you take steps to improve it. Rather than cry over spilt milk, work through your situation:

  1. What’s the situation?
  2. What’s stressing you about this situation?
  3. What are the next steps that’ll help you resolve them?
  4. Take action on your next steps!

After you have identified your next steps, act on them. The key here is to focus on the actionable steps, not the inactionable steps. It’s about regaining control over the situation through direct action.

10. Identify how it occurred (so it won’t occur again next time)

A lot of times we react to our problems. The problem occurs, and we try to make the best out of what has happened within the context. While developing a healthy coping mechanism is important (which is what the other helping points are on), it’s also equally important, if not more, to understand how the problem arose. This way, you can work on preventing it from taking place next time, vs. dealing reactively with it.

Most of us probably think the problem is outside of our control, but reality is most of the times it’s fully preventable. It’s just a matter of how much responsibility you take over the problem.

For example, for someone who can’t get a cab for work in the morning, he/she may see the problem as a lack of cabs in the country, or bad luck. However, if you trace to the root of the problem, it’s probably more to do with (a) Having unrealistic expectations of the length of time to get a cab. He/she should budget more time for waiting for a cab next time. (b) Oversleeping, because he/she was too tired from working late the previous day. He/she should allocate enough time for rest next time. He/she should also pick up better time management skills, so as to finish work in lesser time.

11. Realize the situation can be a lot worse

No matter how bad the situation is, it can always be much worse. A plus point vs. negative point analysis will help you realize that.

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12. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it

No matter how bad your situation may seem, do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it. Life is too beautiful to worry so much over daily issues. Take a step back (#1), give yourself a break if you need to (#6), and do what you can within your means (#9). Everything else will unfold accordingly. Worrying too much about the outcome isn’t going to change things or make your life any better.

13. Pick out the learning points from the encounter

There’s something to learn from every encounter. What have you learned from this situation? What lessons have you taken away?

After you identify your learning points, think about how you’re going to apply them moving forward. With this, you’ve clearly gained something from this encounter. You’ve walked away a stronger, wiser, better person, with more life lessons to draw from in the future.

Get the manifesto version of this article: [Manifesto] What To Do When Things Don’t Go Your Way

Featured photo credit: Alice Donovan Rouse via unsplash.com

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