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How to Write Your Way to a Smile

How to Write Your Way to a Smile


    Sometimes it’s just one of those days — one those days where you’re just not “feelin’ it”.

    You’re usually pretty happy on a daily basis and there’s nothing really terrible wrong in your life but you’re just in a rut and your mood is reflecting it.

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    That’s how my day was going today. Mopey. Unproductive. Annoyed. I had to make a change.

    So I decided since I wasn’t getting anything else done, I would start writing down why I felt like crap. Boy, did that turn out to be some good therapy.

    When you already enjoy writing and then start noting your feelings, you can’t possibly feel more at home.

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    Here’s how I turned my day around and then got a blog post out of it. Hopefully this will make you smile the next time you’re feelin’ low.

    1. With pen and paper, start writing a list titled ‘Why I Feel Unhappy Right Now’.
    2. List anything you can think of, as long as it’s actually relevant to your mood. Does it actually make you feel crappy to think about it? Then it goes on the list.
    3. When you’re finished (hopefully with no more than 10 things, if that), re-read your list. But the key is to try to change your personality to a good friend. The type of friend that you would want around to complain to who would give you the responses you really want to hear. We need a real sweetheart here.
    4. As you’re re-reading as a positive, complimentary friend, cross out the complaints with a different colored pen (signaling another voice on the page) and write what your response would be as the supportive friend. Write what you would want someone to say to you.
    5. No re-read the responses as “yourself”.
    6. Smile. You just overcame your negative thought process with a much more beautiful one.
    7. Move on.

      I was actually laughing by the time I finished reading my positive responses. Mostly out of shock that it was actually making me feel better, but also because I solved one of my problems with it. (The runner-up name for this post was ‘How I Came Up With This Blog Post”.)

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      I find myself often thinking ‘people don’t understand me’, ‘why should I share my feelings with people who probably don’t care’, or ‘I really don’t know anyone that could make me feel better’.

      The reality of it is, as anti-social as it sounds, no one knows you better than yourself.

      So if you can be your own friend in moments like these that are more of a petty need than something more life-altering, you ultimately make everyone happier.

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      Especially yourself.

      (Photo credit: Man Holding a Paper Smile via Shutterstock)

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      Last Updated on August 12, 2019

      13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

      13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

      Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life.

      Take a look at these 13 things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become mentally stronger.

      1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

      Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

      2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

      They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

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      3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change

      Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

      4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control

      You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

      5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

      Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

      6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks

      They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

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      7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

      Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it.

      However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

      8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over

      Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

      9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

      Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

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      10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure

      Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

      11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time

      Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive.

      They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

      12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

      Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

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      13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results

      Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.

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