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How to Nail Your Personal Introduction Without Sounding Shady

How to Nail Your Personal Introduction Without Sounding Shady

Whether you’re attending a conference, a networking event or a work function, you have mere seconds to make that vital first impression, so it’s worth giving some thought to your personal introduction.

Many business owners put a lot of time and effort into crafting a catchy “elevator pitch”, but in an effort to appear interesting, the message can often get a little lost. So, how do you create a memorable first impression without sounding fake? My advice is to forget practicing some 30 second pitch that’s supposed to make you irresistible and get back to basics. The elevator pitch is dead—the truth is, it was never that great to begin with.

Here are a few guidelines for nailing that all-important personal introduction.

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1) Relax & Focus

There’s nothing wrong with trying to impress so you can land the job you want or score a new client, but try to relax and be strategic in your efforts. If you buzz around the room dropping business cards all night, you’re not going to make much of an impact. It’s far better to focus on building relationships with a few people than making a quick sale.

Tip: Try to get hold of a list of attendees before the event and do a little research. This way you can focus your efforts and make sure you introduce yourself to the people you want to meet.

2) Talk less. Listen more.

Sometimes when we’re on edge or a little nervous we tend to babble or stumble over our words, so rhyming off a big spiel is a no-no. It’s best to avoid giving people chapter and verse as soon as they ask “so, what do you do?”. It can be a little overwhelming.

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There’s nothing wrong with simply stating the facts, like, “I work in real estate” or “I run my own marketing agency”. Feel free to elaborate if it’s appropriate or expected.
I’m a mortgage broker specialising in the commercial investment market.

I’m a web designer for online retailers.

I run a marketing agency for businesses wanting to grow their web presence.  

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Tip: I recommend that you press the pause button right here and wait for the other person to ask more questions before you go on. Remember this is a conversation, not a pitch.

3) Create a little intrigue

While you may be focused on having a conversation, we’re not forgetting that you need to use this opportunity to market yourself. You need to be ready for those follow up questions so you can tell people about your business or skills in a way that’s going to pique their curiosity.

Tip: Concentrate on giving people bite-sized snippets about your business or product. Don’t push information on people. Even if you deem them to be your ideal customers they may not agree (especially if you sell life insurance or anti-ageing cream!).

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As a first step, write down answers to these questions.

  • What problem do you solve for people?
  • What is the impact of your work? How does life change for your customers after they work with you or buy your product?
  • What do you believe in? What’s the message you want to give people about what you do?

So for example, if you’re an online marketing consultant, you might say something like.
I help professional services companies start online conversations with their ideal clients. I recently helped a client land a huge contract with a Fortune 500 company. I believe there’s way too much fear mongering around social media. Every company can benefit from having a social media presence. They just need to know how to use it to their advantage.

This is more conversational than the traditional elevator pitch and it conveys several important points about your business, namely.

  • What you do
  • Who you serve
  • The results you help your clients achieve.

When you feel more confident about your personal introduction, you can concentrate on building those relationships and having some fun.

Have a canapé for me.

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12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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