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How To Instantly Sound More Confident The Next Time You Make A Phone Call

How To Instantly Sound More Confident The Next Time You Make A Phone Call
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Today’s hack is simple, and effective. I use it almost every day.

The next time you leave a message on someone’s cell phone, press ‘#’ when you’re done. On 99% of cell phone carriers you will then be given an opportunity to listen to your message, and if needed, delete it to record a new one.

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Why should you do this? I’m glad you asked.

If you’re anything like me, you will be utterly shocked at how you sound on the phone. It’s probably nothing like how you sound in your head.

When I’ve listened to my messages in the past, I couldn’t believe that I sounded so depressed, sleepy, aloof, or annoyed (each of which came across at different times, whether I felt that way or not).

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People make all sorts of snap judgments when hearing your voice. Your tone, pitch, pace, and inflection conveys all sorts of meaning (far more than the actual words themselves).

Some common problems you can try to eliminate from your speech are:

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  • Saying ‘um’ and ‘ah’ more often than you should
  • Saying ‘like’, ‘sort of’, ‘maybe’, ‘you know’ or other filler words which can make you sound unsure or immature
  • Raising the pitch of your voice at the end of a statement (as if you were asking a question), which sounds child-like (try saying “My name is [your name]” and raising the pitch at the end)
  • Speaking constantly in the same tone of voice, which can make you sound boring and tired

If you’d like to improve your voice, I highly recommend Dr. Carol Flemming’s audio book, The Sound Of Your Voice.

In it she plays recordings of various job applicants, and you’ll instantly realize how powerful your first impressions are about each person. Some of them you are ready to turn away after hearing them speak for five seconds, and you can tell that they have no idea what they sound like! She goes on to recommend that you record your voice and helps you analyze it for problems.

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Personally, I didn’t have time to record my voice each day and review the recordings, but I had another source of voice recordings readily available: my voice mail messages.

Use this hack and I guarantee that…

  • You won’t sound anything like you think on the phone
  • You’ll start to see opportunities to improve
  • People will return your calls faster and more often
  • You’ll save yourself embarrassing moments when your first message didn’t come out right

Brian Armstrong is an authority on how to start a business. To learn how to get out of your 9-to-5 job, start working for yourself, and achieve financial freedom, visit his website at StartBreakingFree.com. You can also discover how to start a business in one month for under $100.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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