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How to Be Impossible to Turn Down

How to Be Impossible to Turn Down

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    Like it or not, much of our success comes due to the help of other people. The opportunities you get, jobs you hold, or fun and useful things you’re able to do often come because someone else was persuaded to bring you along.

    To take advantage of these opportunities, however, you’ve got to be able to ask, and ask well. Learning how to ask well, how to apply well, and how to persuade someone to give you a chance is a critical feature of being successful in any field.

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    Thankfully, it’s not a difficult thing to do. All you have to do is come across as completely and utterly irreplaceable. Simple, right? Here are a few tips to help along the way.

    “Because”

    So you’re applying for something. Don’t start your letter with “I’d really like to have this job.” Whoever’s reading your letter can probably guess that. Why do you want the job? Put a “because” in that first sentence – why is this job, in particular, the one you want?

    That “because” helps to set you apart, to show your passion and desire for the job. People want to work and spend time with people who want to be there. So why do you want this opportunity more than any other?

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    Be Unique

    Whether it’s a job, a school, or another opportunity, odds are good that if you want it so does someone else. When you’re asking or applying, make sure to remember what it is that you offer that no one else does. Maybe it’s an experience, or a class you took, or some characteristic of your personality that makes you different from all the other people. Highlight that.

    No matter what some people might say, there’s no rhyme or reason to standing out as an applicant or prospect – just focus on what makes you you, and different from everyone else. That’s what stands out.

    Provide Value

    A lot of people have a tendency to ask for help or opportunities as if they’re asking for some grand favor. “I’d be thrilled, and honored,” they sometimes say. While this isn’t a bad thing, you’re going to be more successful if you’re able to communicate that the benefit is mutua l- people are simply more likely to help you out if there’s something in it for them.

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    Remember what you have to offer, and make it known. If you get the gig, it’s not because of some grand show of altruism; it’s because you were the best for it, and you bring the most value.

    Be Confident, But Polite

    The point above can make it seem like you should always remember you’re the best, and should tell it to anyone who will listen. That won’t work either. Though being confident in your abilities and recognizing of your value is important, so too is remembering that you’re getting something out of it as well.

    Guest posts for blogs is a great example – you’re helping them by writing a post, saving them the work, and adding a new voice to the blog. They’re helping you by providing you published work, a link to your work, and some exposure and practice for you. You’re helping each other – be cognizant, and thankful, of that.

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    Opportunities offered by other people can be a source of major success for all of us. Whether you’re looking for a job, a gig, or a worthwhile experience, your success is frequently in the hands of other people.

    The key to landing these opportunities is to make yourself impossible to say no to. By remembering these tips, you’re in a position to make yourself incredibly hard to turn down, and the success you see in landing these opportunities will start to rise.

    What else can we do to set ourselves apart?

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    Last Updated on January 21, 2020

    How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

    How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

    If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

    Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

    So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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    1. Listen

    Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

    2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

    Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

    “Why do you want to do that?”

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    “What makes you so excited about it?”

    “How long has that been your dream?”

    You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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    3. Encourage

    This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

    4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

    After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

    5. Dream

    This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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    6. Ask How You Can Help

    Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

    7. Follow Up

    Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

    Final Thoughts

    By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

    Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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