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How to Be Impossible to Turn Down

How to Be Impossible to Turn Down

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    Like it or not, much of our success comes due to the help of other people. The opportunities you get, jobs you hold, or fun and useful things you’re able to do often come because someone else was persuaded to bring you along.

    To take advantage of these opportunities, however, you’ve got to be able to ask, and ask well. Learning how to ask well, how to apply well, and how to persuade someone to give you a chance is a critical feature of being successful in any field.

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    Thankfully, it’s not a difficult thing to do. All you have to do is come across as completely and utterly irreplaceable. Simple, right? Here are a few tips to help along the way.

    “Because”

    So you’re applying for something. Don’t start your letter with “I’d really like to have this job.” Whoever’s reading your letter can probably guess that. Why do you want the job? Put a “because” in that first sentence – why is this job, in particular, the one you want?

    That “because” helps to set you apart, to show your passion and desire for the job. People want to work and spend time with people who want to be there. So why do you want this opportunity more than any other?

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    Be Unique

    Whether it’s a job, a school, or another opportunity, odds are good that if you want it so does someone else. When you’re asking or applying, make sure to remember what it is that you offer that no one else does. Maybe it’s an experience, or a class you took, or some characteristic of your personality that makes you different from all the other people. Highlight that.

    No matter what some people might say, there’s no rhyme or reason to standing out as an applicant or prospect – just focus on what makes you you, and different from everyone else. That’s what stands out.

    Provide Value

    A lot of people have a tendency to ask for help or opportunities as if they’re asking for some grand favor. “I’d be thrilled, and honored,” they sometimes say. While this isn’t a bad thing, you’re going to be more successful if you’re able to communicate that the benefit is mutua l- people are simply more likely to help you out if there’s something in it for them.

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    Remember what you have to offer, and make it known. If you get the gig, it’s not because of some grand show of altruism; it’s because you were the best for it, and you bring the most value.

    Be Confident, But Polite

    The point above can make it seem like you should always remember you’re the best, and should tell it to anyone who will listen. That won’t work either. Though being confident in your abilities and recognizing of your value is important, so too is remembering that you’re getting something out of it as well.

    Guest posts for blogs is a great example – you’re helping them by writing a post, saving them the work, and adding a new voice to the blog. They’re helping you by providing you published work, a link to your work, and some exposure and practice for you. You’re helping each other – be cognizant, and thankful, of that.

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    Opportunities offered by other people can be a source of major success for all of us. Whether you’re looking for a job, a gig, or a worthwhile experience, your success is frequently in the hands of other people.

    The key to landing these opportunities is to make yourself impossible to say no to. By remembering these tips, you’re in a position to make yourself incredibly hard to turn down, and the success you see in landing these opportunities will start to rise.

    What else can we do to set ourselves apart?

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    Last Updated on September 20, 2018

    7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

    7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

    What do I want to do with my life? It’s a question all of us think about at one point or another.

    For some, the answer comes easily. For others, it takes a lifetime to figure out.

    It’s easy to just go through the motions and continue to do what’s comfortable and familiar. But for those of you who seek fulfillment, who want to do more, these questions will help you paint a clearer picture of what you want to do with your life.

    1. What are the things I’m most passionate about?

    The first step to living a more fulfilling life is to think about the things that you’re passionate about.

    What do you love? What fulfills you? What “work” do you do that doesn’t feel like work? Maybe you enjoy writing, maybe you love working with animals or maybe you have a knack for photography.

    The point is, figure out what you love doing, then do more of it.

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    2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

    Think about your past experiences and the things in your life you’re most proud of.

    How did those accomplishments make you feel? Pretty darn good, right? So why not try and emulate those experiences and feelings?

    If you ran a marathon once and loved the feeling you had afterwards, start training for another one. If your child grew up to be a star athlete or musician because of your teachings, then be a coach or mentor for other kids.

    Continue to do the things that have been most fulfilling for you.

    3. If my life had absolutely no limits, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?

    Here’s a cool exercise: Think about what you would do if you had no limits.

    If you had all the money and time in the world, where would you go? What would you do? Who would you spend time with?

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    These answers can help you figure out what you want to do with your life. It doesn’t mean you need millions of dollars to be happy though.

    What it does mean is answering these questions will help you set goals to reach certain milestones and create a path toward happiness and fulfillment. Which leads to our next question …

    4. What are my goals in life?

    Goals are a necessary component to set you up for a happy future. So answer these questions:

    Once you figure out the answers to each of these, you’ll have a much better idea of what you should do with your life.

    5. Whom do I admire most in the world?

    Following the path of successful people can set you up for success.

    Think about the people you respect and admire most. What are their best qualities? Why do you respect them? What can you learn from them?

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    You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.[1] So don’t waste your time with people who hold you back from achieving your dreams.

    Spend more time with happy, successful, optimistic people and you’ll become one of them.

    6. What do I not like to do?

    An important part of figuring out what you want to do with your life is honestly assessing what you don’t want to do.

    What are the things you despise? What bugs you the most about your current job?

    Maybe you hate meetings even though you sit through 6 hours of them every day. If that’s the case, find a job where you can work more independently.

    The point is, if you want something to change in your life, you need to take action. Which leads to our final question …

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    7. How hard am I willing to work to get what I want?

    Great accomplishments never come easy. If you want to do great things with your life, you’re going to have to make a great effort. That will probably mean putting in more hours the average person, getting outside your comfort zone and learning as much as you can to achieve as much as you can.

    But here’s the cool part: it’s often the journey that is the most fulfilling part. It’s during these seemingly small, insignificant moments that you’ll often find that “aha” moments that helps you answer the question,

    “What do I want to do with my life?”

    So take the first step toward improving your life. You won’t regret it.

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