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How to Tell Your Friends They Dress Badly

How to Tell Your Friends They Dress Badly

The way we dress says a lot about who we are as people. What we are wearing when we first meet someone is where they draw a lot of conclusions about who we are. Sometimes we have friends who don’t dress up to society’s standards and sometimes that’s okay. But other times it could affect their daily lives in finding romance, a job, or just making new friends. This could be either a fun or a really sensitive topic when confronting the person. But sometimes you just need to let your friends know that they dress badly.

1. Let Them Know You Care

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    This can be a delicate situation to handle. It’s always better to start out with how much you care and appreciate them. Make sure they know that you only want what’s best for them. Don’t make them feel like this is an intervention, even though it basically is.

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    2. Tell Them Why You Question What They Wear

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      It’s always good to explain that you question what they wear because it makes them seem a certain way. The crop tops your best friend wears may be a little too small for her, making her look a little too scandalous. Maybe the slouchy pants and stained t-shirt makes them look a little sloppy.

      3. How Their Appearance Affects Their Lives

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        Give them examples of how dressing sloppy could be the reason why they can’t find a good job or how their raunchy outfit is the reason why men don’t take them seriously. Bring up past experiences in their life and let them know that the reason why something happened is because they dress badly.

        4. Tell Them What Is Wrong With Their Clothes

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          Explain to them how their outfit is wrong. Let them know that the short skirt and crop top are too small for their body. Tell them that the plaid pajama pants with puppies on it aren’t meant to be worn out in public and the stained shirt is on backwards. At first, they might be offended but they’ll get over it.

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          5. Ask Them Why They Dress That Way

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            It’s always good to hear them out on their reasons why they dress the way they do. It could be because they’re really self conscious or maybe their grandma bought them that shirt. Whatever their reason is, help them get over it or through it. Be a good friend. After finding out why they won’t change, give them a reason to change.

            6. Tell Them How They Could Change

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              Explain to them that they could trade in their stained shirt in for a really nice floral top or the short skirt could be switched out for a flirty maxi-dress. Explain the difference and why one choice is better than the other. Help them find their actual style in a modest and subtle way.

              7. Give Them Inspiration

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                Make them watch reruns of TLC’s What Not To Wear. Find Before & After pictures of others in their situation. Read inspiring stories of how an outfit changed someone’s life forever. Inspiration helps people want to change, make them a Pinterest board if you have to. (And if they don’t know what Pinterest is, their may not be help for them at that point.)

                8. Ask Them If They Want To Change

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                  Make sure this is what they want to do because they want to do it, not because they feel like they’re being forced. When they do decide to change, make sure you’re there for them and willing to help. Don’t be the friend that nags them to change but doesn’t help. That’s unsupportive and what kind of person does that make you look like?

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                  Last Updated on December 2, 2018

                  7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

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                  When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

                  You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

                  1. Connecting them with each other

                  Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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                  It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

                  2. Connect with their emotions

                  Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

                  For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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                  3. Keep going back to the beginning

                  Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

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                  Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

                  5. Entertain them

                  While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

                  Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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                  Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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