Weddings are a beautiful way to publicly declare our love for our partners and establish a spring-board for a solid foundation for the future. For most women, it marks the most important day of their lives.
But if not handled properly, their dream can become a nightmare, and they can lose the joy associated with this special day.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
Today’s lesson will provide for a “happily ever after” start for today’s taxed bride.Advertising
*Wedding season is upon us.*
And there’s a new crop of “celebrity” that’s been making the reality TV circuit around this time, that you should avoid at all cost: her name is Bridezilla.
And she can get pretty scary.
*For those unfamiliar, “Bridezilla” is a combination of bride and monster, (Godzilla).*
She makes everyone’s life miserable in the course of planning her “big day” by taking a major stand on “small” issues.
This drama queen is characterized by unreasonable and unrelenting expectations.
And at the end of the day sister, you don’t wanna’ be her.
Instead of making this joyful event a celebratory occasion that takes into account the groom and the other wedding “investors,” everything evolves solely around Bridezilla.Advertising
Adding insult to injury, is her rude regard of service professionals, and hurt feelings she causes family and friends in the aftermath.
Of course, it goes without saying that any girl’s wedding day is extremely important; consequently it should ultimately be about her unique wishes and childhood fantasies. Within reason.
Consider the famous words of Dr. Phil: “Do you wanna’ be right, or do you wanna’ be happy?”Advertising
With this in mind, today’s Lifehack lesson is designed to help today’s bride create a “dream” wedding that doesn’t become a nightmare.
Consider it as a blueprint for good taste and good decision making.
This guide will help to reflect upon the big picture aspects of a wedding by attending to small details, while underscoring the importance of keeping proper perspective. It will also address the need for effective pre-planning.Advertising
Timely topics include: the who, when, what, and other related factors required for successful planning. You’ll also find stress and money management tips here. And perhaps most importantly, it will help the beautiful bride-to-be— not to “sweat the small stuff.”
If you’re on board, let’s begin “from this day forward“…
This lesson is free for the first 7 days, after which; to subscribe to the lesson will cost only $1.99. All other lessons will cost $1.99 too.
Last Updated on January 18, 2019
7 Ways To Deal With Negative People
Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.
But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.
1. Limit the time you spend with them.
First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.
In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.
Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.
2. Speak up for yourself.
Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.
3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”
This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.
But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.
4. Don’t make their problems your problems.
Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.
This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.
Why else would they be sharing this with you?
5. Change the subject.
When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.
Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.
6. Talk about solutions, not problems.
Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.
I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.
You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”
Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.
7. Leave them behind.
Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.
If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.
That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.
You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.