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How Insightful Comments Can Bring You Readers

How Insightful Comments Can Bring You Readers
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    Blog comments, and the practice of commenting in general, seems to have a weird mystery surrounding it. Is it like online chat and messaging, a forum, email, dinner conversation, or a networking function? Depending on the blog, it can be any, many, or all of these.

    Reg Adkins recently posted some excellent tips on commenting. From the standpoint of the small business blogger, or a writer looking to get some eyeballs on their stuff, his first tip – adding value – is key.

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    Good Point… Who Is This Guy?

    From the questions I get asked, many folks are confused as to what commenting is good for. To me it’s just like anything else in business, you provide something of value to someone, and chances are, it’ll be reciprocated. Add value to a blog post with insightful comments, and readers will want to know more. I’ve seen it happen in my own writing, and I do it all the time.

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    If I read a comment that makes a good point, or really adds to the conversation, I’ll check out the commenter’s site. 9 times out of 10, if I find many of their comments interesting, I find their blog interesting enough to subscribe to. And from what I’ve learned, I’m not alone. This seems to be a fairly common practice. I’ve found a lot of the blogs I subscribe to from comments on other blogs.

    So how can you make sure your comments are interesting enough to draw traffic?

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    • You have to have something interesting to say about the post in the first place. Rambling on about some off topic subject, that you just happen to be an expert in, won’t work. You end up looking like that guy at a party who keeps steering the conversation to topics he actually knows something about.
    • You have to actually contribute something. “Nice post” or “Like your writing” is not going to intrigue anyone. Using the dinner conversion metaphor, that’s like just popping your head in the window and saying “Hi. Nice house…” and leaving. You won’t get a lot of invites to other parties that way.
    • You have to be authentic. Whether you are agreeing or not, you have to be genuine. Readers aren’t stupid. They can pick up on the essence of your comment. If you don’t agree with the post, make you’re point, and do it politely and respectfully. Don’t badger, but be real. Trolling is not a good practice, but neither is sucking up.

    The idea is to approach writing comments with the same sense of contribution that you would writing for your own blog. You have something to say, that you think someone would want to hear. It’s all about communication – and adding value to the conversation.

    Tony D. Clark writes, draws cartoons, designs software and websites, and spends a lot of time talking others into working from home, being creative, and doing what they love. His blog Success from the Nest focuses on helping parents who want to do meaningful work from home and have more time for their families, and their dreams.

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    Last Updated on January 18, 2019

    7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

    7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

    Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

    But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

    If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

    1. Limit the time you spend with them.

    First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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    In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

    Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

    2. Speak up for yourself.

    Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

    3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

    This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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    But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

    4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

    Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

    This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

    Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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    5. Change the subject.

    When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

    Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

    6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

    Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

    I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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    You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

    Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

    7. Leave them behind.

    Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

    If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

    That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

    You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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