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How to Attract Quality Relationship Partners

How to Attract Quality Relationship Partners

Every soul needs a partner to go through life’s journey. It’s much easier to go through the bumps and shakes of the trip with someone by your side. Someone who can understand, someone who will listen to your woes and aspirations.

We all know — the world is not made of cotton candies and milkshakes. A lot of times, trials will come unannounced to kick you out of the road; however, with a quality partner, you can quickly hit the obstacles with your bumper out of the way.

That said, the ability to wade through the countless candidates and attract the best ones is a highly valuable skill. I got a goody here from stevepavlina.com. Let Steve Pavlina guide you through the process. I know you’ll take home tricks you can use to catch the lifetime partner you’ve been waiting for all this time.

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Go… light up the candle, grab a tall glass of your favorite drink, and turn on your player. Here’s the guide…

To attract a happy relationship, define what you want in a partner, tell the whole world, and then filter and select for matches.

It’s important not to waste too much time dealing with partial matches. Once someone has shared something about themselves that’s a mismatch for what you want, let go and move on quickly. Don’t try to force a mismatch to look like a match.

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So for example, if you desire a partner who’s vegan, geeky, and openly affectionate and you’re talking to someone who says…

“I love a good steak” … “You’ll dining alone then, Cruella.”

“I never kiss on the first date.” … “I never date anyone I haven’t kissed. Try 18thcenturydating.com — might be more your speed.”

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“Star trek? I dunno, I’ve never seen it.” … “Then you’ve got some catching up to do. Come back — 1 year.”

If you can avoid getting bogged down with mismatches, you’ll prove to the universe that you’re ready for the good stuff. But if you settle for a partial match that isn’t what you actually want, the good stuff can’t get through, and so you’ll be stuck.

Life loves to throw partial matches your way to see if you’re strong enough to reject them and to hold out for a real match.

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Last Updated on April 9, 2020

How to Think Positive Thoughts When Feeling Negative

How to Think Positive Thoughts When Feeling Negative

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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Learn How to Surround Yourself With Positive People.

2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

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4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

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6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

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8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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