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How to Attract Quality Relationship Partners

How to Attract Quality Relationship Partners

Every soul needs a partner to go through life’s journey. It’s much easier to go through the bumps and shakes of the trip with someone by your side. Someone who can understand, someone who will listen to your woes and aspirations.

We all know — the world is not made of cotton candies and milkshakes. A lot of times, trials will come unannounced to kick you out of the road; however, with a quality partner, you can quickly hit the obstacles with your bumper out of the way.

That said, the ability to wade through the countless candidates and attract the best ones is a highly valuable skill. I got a goody here from stevepavlina.com. Let Steve Pavlina guide you through the process. I know you’ll take home tricks you can use to catch the lifetime partner you’ve been waiting for all this time.

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Go… light up the candle, grab a tall glass of your favorite drink, and turn on your player. Here’s the guide…

To attract a happy relationship, define what you want in a partner, tell the whole world, and then filter and select for matches.

It’s important not to waste too much time dealing with partial matches. Once someone has shared something about themselves that’s a mismatch for what you want, let go and move on quickly. Don’t try to force a mismatch to look like a match.

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So for example, if you desire a partner who’s vegan, geeky, and openly affectionate and you’re talking to someone who says…

“I love a good steak” … “You’ll dining alone then, Cruella.”

“I never kiss on the first date.” … “I never date anyone I haven’t kissed. Try 18thcenturydating.com — might be more your speed.”

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“Star trek? I dunno, I’ve never seen it.” … “Then you’ve got some catching up to do. Come back — 1 year.”

If you can avoid getting bogged down with mismatches, you’ll prove to the universe that you’re ready for the good stuff. But if you settle for a partial match that isn’t what you actually want, the good stuff can’t get through, and so you’ll be stuck.

Life loves to throw partial matches your way to see if you’re strong enough to reject them and to hold out for a real match.

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How to Attract Quality Relationship Partners | Steve Pavlina

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

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