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Conquer Your Self Doubt with Two Simple Words

Conquer Your Self Doubt with Two Simple Words

Have you ever sat down and thought about why you haven’t accomplished what you want to in your life yet?

What’s holding you back from doing the things you really want to do, from achieving those life goals you set for yourself?

Do you have people around you telling you that you can’t do things? Are you telling yourself that you can’t do things? Are you forgetting to dream?

In order to be successful, you have to develop a mindset that you can do absolutely anything that you desire.

You’ve probably heard the saying “you can accomplish anything if you put your mind to it.” To me, this is an absolute reality for anyone. Your mind is an extremely powerful tool that you can use to catapult your way to success.

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Napolean Hill’s entire book, “Think and Grow Rich,” was based upon the idea that the most successful people in the world, people like Andrew Carnegie, Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, and many other great minds of the world, achieved their level of success because they believed so highly in themselves. They shaped and molded their minds to enhance that belief in themselves, and that success just became a part of who they were.

These two simple words were part of their every day life, as well as every successful person that has ever lived.

What were they?

“Why not?”

On the surface, it doesn’t seem like two little words can influence an entire lifetime of success… but they can. And here’s how.

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Self Belief is King

Think about the last time you really wanted to do something awesome, but for whatever reason, you came up short of your goal.

Why did this happen?

I can almost guarantee that your belief in yourself got in the way somewhere down the line. Whether this was due to an outside source influencing you, or whether it came from your own self doubts, it doesn’t matter.

All possibility of achievement comes down to you. You have to approach any kind of achievement with 100% self belief. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, change that belief.

Now think about the last time you accomplished a goal. You probably started off with a very positive mindset. You never had any doubt in yourself that you could do it. When you thought about what achieving that goal would entail, your mind naturally said – “Sure…why not?”

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That’s when saying “Why not?” can be so utterly powerful.

What you’re really saying to yourself is, “Why not? There’s no good reason I can’t do that.”

Your Self Assessment Gut Check

But this can also serve as a self-assessment gut check. If you find yourself starting to answer this gut check with excuses, then that means you don’t truly believe in yourself, and you must conquer those doubts before you can move on. Otherwise you’ll almost certainly come up short.

Don’t let those excuses get in the way of your goals.

When you feel doubt, “Why not” can serve as a reminder that there is nothing you can’t overcome to achieve your goal.

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  • Write a best-selling book? – Why not?
  • Run a marathon? – Why not?
  • Learn a foreign language – Why not?
  • Make a million dollars – Why not?

Sure, you’re not going to be able to achieve every goal you have tomorrow, but if you truly believe in yourself, “Why Not” will help you uncover any doubts you have so you can move past them, and it will also help you reassure yourself that if you put forth the effort, there is absolutely no good reason you can’t accomplish your goals.

Achievement is up to you. You are in control of your life and your success.

Want to live the life of your dreams? Awesome!

In fact, I say…why not?

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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