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Conquer Your Self Doubt with Two Simple Words

Conquer Your Self Doubt with Two Simple Words

Have you ever sat down and thought about why you haven’t accomplished what you want to in your life yet?

What’s holding you back from doing the things you really want to do, from achieving those life goals you set for yourself?

Do you have people around you telling you that you can’t do things? Are you telling yourself that you can’t do things? Are you forgetting to dream?

In order to be successful, you have to develop a mindset that you can do absolutely anything that you desire.

You’ve probably heard the saying “you can accomplish anything if you put your mind to it.” To me, this is an absolute reality for anyone. Your mind is an extremely powerful tool that you can use to catapult your way to success.

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Napolean Hill’s entire book, “Think and Grow Rich,” was based upon the idea that the most successful people in the world, people like Andrew Carnegie, Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, and many other great minds of the world, achieved their level of success because they believed so highly in themselves. They shaped and molded their minds to enhance that belief in themselves, and that success just became a part of who they were.

These two simple words were part of their every day life, as well as every successful person that has ever lived.

What were they?

“Why not?”

On the surface, it doesn’t seem like two little words can influence an entire lifetime of success… but they can. And here’s how.

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Self Belief is King

Think about the last time you really wanted to do something awesome, but for whatever reason, you came up short of your goal.

Why did this happen?

I can almost guarantee that your belief in yourself got in the way somewhere down the line. Whether this was due to an outside source influencing you, or whether it came from your own self doubts, it doesn’t matter.

All possibility of achievement comes down to you. You have to approach any kind of achievement with 100% self belief. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, change that belief.

Now think about the last time you accomplished a goal. You probably started off with a very positive mindset. You never had any doubt in yourself that you could do it. When you thought about what achieving that goal would entail, your mind naturally said – “Sure…why not?”

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That’s when saying “Why not?” can be so utterly powerful.

What you’re really saying to yourself is, “Why not? There’s no good reason I can’t do that.”

Your Self Assessment Gut Check

But this can also serve as a self-assessment gut check. If you find yourself starting to answer this gut check with excuses, then that means you don’t truly believe in yourself, and you must conquer those doubts before you can move on. Otherwise you’ll almost certainly come up short.

Don’t let those excuses get in the way of your goals.

When you feel doubt, “Why not” can serve as a reminder that there is nothing you can’t overcome to achieve your goal.

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  • Write a best-selling book? – Why not?
  • Run a marathon? – Why not?
  • Learn a foreign language – Why not?
  • Make a million dollars – Why not?

Sure, you’re not going to be able to achieve every goal you have tomorrow, but if you truly believe in yourself, “Why Not” will help you uncover any doubts you have so you can move past them, and it will also help you reassure yourself that if you put forth the effort, there is absolutely no good reason you can’t accomplish your goals.

Achievement is up to you. You are in control of your life and your success.

Want to live the life of your dreams? Awesome!

In fact, I say…why not?

Featured photo credit: Q & A via Shutterstock

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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