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Banking on Your Being Different: 7 Tips to Stay Away from Isolation

Banking on Your Being Different: 7 Tips to Stay Away from Isolation

Sometimes being too different may lead to sacrificing your social life. You might think that nobody understands you, and because of this, you might become isolated or feel like an outcast. But it doesn’t have to be this way!

There might be several reasons why you are different or considered unique. Maybe you have a different sense of fashion, you are a vegan, you have no family or you have a big family, you are a yogi, you don’t eat pizza, you had cosmetic surgery back when you were young, or you are debt free. Some people won’t understand until you reach out to them, but how do you start the process?

Some Tips on How to Reach Out

One has to deal with other people, maybe not now or tomorrow, but eventually, it will happen. There are lots of ways to do it and the first tip is to stay positive.

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1. Embrace your differences.

Your eyes may have a different lilt, your nose a different size or your voice a different tone, but you should be the one who should embrace your uniqueness. Never mind that you are being teased for those youthful mistakes you made. Never mind that you look red in a sea of blue people. It means you are unique and interesting.

2. See being different as a learning and teaching opportunity.

There are no little lessons that can’t be learned or can’t be taught. See it as an opportunity to help people. When they ask about your being vegan, explain, but don’t impose. If they ask you why you got a cosmetic procedure, outline your positive reasons.

3. Be your own company.

Never feel isolated–that’s the first thing that will lead to your isolation. If you feel lonely among the crowd, try to entertain yourself. Never retreat right away to any place alone.

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4. Be curious.

So if you feel alone, why not be the one to reach out? Try to meet or know other people. You aren’t the only one who is different; try to discover the differences in other people. Listen to them and see their beauty from within.

5. Find friends who will understand you.

There are just people in the world that will be able to tolerate your eccentricities and your differences, even though you yourself are not quite the same. They are for keeps.

6. Let people make choices.

When they want to drift away from you, try to reach out first. If it fails, don’t keep a heavy heart. They probably aren’t worth the effort.

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7. Make being different an advantage.

See famous people today? They are different. They think differently. They stood out, so you should too. You are unique, and that counts more than blending in.

Banking on these Advantages

People who are intrapersonal, strong and intelligent can really evolve into somebody who is interpersonally intelligent. An understanding of yourself can be the key to understanding people better. See these things as a jump-start to you growing and reaching out.

Many of your peers are there, waiting to be reached out to. Sometimes all it takes for you to emancipate yourself from total isolation from the world is a single step. A simple conversation, a useful tip or even a little compliment can never go wrong, as long as the other person is willing to open up too.

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It may be harder at first but then you will start to realize that who you are can contribute greatly to the world. Anything you do or have–tattoos, lifestyle, beliefs–they are all you. Many may not accept you, but at least give them a try. Reach out.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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