A Review of “The Minds Of Boys”

A Review of “The Minds Of Boys”

A Michael Gurian, Kathy Stevens book, published by Jossey-Bass, reviewed by Reg Adkins.

Michael Gurian begins the book by describing the current crisis in the education of boys. He takes careful steps to note the indicators of this crisis in detail noting facts including


  • boys get the majority of D’s and F’s
  • boys make up 80% of the discipline problems
  • boys make up 70% of the “learning disabled” students
  • boys make up 80% of the “behavior disordered” students
  • boys make up 80% of the children on Ritalin, et. al.
  • boys are a year to a year and a half behind girls in reading and writing
  • boys make up 80% of the high school drop outs
  • boys make up less than 44% of the college population

One must admit those are pretty stark facts.

The authors stipulate that these weaknesses developed as the result of the paradigm shift designed to make education more receptive to girls several decades ago.


The authors continue on to point out this is not a phenomena specific to the United States. Similar data is noted in England, Canada, Australia, Germany, France and Japan. Further, the authors state boys are outperformed by girls in thirty-five of the developed countries.

The next section of the book is dedicated to examining the functionality of the male brain and how it differs from the female in the processing of information.


At this point the book undertakes the examination a series of instructional techniques designed to compensate for the deficiencies in the current educational practices which highly favor girls. The theme of which is movement inclusive instructional methods.

Further, the book breaks the techniques into practices that may be applied by parents to stimulate brain function in boys. The follow-up is an examination of how teachers may implement these changes in the classrooms.


All in all, it is a pretty good read that has some excellent insight into (you guessed it) the minds of boys. However, I was struck by the frequent references to instructional techniques for girls. They seemed out of place. I don’t believe if I had read a book entitled “The Minds of Girls” it would have contained nearly as many references to techniques for boys.

The Minds of Boys: Saving Our Sons From Falling Behind in School and Life

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How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.


1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”


“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.


3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.


6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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